Apology

[kimbernee]

For several years I participated in this forum using the names tanyachrs, kimbernee, and chris0329, primarily in the How To forum but also in others. I made many postings that were mean-spirited, judgemental, or argumentative in tone. I assumed false identities and told lies.

I also spoke with some of you by email or instant message and was similarly arrogant, hostile, judgemental and dishonest. At times I held out a promise of friendship I never fulfilled. At times I stopped communicating with someone who thought they'd established a relationship with me without warning or explanation.

I offered my services as an editor and then critiqued your works of art in unsupportive and unhelpful ways.

I may have consumed time that would better have been spent with your family or significant other. I offered opinions on things I knew nothing about. I posted stories that may have encouraged inappropriate thoughts or behaviors in others.

My actions were selfish and usually fueled by alcohol. I was looking for attention and affirmation without offering any service to the community. I wanted your praise and ratings for my stories in order to boost my ego. I wanted you to agree with me or compliment my posts as insightful for the same selfish purpose. I was only thinking of my own needs. I didn't think about the effect my words and actions might have on others or on what I could add to the conversation that would be of use.

I may have caused some of you to feel attacked or judged by my posts and critiques. I may have caused anxiety or stress by arguing with you in a public forum or by questioning your opinion or worth. I may have suggested you make certain choices or perform certain actions that weren't in your best interest.

I'm sorry for these actions. I don't know any more about sex and am not any better at it than the average person. I have no business offering advice. I respect your right to make your own choices.

All works of art deserve to be respected and valued. If you've created something, you have my respect and praise for performing an act of emotional courage. I'm sorry for my past words to the contrary.

It's possible to be a part of an online community in a constructive way and to forge meaningful relationships online. I didn't do this and for that I'm also sorry.

I realize this is a simple apology that cannot really atone for any hurt you may have felt. If I interacted with you and you feel harmed, please PM me so I can apologize to you more specifically.

Thanks,
Dawn

 

[grrlongrrrl]

I never knew you before, but it sounds like you're on the right track. Good luck!

K

 

[Adrraiya]

For several years I participated in this forum using the names tanyachrs, kimbernee, and chris0329, primarily in the How To forum but also in others. I made many postings that were mean-spirited, judgemental, or argumentative in tone. I assumed false identities and told lies.

I also spoke with some of you by email or instant message and was similarly arrogant, hostile, judgemental and dishonest. At times I held out a promise of friendship I never fulfilled. At times I stopped communicating with someone who thought they'd established a relationship with me without warning or explanation.

I offered my services as an editor and then critiqued your works of art in unsupportive and unhelpful ways.

I may have consumed time that would better have been spent with your family or significant other. I offered opinions on things I knew nothing about. I posted stories that may have encouraged inappropriate thoughts or behaviors in others.

My actions were selfish and usually fueled by alcohol. I was looking for attention and affirmation without offering any service to the community. I wanted your praise and ratings for my stories in order to boost my ego. I wanted you to agree with me or compliment my posts as insightful for the same selfish purpose. I was only thinking of my own needs. I didn't think about the effect my words and actions might have on others or on what I could add to the conversation that would be of use.

I may have caused some of you to feel attacked or judged by my posts and critiques. I may have caused anxiety or stress by arguing with you in a public forum or by questioning your opinion or worth. I may have suggested you make certain choices or perform certain actions that weren't in your best interest.

I'm sorry for these actions. I don't know any more about sex and am not any better at it than the average person. I have no business offering advice. I respect your right to make your own choices.

All works of art deserve to be respected and valued. If you've created something, you have my respect and praise for performing an act of emotional courage. I'm sorry for my past words to the contrary.

It's possible to be a part of an online community in a constructive way and to forge meaningful relationships online. I didn't do this and for that I'm also sorry.

I realize this is a simple apology that cannot really atone for any hurt you may have felt. If I interacted with you and you feel harmed, please PM me so I can apologize to you more specifically.

Thanks,
Dawn

I have never known you under any name....
but I just have to say... I am IMPRESSED

It takes a very "big person" to make amends in this manner

I applaud you.

 

[cryforme1v]

i still say a very proud FUCK YOU.
Your appology is nothing to me, you worthless peice of shit.
yeah yeah forgive and forget - but you attacked the only person in the world that has even attempted to help me get over my issues and for that - you will never be forgiven.

 

[cryforme1v]

and if ur unsure about what i'm refering to - look at your "Previous Posts".
kthnx BYE!

 

[coastal-boy]

accountability is small step toward self forgiveness. But without it...you can never start that path.

 

[thirty]

i've never ever found anyone who changed himself/herself completely over night.

 

[DarkBee]

Hoorde ik daar een lama schijten?

 

[subwannabe]

Interesting. I know nothing of your past. It does sound like you have come to grips with reality and I congratulate you if you continue down this path. Sometimes it really isn't about getting forgiveness from those you may have wronged but more about how you feel about yourself. This may sound a little selfish but if you know deep down inside that you have really changed, you are sorry for what you did, and you are going to continue down a better road - then don't let it bother you if you don't get complete forgiveness. Put your past in your past, bury it, and make a new past by living your life better every day from now on.

 

[Chiara_searches]

i still say a very proud FUCK YOU.
Your appology is nothing to me, you worthless peice of shit.
yeah yeah forgive and forget - but you attacked the only person in the world that has even attempted to help me get over my issues and for that - you will never be forgiven.

May someone, someday have the grace to forgive you for your faults, your errors, your mistakes.

 

[Chiara_searches]

I really believe we have exponential growth when we are able to evaluate our past actions and seek forgiveness for them. It takes a wise person to say "I was wrong." You seem to be on a better path of knowing yourself. I hope your journey on this new road brings you more fulfillment, peace, happiness, joy, laughter, and love.

I wasn't part of lit in your past, but as someone in the world seeing you take a better step forward, all I can do is cheer for you.

 

[fgarvb1]

AA 12 step?

 

[IrisAlthea]

AA 12 step?

I was thinking the same.

 

[NestleSnipes]

May someone, someday have the grace to forgive you for your faults, your errors, your mistakes.

Well said.

Good for you Dawn.

 

[Leotard]

I was thinking the same.

Ditto.