Anyone?

[Stella_Omega]

A filthy mind and willing flesh are a dreadful thing to waste.

Totally sig-worthy

 

[rosco rathbone]

Moonwalks through the thread, meeting antimatter rosco halfway and dissappearing in a burst of gamma rays.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Moonwalks through the thread, meeting antimatter rosco halfway and dissappearing in a burst of gamma rays.

we told you to stay away from physics!

 

[His_pet_slut]

Totally sig-worthy

Why thank you. Done.

 

[PaulBlart]

A filthy mind and willing flesh are a dreadful thing to waste.

Aren't you the cunning linguist.

 

[His_pet_slut]

Aren't you the cunning linguist.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I love it when people use words the way they were intended to be used: For communicating ideas, pain, joy, and laughter. Y'all rock.

 

[StrayKat]

And once more, we see why careful and meaningful labels are important.

I always thought they were not, being somebody who could never fit much in any box. But I am talking to some people a lot lately and I indeed changed my mind. You are so right. For the sake of communication labels are essential.
I wouldnt get into McDonald's and just say "give me something to eat", I have to know the difference between fish-burger and cheeseburger at least so not to waste time and frustrate everyone. I am finding myself in very alike position now. Words like "sub" (starting to get allergic on that one) being thrown at me without any sense, assumptions, misunderstandings.

Even when I get tired of writing and explaining and just shoot them some links, I can see they understood next to nothing.
Somebody should write "BDSM for dummies" as a basic literature for too many "lifestylers"

 

[Loverskitten]

I always thought they were not, being somebody who could never fit much in any box. But I am talking to some people a lot lately and I indeed changed my mind. You are so right. For the sake of communication labels are essential.
I wouldnt get into McDonald's and just say "give me something to eat", I have to know the difference between fish-burger and cheeseburger at least so not to waste time and frustrate everyone. I am finding myself in very alike position now. Words like "sub" (starting to get allergic on that one) being thrown at me without any sense, assumptions, misunderstandings.

Even when I get tired of writing and explaining and just shoot them some links, I can see they understood next to nothing.
Somebody should write "BDSM for dummies" as a basic literature for too many "lifestylers"

I still don't think I fit in a box.... I'm sure I'll figure it out one day.
And yes, BDSM for dummies would be nice. I can't tell you how many times someone has told me, "shouldn't you do whatever I want because I'm the Dom" and this is getting old too, "you're naturally born submissive (you woman, grunt grunt) why don't you just accept that and give up wanting control"
Then I start explaining what I NEED before I will give control to anyone and they might as well have their fingers in their ears and go "lalalalala"

BTW "fish burger" hehehe cute

 

[Stella_Omega]

yeah... No one will ever find one label that fits them perfectly, no one fits into one box. These labels are situational. Of course we all wish we could find one perfect description for our selves. And,I think a lot of people feel cheated when they can't. They try to cut off the bits that don't fit into the box they've chosen.

"Capricorn." "Democrat." "Christian." "Domme." "Football Fan"

re: BDSM for Dummies, i was just recced on this book;

Come Hither: A Commonsense http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=probablpossib-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0684854627Guide To Kinky Sex

Looks like it might be worthwhile!

 

[Etoile]

Hah, I am a Capricorn, but I certainly don't identify as one!

 

[StrayKat]

Hm lets see.
Sagittarius and definitely identify as one.
Democrat, not in a bedroom.
Christian not really, catholic born atheist refugee.
Domme, yuck hate the word.
Football hate with a passion.
Who would have thought we differ so much...

Thanks for the link though, looks interesting

 

[MzRealFloFromTheHeart]

Wow

The responses I received for defending myself. Yes, rereading my reply to Sir W. I realized my errors. I know now to proof read. Now I was a little taken back when I read what Sir W wrote me. All I wanted was to receive some thoughts and feedbacks to my questions. No, I was not placing anyone in a group to be identified as...I am aware that ONE SIZE DOESN'T FITS ALL. I was not trying to offend anyone in the process for speaking my mind. That was not my intention to disrespect someone that's well like. Or to be a newbie in a different enviroment and offend anyone. So I apologize to anyone I offended.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Wow

The responses I received for defending myself. Yes, rereading my reply to Sir W. I realized my errors. I know now to proof read. Now I was a little taken back when I read what Sir W wrote me. All I wanted was to receive some thoughts and feedbacks to my questions. No, I was not placing anyone in a group to be identified as...I am aware that ONE SIZE DOESN'T FITS ALL. I was not trying to offend anyone in the process for speaking my mind. That was not my intention to disrespect someone that's well like. Or to be a newbie in a different enviroment and offend anyone. So I apologize to anyone I offended.

Your apology is, for my part, cheerfully accepted, and you get an apology from me. I was just a bit more than a tad snarky in my initial response ("Go back to middle and high school..."). That entire sentence could - and should - have been left out, and the message would have been as effective while not being offensive and insulting to *you.*

Welcome to Lit, and to the BDSM Talk and Café fora. I hope you find much pleasure (of at least the academic variety), information and fun here, and make loads of new friends. I've been here for a while now, and have found all of those things, and more.

 

[His_pet_slut]

Thank you for taking the time to come back, read and gain some understanding in the dynamics of this forum.

As you saw, we are rather big on respect and how words are used. We also like to have fun. It is really a pretty remarkable group of people. I hope you stay around, get to know us and let us get to know a bit more about you.

Welcome.

 

[ruby_my_dear]

It speaks to your character that you would take the reproaches and choose to apologize.
Welcome to the Lit boards. I'm looking forward to getting to know you.
ruby