Im married to a beautiful woman. She had limeted sexual experience prior to me. She could care less for me eating her pussy. I have been complimented by every person I have previously been with. I honestly CRAVE eating pussy! I love the taste, the smell, the heat against my face. What the hell do I do? I am frustrated, that shr doesnt like me down there.
Anyone have a woman who doesnt like oral?
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There are times I don't like oral as much as other things. Depending on my partner, I often prefer full on body contact as it feels more intimate to me. 69 would be okay if I didn't get so distracted that I forget what I am doing and either stop or get dangerous.
What you do is ask her why, if there is anything you can do which would make her like it, and if not you respect her wishes have sex without oral. I was just tell her, of she every changes her mind even its only for a one off, you would be happy to oblige.
Sometimes things look more appealing when the pressure is off and you have had some time to think about them.
Oh some women don't really have good nerve endings and oral is kind of irritating to them or so I have been told.
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was married to a woman
who hated when i ate her pussy....
thought it was gross
her close mindeness helps explains why we didnt get along
who hated when i ate her pussy....
thought it was gross
her close mindeness helps explains why we didnt get along
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I too have been with women who will not have oral performed on them what so ever. I am leaning toward the idea it is more of a trust issue than anything else. ...
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My wife begrudged giving and never made a sound or moved a muscle while receiving..and i know from others that I'm not bad at it!
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Then it must be something else......i dunno
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Dunno if this counts, but I was with a woman who was so damn ticklish that whenever I used to go down on her she would not stop laughing. So instead of having a romantic scene, we would end up having a comedy scene.
She was nice but I had to finally give up on her. Cant have a relationship without Oral
She was nice but I had to finally give up on her. Cant have a relationship without Oral
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Buy or make a spreader bar, blindfold her, and lock those ankles into place. If she gets squirmy slap her pussy until she behaves. Problem solved
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I don't like receiving oral at all. 69 makes it tolerable, because it gives me other things to concentrate on. Although the way I usually put it, 69 is just a good blow job ruined.
It doesn't have anything to do with trust or being afraid my nether regions are icky and smelly and ugly. It just doesn't work for me, leaves me physically and mentally blah. Sometimes there is no deep reasoning behind why people like or don't like some activities; sometimes you just don't like it because you don't like it.
I guess what might help you is telling her you really want to do it and love doing it. Compliment her when he lets you perform oral, make sure she knows how much you're enjoying yourself etc. And don't try to guilt or pressure her into it.
It doesn't have anything to do with trust or being afraid my nether regions are icky and smelly and ugly. It just doesn't work for me, leaves me physically and mentally blah. Sometimes there is no deep reasoning behind why people like or don't like some activities; sometimes you just don't like it because you don't like it.
I guess what might help you is telling her you really want to do it and love doing it. Compliment her when he lets you perform oral, make sure she knows how much you're enjoying yourself etc. And don't try to guilt or pressure her into it.
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Ttitan ..... that must be frustrating. Oral is such an important part of sex for hubby and me. Growing up, sex was not discussed at all and I ended up being very naive.
The first guy to lick my pussy was the guy who became my hubby. I was so surprised that I asked him what he was doing! He said to lay back and enjoy which I'm so glad I did.
If you are not doing this, I would suggest making sure that she is in a real sexy mood, start with lots of touching, then kissing all over until you reach her clit.
Mmmm, I'm getting wet imaging your tongue!
The first guy to lick my pussy was the guy who became my hubby. I was so surprised that I asked him what he was doing! He said to lay back and enjoy which I'm so glad I did.
If you are not doing this, I would suggest making sure that she is in a real sexy mood, start with lots of touching, then kissing all over until you reach her clit.
Mmmm, I'm getting wet imaging your tongue!
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My first gf in high school thought she was a liberated lady of the 70s. She refused to suck my cock or let me (learn how to) eat her pussy.
My wife used to perform oral (to completion) on me when we were dating. She gradually stopped doing that and hasn't in twenty years. She enjoys me eating her, but usually says no and makes me beg to do it.
I dream about having a woman who really WANTS to suck my cock to orgasm. Sometimes I hear about women who are so into it that they cum just from sucking cock. (sigh)
I have heard my wife and a female friend of hers talking about hating having a cock forced too deep and hating having their heads held and forced down. Also, they don't like the sensation of cum spurting into their mouth or the taste of it.
I can understand that, but I wish...
My wife used to perform oral (to completion) on me when we were dating. She gradually stopped doing that and hasn't in twenty years. She enjoys me eating her, but usually says no and makes me beg to do it.
I dream about having a woman who really WANTS to suck my cock to orgasm. Sometimes I hear about women who are so into it that they cum just from sucking cock. (sigh)
I have heard my wife and a female friend of hers talking about hating having a cock forced too deep and hating having their heads held and forced down. Also, they don't like the sensation of cum spurting into their mouth or the taste of it.
I can understand that, but I wish...
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*raises hand* I am one who doesn't enjoy it. *Shurgs* It happens. There are a lot of reasons I suppose, but they are all about me, not the other person.
Personally I think that is one reason that a lot of women don't like giving oral. Would you (not attacking you, just making a general statement) like something shoved down your throat when you have no control? With my wife, she really does not enjoy giving blowjobs. But she'll do them because she loves me and knows how much I love them (because she is so amazing at it
). I'll get one every other month or so. We've come to the agreement that I don't push her head down in any way and I let her control the pace. With her controlling the pace, she feels relaxed enough to deep throat me. For us it is a difference between her making love to my cock and me fucking her mouth. I'll take her making love to my cock any day.Now me doing oral on her is another story. I LOVE it and she could live without it. If I had to pick between giving and receiving oral, I'd give every time. She cums from intercourse just about every time and oral orgasms for her are not as good. She likes the great G-spot orgasms more than a clit orgasm. I think it is my fault though. I have a freakishly short tongue (really, it barely sticks out of my mouth
) so I don't think that I can do her the way that she would need. I've always had the fantasy of having a guy (or girl) go down on her to show her how good it really is.
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I didn't think there was such a thing as a woman who doesn't like oral.
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Haha this really made me laugh. But sometimes it does get ticklish. Actually, sometimes when someone goes down on me, the inside of my mouth gets really ticklish. Something I can't explain.
Dunno if this counts, but I was with a woman who was so damn ticklish that whenever I used to go down on her she would not stop laughing. So instead of having a romantic scene, we would end up having a comedy scene.
She was nice but I had to finally give up on her. Cant have a relationship without Oral
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I've tried to enjoy oral sex but it just doesn't work for me (love giving it, hate receiving it). The sensations are unpleasant and turn me off completely. I don't think there is any psychological issue behind it; it just doesn't feel good and while a guy is going down on me, my sexual arousal decreases and then disappears. I'd much rather use that time doing other naughty things...
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I didn't think there was such a thing as a woman who doesn't like oral.
Oh there is...mine does not like it. Prefers my fingers on her clit.
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I am glad that I am not the only female who does not like a man in between my legs, licking me. I don't know what the rationale is-- I just don't like the way it feels, and if the physical feeling could be tolerated: the emotional aspect of it is not tolerated well.
It has nothing to do with the man or his 'technique.' I have tried it. I don't like it. My legs clamp down, my belly gets tense. I start counting imaginary sheep.
It's pretty sad, especially when he looks up at me with those eyes above the mound like: am I doing a good job?
It's just awful for me.
It has nothing to do with the man or his 'technique.' I have tried it. I don't like it. My legs clamp down, my belly gets tense. I start counting imaginary sheep.
It's pretty sad, especially when he looks up at me with those eyes above the mound like: am I doing a good job?
It's just awful for me.
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To Sweepthefloor: I feel your pain! I used to think there was something wrong with me because I didn't enjoy receiving oral. It stressed me out to no end. One day I realized it was really simple: I didn't like oral on me, simple as that. Now I say it to my partner(s) up front and all that stress is out the window.
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I've been with a few ladies who don't like oral. I never did let it phase me, just had to try harder in different areas. To me it's like the fountain f youth. Told my wife it's like facial cream, takes away wrinkles, pimples, and age spots. She didn't believe me but still enjoys my talents.
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@ TTan:
Ask your wife is she is okay with you having oral-only partners. If she is not, then you must consider the equally unpleasant options of never having the joy of performing cunnilingus, or getting a divorce.
Sadly, far too few of us (note I say "us") ask important questions like sexual needs and preferences before we wed. If wishful thinking actually worked to changed a person, well....I would not be here.
Good luck. Maybe you can be supportive and patient enough that your girl will come around to enjoying your attention. But more likely, you will need to move on, or live without it.
Ask your wife is she is okay with you having oral-only partners. If she is not, then you must consider the equally unpleasant options of never having the joy of performing cunnilingus, or getting a divorce.
Sadly, far too few of us (note I say "us") ask important questions like sexual needs and preferences before we wed. If wishful thinking actually worked to changed a person, well....I would not be here.
Good luck. Maybe you can be supportive and patient enough that your girl will come around to enjoying your attention. But more likely, you will need to move on, or live without it.
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