Anyone for a nightcap?

[intothewoods]

Happy to hear it.

But, i think i am not alone when i say this...

We need pics!

Alas, no pics. I can't take the risk.

 

[intothewoods]

Alas, no pics. I can't take the risk.

Because I'm so famous!

Well, I'm sipping a little white because it went well with dinner. My little one is finally asleep, and it's very quiet.

 

[subkitty72]

Because I'm so famous!

Well, I'm sipping a little white because it went well with dinner. My little one is finally asleep, and it's very quiet.

gah.



i am jealous... no sippy, sippy for me tonight.

'Course...it's still early.

and there'a a 7/11 'round the corner.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

gah.



i am jealous... no sippy, sippy for me tonight.

'Course...it's still early.

and there'a a 7/11 'round the corner.

Cheap drunk/date if you are able to find a sippy sippy at the 7/11.

 

[subkitty72]

Cheap drunk/date if you are able to find a sippy sippy at the 7/11.

hey... i resemble that remark.



No sippy sippy tonight.

i'm drinking water.

UGH.

 

[intothewoods]

Cheap drunk/date if you are able to find a sippy sippy at the 7/11.

It's California. You can buy a wide variety of liquor everywhere.

How are y'all?

 

[Chris_Xavier]

It's California. You can buy a wide variety of liquor everywhere.

How are y'all?

I'm good.. you?

 

[intothewoods]

I'm good.. you?

Fine, fine.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Fine, fine.

Glad to hear it

 

[intothewoods]

I want to kill someone.

 

[Homburg]

I want to kill someone.

Someone specific, or someone random?

 

[intothewoods]

Someone specific, or someone random?

Someone random. I mean, I am angry at several specific someones, and am just angry enough to kill. Anyone. Doesn't really matter.

 

[subkitty72]

Someone random. I mean, I am angry at several specific someones, and am just angry enough to kill. Anyone. Doesn't really matter.

uh-oh. i think someone needs a drink...

all joking aside, are you ok, ITW?

 

[midwestyankee]

Someone random. I mean, I am angry at several specific someones, and am just angry enough to kill. Anyone. Doesn't really matter.

Mind if I ask for an itw pardon-in-advance? I'm enjoying this breathing gig and besides, we've never met and being murdered seems like such an unpleasant way to meet a beautiful woman.

 

[intothewoods]

Don't worry, midwestyankee. I don't really know how to kill anyone. And I'm actually not very violent. I'm just angry right now.


Thank you, kitty kitty. It's just been a shitty day. And the end of it was the worst. My ex had kidlet and he was kind of an ass about me getting their late when I called - because he had plans. Excuse the fuck out of me. That and other shit. Just tired.

 

[subkitty72]

Don't worry, midwestyankee. I don't really know how to kill anyone. And I'm actually not very violent. I'm just angry right now.


Thank you, kitty kitty. It's just been a shitty day. And the end of it was the worst. My ex had kidlet and he was kind of an ass about me getting their late when I called - because he had plans. Excuse the fuck out of me. That and other shit. Just tired.

Exs are assholes, generally. Yours seems to fall into that category as well.

i understand tired. i am leading a huge project at work and i just discovered something... my coworkers do not have the same work ethic as i do. grrrr.

i am having some champagne: Freixenet. Not White Star, but it will do for a Thursday. What are you drinking (since kidlet is gone)?

 

[JMohegan]

If "exs are assholes, generally" then ITW and every other separated or divorced person on this board is an asshole, generally, too. As a general rule, I don't buy it.

Anger and frustration come with the territory, no doubt. Totally understandable and surely a challenge indeed.

But my observation of divorced people (and I know many) is that those who become bitter and spiteful put their kids through hell. In contrast, those who find a way to maintain a more balanced perspective have much happier children overall.

This is true. In your heart, ITW, you know that's right. Unsolicited though this advice may be, I urge you to hold on to that fact.

 

[subkitty72]

If "exs are assholes, generally" then ITW and every other separated or divorced person on this board is an asshole, generally, too. As a general rule, I don't buy it.

Anger and frustration come with the territory, no doubt. Totally understandable and surely a challenge indeed.

But my observation of divorced people (and I know many) is that those who become bitter and spiteful put their kids through hell. In contrast, those who find a way to maintain a more balanced perspective have much happier children overall.

This is true. In your heart, ITW, you know that's right. Unsolicited though this advice may be, I urge you to hold on to that fact.

i was trying to sympathize with a friend, JM, however feeble the attempt, not trying to "sell" anything.

 

[JMohegan]

i was trying to sympathize with a friend, JM, however feeble the attempt, not trying to "sell" anything.

I am sure your intentions were good, and did not mean to imply otherwise.

Please consider that somewhere there may be a similarly well-intentioned friend, saying something like: "Exs are assholes, generally. First she complains about time away from her kid, and then she's late to pick him up. What a bitch!"

My intent was not to berate you, SK, but rather to help ITW keep things in perspective - even in the face of her justifiable anger and frustration.

 

[Netzach]

Why are you two drinking at 10 am anyway?

 

[JMohegan]

It may be 10 in the hinterlands, but here it's already quarter past 11!

 

[intothewoods]

If "exs are assholes, generally" then ITW and every other separated or divorced person on this board is an asshole, generally, too. As a general rule, I don't buy it.

Anger and frustration come with the territory, no doubt. Totally understandable and surely a challenge indeed.

But my observation of divorced people (and I know many) is that those who become bitter and spiteful put their kids through hell. In contrast, those who find a way to maintain a more balanced perspective have much happier children overall.

This is true. In your heart, ITW, you know that's right. Unsolicited though this advice may be, I urge you to hold on to that fact.

I do appreciate the concern, JM, and I assure you I would never let my anger and hurt get the best of me. Last night I was venting.

I was trying to figure out why your post irked me, and I think it's because I am surprised you would be under the impression that I would become bitter and spiteful, especially to the point where I would let it impact my kid. If I've given that impression, I'm disappointed with myself. I am a heated and passionate person, and I often get worked up in the moment. However, part of me coming here, or writing in my journal, or hashing it out in therapy, is venting and working things through in a space away from my ex, and my kid.

 

[intothewoods]

I am sure your intentions were good, and did not mean to imply otherwise.

Please consider that somewhere there may be a similarly well-intentioned friend, saying something like: "Exs are assholes, generally. First she complains about time away from her kid, and then she's late to pick him up. What a bitch!"

My intent was not to berate you, SK, but rather to help ITW keep things in perspective - even in the face of her justifiable anger and frustration.

My perspective is that we often have different groups of friends that sometimes serve different purposes. I know with my gal pal friends, I can sit around and have a glass of wine and shake my fist and be pissed off. They groan and grumble and say, he's behaving like a dick! I have other friends who would say, you're not being fair to Ex. They're the friends I turn to when I need a talking to.

And maybe the lesson here is that the friends who say, he's acting like a dick, know the context. They know my ex is an excellent father, and also human, and doing his best, and not evil incarnate. They know I know that too. They're just letting me bitch.

 

[intothewoods]

Why are you two drinking at 10 am anyway?

It was just a little schnappes. Geesh!

 

[intothewoods]

i was trying to sympathize with a friend, JM, however feeble the attempt, not trying to "sell" anything.

I appreciate your sympathy too, kitty kitty. I used to work with a guy who would always say - you found what? I don't buy it. It used to drive me mad, and finally one day I exploded, AND I'M NOT SELLING IT! Lol.