Anyone find it a catch-22 to hang around someone who's REALLY attractive?

[PowerLifter84]

I've been hanging out with this girl that works at the gym I go to and she's VERY attractive. So attractive that she is hit on quite often but she doesn't have a stuck up attitude, which usually accompanies being hit on quite often. We're going out the weekend after next to a dinner and a show and kind of wondering on how I should go about asking if she would like to hang out more often? She just got out of a relationship and I'm not really looking for anything serious (hell, not even sex), just someone to hang out with and have fun when I'm not at school or work.

Naturally I flirt A LOT and love to joke around but a few times when I have flirted, I don't know if she knew how to take it. Now I have backed off a little and just have casual conversations.

So, does anyone else find it a pain in the ass when it comes to this? Every other guy flirts and ask her out, and I'm left questioning on what I should say to her because I don't want to be put in that catagory as 'everyone else'. If I be myself and flirt a lot, it may possibly push her away and if I don't, who's to say that she might not enjoy some humour flirting?

 

[silverwhisper]

if you aren't looking for sex or a relationship, i'd honestly just go w/ you being you. should it become an issue, just tell her what you said: you aren't looking for a relationship or even sex just now, just someone to hang w/ and do stuff.

ed

 

[Sarojaede]

i would simply be honest with her up-front. if she hangs around you at the gym and knows that you are naturally a flirt, she is going to pick up on that you are holding back. so, explain that you are looking for someone to hang out with and talk to, that you don't want a relationship or sex.

 

[PowerLifter84]

I don't really think that I should come out and say, "Hey, I'm not looking for a relationship and sex", LOL. I already know she isn't with me, either. At least the sex part, who knows about anything else. Some others have said she might but I don't see it.

 

[silverwhisper]

if it comes up, you'll have a very hard time not saying it.

ed

 

[koalabear]

Once burnt, twice shy. Just give her time, she most likely is not over her last guy yet.