Anyone ever fantasize about their ex when masturbating?

[Gods_Favorite]

I broke up with my ex about a month ago, a few of the issues were she couldn't deal with me being bi and my sexual fantasies which included her being with other men. Now she has a new boyfriend already a guy she met at the gym and my biggest fantasy when I jack off now is her sucking his huge cock and him splitting her when he fucks her, I don't know why. I don't even like the guy but I fantasize about him fucking my ex and it gets me off really quickly, anyone else experience this?

 

[LadyVer]

God no. LOL My ex would be the last person I would be thinking about while masturbating.

 

[jgerru123]

I broke up with my ex about a month ago, a few of the issues were she couldn't deal with me being bi and my sexual fantasies which included her being with other men. Now she has a new boyfriend already a guy she met at the gym and my biggest fantasy when I jack off now is her sucking his huge cock and him splitting her when he fucks her, I don't know why. I don't even like the guy but I fantasize about him fucking my ex and it gets me off really quickly, anyone else experience this?

You need to get over her son

 

[Cumalong]

Yes I have. I thought "Damn, why did I ever marry her", and instantly lost my erection.

 

[eroticman61]

Yes I have. I thought "Damn, why did I ever marry her", and instantly lost my erection.

too funny dude

 

[klippert]

Yes....all of them...there was at least one thing that everyone of them did that is right there for the wonderful world of masturbation... even the evil cheating ex-wife.

 

[Somehowyou]

About 25 years ago my wife was having an affair. I caught her by going through her purse and i found some love notes that he sent with flowers. I was both eraged and turn on. As soon as I read the cards I got an immediate erection. My first thought was of a MFM 3-sum with her and her new lover. With her swalowing his cock and me going down on her. This was so confusing. All I wanted to do was fuck her and eat her. I was never so turned on in my entire life. She left me and I cried all night beating off into a pair of her panties. I was so hurt but so turned on.

We ended up getting back together when I stopped beggin and I told her to fuck off and I started seeing other women. It seems she couldn't live with someone else having me. (Lesson to be learned ou there.)

For the life of me I do not understand why I reacted this way. I have been trying to get clarification on Lit ever since. I have told hinted to her during sex that her being with someone else is a turn-on. WTF is this all about? I don't get it. I think it has something to do with instinct and survival of the fittest.

 

[MatthewVett]

I do sometimes, but it's just physical. Exes are exes for a reason, and it's better to get over them.

 

[Beck31]

Occasionally.

 

[edgerider]

oh?...

 

[Lost_Yonder]

About 25 years ago my wife was having an affair. I caught her by going through her purse and i found some love notes that he sent with flowers. I was both eraged and turn on. As soon as I read the cards I got an immediate erection. My first thought was of a MFM 3-sum with her and her new lover. With her swalowing his cock and me going down on her. This was so confusing. All I wanted to do was fuck her and eat her. I was never so turned on in my entire life. She left me and I cried all night beating off into a pair of her panties. I was so hurt but so turned on.

We ended up getting back together when I stopped beggin and I told her to fuck off and I started seeing other women. It seems she couldn't live with someone else having me. (Lesson to be learned ou there.)

For the life of me I do not understand why I reacted this way. I have been trying to get clarification on Lit ever since. I have told hinted to her during sex that her being with someone else is a turn-on. WTF is this all about? I don't get it. I think it has something to do with instinct and survival of the fittest.

you might start by letting go of the trite "biological" arguments to attempt to explain/legitimize your fantasy/desire. Particularly as it is kind of contradictory. If we were to go with the "survival of the fittest" kind of argument then we, men, would all be wanting to fuck other men's wives, rather than have them fuck ours. As well, if you read many of the postings on such threads, it seems many men are not at all turned on by the idea - now, whether it is there own sense of masculainity/emotional insecurity that filters those reactions, who knows.

Why is it an issue to be turned on by seeing one you love being pleasured? It seems a perfectly natural expression of love. Even if you take love out of the equation, then it is just the sheer ecstacy of pleasure - watching, being watched, sharing - why shouldn't that be perfectly natural?

Of course, what this has to do with exs I'm not sure...

 

[Tonka]

you might start by letting go of the trite "biological" arguments to attempt to explain/legitimize your fantasy/desire. Particularly as it is kind of contradictory. If we were to go with the "survival of the fittest" kind of argument then we, men, would all be wanting to fuck other men's wives, rather than have them fuck ours. As well, if you read many of the postings on such threads, it seems many men are not at all turned on by the idea - now, whether it is there own sense of masculainity/emotional insecurity that filters those reactions, who knows.

Why is it an issue to be turned on by seeing one you love being pleasured? It seems a perfectly natural expression of love. Even if you take love out of the equation, then it is just the sheer ecstacy of pleasure - watching, being watched, sharing - why shouldn't that be perfectly natural?

Of course, what this has to do with exs I'm not sure...

Pick up a any of the books by Rober Sapolsky.

Turns out here actually is a very good evolutionary reason for getting turned on by your woman getting fucked by another guy and then wanting to fuck her immediately.

I'll let you research it for yourself............or not.

 

[Somehowyou]

Thank you Tonka. An employee of mine split up his wife a few years back. he caught her having an affair and then after 6 - 12mos of counseling he caught her having two affairs at the same time. He could not deal with the feeling that were going through his body. He confided this to me one day. He told me about the discussion he was happening with his therapist regarding this issue. The therapist described this as a instinctive primal urge. He siad it helped him to understand and get over this feeling. I didn't have the guts to tell him about my break up and that I had the same feelings when dumped.

AND YES I AM SURE HE WANKED OFF TO HIS EX AS I DID MINE DURING THAT TIME.

Tank you Tonka.

 

[VA_Boy]

Yes. Here is my theroy. Unless there has been some unusual circumstance that made your break up horrible, time acts as a "positive" filter. The closer to the break up, the fresher your memories are. Hate, anger, disgust..whatever your reason is for breaking up, you could not think of your ex in a sexual way. Let a few years go by and the "bad" stuff goes away, leaving generally good memories (sex). Just my two cents, somebody will probably dispute this. That's what makes this country great

 

[LadyVer]

Yes. Here is my theroy. Unless there has been some unusual circumstance that made your break up horrible, time acts as a "positive" filter. The closer to the break up, the fresher your memories are. Hate, anger, disgust..whatever your reason is for breaking up, you could not think of your ex in a sexual way. Let a few years go by and the "bad" stuff goes away, leaving generally good memories (sex). Just my two cents, somebody will probably dispute this. That's what makes this country great

Makes sense. Unless your ex raped you.

 

[ReKio]

Every now and then. I did like him for a reason. But its only a physical thing now. and I feel stupid as soon as im done.

 

[VA_Boy]

Makes sense. Unless your ex raped you.

Yeah, that's why I said in the first sentence "Unless something horrible happened". In my line of work I have seen countless times how inhumanely people treat each other.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

You need to get over her son

I know, one of my biggest fantasies was for her to fuck another guy and share it with me, but now she is fucking someone else and we are not together at all, it sucks.

 

[eroticman61]

Every now and then. I did like him for a reason. But its only a physical thing now. and I feel stupid as soon as im done.

don't fel stupid, just be happy that you just had a climax...

 

[YDB95]

I do have one ex whom I used to fantasize about before I got married. Though she broke my heart, the sex that came before that had been phenomenal, and it was worth remembering. I no longer need to go to that memory as my wife is the one woman I've been with since then who tops the ex in question in bed. But in the meantime it was a fine memory!

 

[Emerson40]

Sure. There are a few exes that have account space in the old Spank-Bank.
They weren't always exes, and there were some very memorable and enjoyable experiences.
I've shared some of these memories/stories with the wife - and she's rubbed out one or two to fantasies that included her with an ex of mine, or me and my ex.
It's natural to get excited and turned on by sexy memories. Like mentioned above, unless you were raped or kicked in the balls repeatedly (that could also be your "thing" and gets ya spurtin'), there really isn't a problem.
Now if all you do is jerk off, and your only jerkin it to fantasies of her, get out some, meet some folks, and move on. Theres's plenty of other fodder to polish the dolphin to.

 

[L8tnIt]

I do sometimes, but it's just physical. Exes are exes for a reason, and it's better to get over them.

Damn Skippy, an Ex is an Ex for a reason. But to be an Ex, you were still involved togetherin some fashion... So something attracted you to them somehow, right?

That doesn't mean that whatever attracted you two (3,4, whatever) together still doesn't excite you now.

I have my own collection of Exes that I do fantasize about, even though I am happily married.
And I have my collection of Exes that I can even more easily fantasize about their demise.
Who doesn't?

 

[oggbashan]

All my Exs are in the far distant past (I've been happily married for 40 years!) but they can feature in my fantasies. Why not?

They were young. So was I. Although we parted for a variety of reasons, none of those partings was acrimonious. Hurtful? Perhaps at the time.

The feeling a few months later was more slight sorrow that we weren't compatible for a longer relationship. Because they were in the same group of friends as me, we kept meeting and could do so initially with some embarrassment but soon without friction as friends who were once more than just friends. If I wanted help or advice that they could give, or they wanted that from me - we could offer and receive it.

I'm still in touch with one Ex who became an Ex years before I met my wife. We still like each other but there is nothing more - except in my dreams when we are both young again.

 

[SissyPantySlut]

Not really an ex, but I do fantasize about the last girlfriend I had before I met my to-be-wife. Ours was a brief but intense and kinky sexual relationship. Neither of us were stable enough at the time to hold it together like a real relationship and it ended when she decided to move to Arizona. But damn thinking back on those nights gets me very hard in my satins.