Anyone ever decide to be celebate? If so, how did you do?

[PowerLifter84]

Last year I was opened up to the 'world of sex', so-to-speak and had a lot of fun. I wasn't a virgin going into '06 but my sexual expierence was rather limited. This past year I had been with more women than I intended to and in November, I decided to calm down and live the celebate life. Since then, it's been a pain in the ass and not even sure if it's paying off, LOL. The only reason I'm doing it is because I don't want to find a girl who has slept around a lot and I'm not going to expect something from a mate when I cannot do it myself.

It's been 3 months now and I figured after a month or so, that it wouldn't be as tempting but it seems to be getting worse. If anyone decided to go celebate, what did they do to keep their sanity?

 

[Cathleen]

I can't say I decided to be celebate but there was a period of time of no sex in my life but it wasn't a decision per se -- just a very long dry spell. Not unlike what's ocurring at the moment too.

Looking at it in a black and white frame doesn't leave room for real life... the gray part where life happens. Perhaps you can evaluate and examine your behaviors and find middle ground where you can actually live.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Must confess to trying, then getting so insatiably horny that I ended up sleeping with ladies I shouldn't have...

just trying not to repeat that mistake...

 

[pleasteasme]

I find that a fresh supply of Duracell batteries keeps me happy.



*really, I should buy stock in the damn company*

 

[M's girl]

If I take your reasoning into consideration I would say celebacy is not going to do you much good. And why would you want to be? You don't have to be a 'virgin' (nor do women) or can't expected to be (nor can that be from women) from a certain age on. Sex is a natural part of life.

The real question (IMO) is: why can't some people be more selective about who they sleep with and when. I personally would not mind to meet someone who was still a virgin (at my - and his! - age), but I would wonder... Also about his claimed celebacy I think (too drastic?). It sort of sounds like an AA-solution to me. It's saying "I had a problem with sex (could not help myself - though that sounds, eh, weird, in this case ) so it was celebacy or be wasted forever", you know what I mean?

I'd rather meet someone who has had a healthy sexlife where they did not just sleep with anyone who was available, yet had their "good" share of experiences.

That's just me though....

 

[NippleMuncher]

I was celibate for a couple of years in my mid 30's. I had gone from one bad relationship to worse (three total in 5 years ) and decided that a life change was in order. Part of that was to take sexual tension out of the equation, because the relationships I had had were initially based on plain old animal lust. I focused on improving myself esteem, career, and personal life. I didn't flaunt being celibate, it was just a choice I had made for myself. Being celibate doesn't mean you no longer have sexual desires, what it does is force you to re-evaluate why you're having sex and the type of people you've chosen to be with.

Again, it was something I did as much for self improvement as self preservation.

 

[DrHappy]

... The only reason I'm doing it is because I don't want to find a girl who has slept around a lot and I'm not going to expect something from a mate when I cannot do it myself...

You might reconsider your logic. I would suggest that you simply raise your standards with whom you would consider dating. Before sleeping with someone even becoming emotionally involved, decide whether this is someone

• you are compatible
• you think is a good idea to become emotionally attached to
• is she emotionally healthy and responsible
• would this relationship be good for both of you?

A relationship doesn't have to end in marriage to be considered successful. Find a happy medium for yourself and look for someone who has found a happy medium as well.