Any tips on writing first lesbian scene

[Rollinbones]

Find a lesbian. Ask her some questions. I had a lesbian friend once tell me that she really got off on gay male scenarios... Go figure.

People are inherently people. Quirk is quirk and the mechanics are simple. Focus on emotions and paint a picture from a characters perspective.

Invent a wierd sort of lesbian and let her tell the story.

Give her a voice.

Who knows. Maybe she'll know more about lesbians than you.

Get in her head.

 

[AlexBailey]

What are lesbians like?

Lesbians are as varied as anyone else.

There are doctors and there are lawyers, there are crooks and criminals...
Some are frilly and romantic, others are butch an mean.
Some are horny and on the prowl, others are chaste and meek.
Some are caught up in straight relationships, others are simply scared of men.
Some secretly long for dick, others wish that they were men.
Some are mothers and nurturers, others hate breeders and kids.
There are nerds and geeks, soldiers and roughnecks.
There are princesses and beasts....
Some like butterfly-kisses, others are into whips and chains.
Some are into gentle touch, others are into filling every hole.

I once knew identical twins where one was sweet and the other was a prick yet they popped each other's cherries.

Basically, there millions of lesbians and millions of stories to tell.

 

[Omenainen]

Lesbians are as varied as anyone else.

There are doctors and there are lawyers, there are crooks and criminals...
Some are frilly and romantic, others are butch an mean.
Some are horny and on the prowl, others are chaste and meek.
Some are caught up in straight relationships, others are simply scared of men.
Some secretly long for dick, others wish that they were men.
Some are mothers and nurturers, others hate breeders and kids.
There are nerds and geeks, soldiers and roughnecks.
There are princesses and beasts....
Some like butterfly-kisses, others are into whips and chains.
Some are into gentle touch, others are into filling every hole.

I once knew identical twins where one was sweet and the other was a prick yet they popped each other's cherries.

Basically, there millions of lesbians and millions of stories to tell.

In other words...women are people, too? Gasp! Who would’ve known.

 

[HeyAll]

Also, I'm a man that write a lot of lesbian erotica. My stories in lesbian do well and I often get the "i can't believe your a man" comment from women after they see my profile.

One advice I'd give is to write female characters with the same care and detail you'd use for male characters.

 

[mfan2112]

Also, I'm a man that write a lot of lesbian erotica. My stories in lesbian do well and I often get the "i can't believe your a man" comment from women after they see my profile.

One advice I'd give is to write female characters with the same care and detail you'd use for male characters.

Thanks everybody

 

[Bramblethorn]

Lesbians are as varied as anyone else.

There are doctors and there are lawyers, there are crooks and criminals...
Some are frilly and romantic, others are butch an mean.

Not to mention those who are frilly and mean, or butch and romantic...

 

[NotWise]

Not to mention those who are frilly and mean, or butch and romantic...

I could totally have a character who is frilly and mean. She'd be the lipstick-lesbian you'd never want to cross. But that -- except for her choice of partners -- wouldn't make her all that different from mainstream. She'd be like my paternal grandmother, or like my personal stereotype of the southern belle.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I could totally have a character who is frilly and mean. She'd be the lipstick-lesbian you'd never want to cross. But that -- except for her choice of partners -- wouldn't make her all that different from mainstream. She'd be like my paternal grandmother, or like my personal stereotype of the southern belle.

I was thinking more in the "hard femme" direction, frills combined with this kind of stuff, but that works too.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I was thinking more in the "hard femme" direction, frills combined with this kind of stuff, but that works too.

Whoa! You choose the best and the worst clubs, Bramblethorn .

 

[NotWise]

I was thinking more in the "hard femme" direction, frills combined with this kind of stuff, but that works too.

Ah, that's cute. If reminds me of Chloe's pink AR15 with the Hello Kitty decals.

 

[AlexBailey]

Not to mention those who are frilly and mean, or butch and romantic...

Absolutely.

I've known a lot of lesbians. It's the frilly and mean ones I'm wary of.

 

[AlexBailey]

I was thinking more in the "hard femme" direction, frills combined with this kind of stuff, but that works too.

I've got a daughter-in-law who carries a pink kubaton on her keychain that looks like a skinny aluminum buttplug. It's a hellacious weapon in the hands of someone who knows how to use it, even if they're only 5'2" and 100 lbs.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Whoa! You choose the best and the worst clubs, Bramblethorn .

And none of them will have me as a member.

 

[ElectricBlue]

And none of them will have me as a member.

It worked for Groucho Marx. Buy joke glasses .

 

[KelvinBlack]

Some really useful advice here.... thanks for asking the question!

 

[yukonnights]

You’ve gotten some nice advice, so maybe I’ll leave a comment that’s not so serious. What have you been writing up until now, gay male? If you can imagine a woman having sex, why can’t you imagine two? I don’t think it has to be so very fundamentally different and difficult and mysterious. So much depends on the characters and the story, actually I think more depends on the characters and story than gender.

I really like what Omenainen says here. (I highlighted the last sentence.)

The thing that too often gets overlooked when approaching writing a new topic the author has not personally experienced is; Not taking into account the diversity and uniqueness of the real life people who make up the population of that genre. In this case two women who are lesbians. Before anything else, create these two characters. Is this relationship a long term love — or is it a romp in the hay? Is it two neophytes on their first walk on the wild side — or two older women who are somewhat jaded by the unfulfilled hope of true love, yet still hopeful? etc, etc.

If you get the characters figured out, good chance they'll help you write the story.

 

[mfan2112]

I really like what Omenainen says here. (I highlighted the last sentence.)

The thing that too often gets overlooked when approaching writing a new topic the author has not personally experienced is; Not taking into account the diversity and uniqueness of the real life people who make up the population of that genre. In this case two women who are lesbians. Before anything else, create these two characters. Is this relationship a long term love — or is it a romp in the hay? Is it two neophytes on their first walk on the wild side — or two older women who are somewhat jaded by the unfulfilled hope of true love, yet still hopeful? etc, etc.

If you get the characters figured out, good chance they'll help you write the story.

Thanks for thoughts. That is what I did when I wrote Dakota's Surprise, my attempt to understand issues facing transgendered people. I am figuring out who my characters are and let them write themselves. Creating interesting people and let the situation happen to them based upon their complexities.

 

[jehoram]

I was going to suggest that you watch real lesbian porn, like the stuff that Abby Winters produces, but then I thought, "What does real lesbian sex have to do with porn?" I mean, I like to have sex scenes as realistic as possible, but I realized long ago that that's not what the readers want. They want reinforcement of their own fantasies about whatever they're reading.

So let's serve up what they want: big-breasted women with huge nipples and fuck-me smiles, who adore eating pussy and can orgasm in three strokes of their snatches, with nary a snicker or a qualm. Get those red "H"s rolling in.

 

[Damoiselle]

A dose of angst can make a story or sex scene more poignant sometimes, but I think the world is still parched for stories about same sex couples where the angst doesn't root back to their queerness.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I was going to suggest that you watch real lesbian porn, like the stuff that Abby Winters produces, but then I thought, "What does real lesbian sex have to do with porn?" I mean, I like to have sex scenes as realistic as possible, but I realized long ago that that's not what the readers want. They want reinforcement of their own fantasies about whatever they're reading.

So let's serve up what they want: big-breasted women with huge nipples and fuck-me smiles, who adore eating pussy and can orgasm in three strokes of their snatches, with nary a snicker or a qualm. Get those red "H"s rolling in.

I wouldn't be quite that cynical. IME there are plenty of readers in Lesbian Sex who are open to more Abby-Winters-y content. I tend to write very minimal physical description and I've never got the impression that LS readers hold that against my stories.

A dose of angst can make a story or sex scene more poignant sometimes, but I think the world is still parched for stories about same sex couples where the angst doesn't root back to their queerness.

True that. It's hard to separate them out completely if you're writing in a contemporary setting, because most RL queer people do have some degree of angst associated with living in an unwelcoming world, but I am starting to see more stories where the queerness is incidental to the angst. My current one probably fits the bill.

 

[Athalia]

I wouldn't be quite that cynical. IME there are plenty of readers in Lesbian Sex who are open to more Abby-Winters-y content. I tend to write very minimal physical description and I've never got the impression that LS readers hold that against my stories.

Don't mind him. He's just being Jehoram, jerking your chain for the fun of it. Some of the lesbian scenes he's written have been very tender and insightful. I don't think they're on this site, though, since some of them have characters that are under eighteen.

True that. It's hard to separate them out completely if you're writing in a contemporary setting, because most RL queer people do have some degree of angst associated with living in an unwelcoming world, but I am starting to see more stories where the queerness is incidental to the angst. My current one probably fits the bill.

And the lesbian scenes I've written are equally angst-free, I think. I refer you to my "Jessie, Michael, and Claire" series and the lesbian components of the "Hot Tub" saga, particularly this installment:

https://www.literotica.com/s/hot-tub-and-a-soul-sister

If there's any angst, it's the same kind that people get with heterosexual relations: Does this person like me? Am I going to screw this up? How long can this wonderful thing last?