Any long term marriages out there?

[FlamingoBlue]

How's your sex life with your mate? What do you do to keep it fresh?

My wife and I were on the brink of a very bitter divorce. We were angry at each other. Intimacy was long dead and our sex life was nil.

My wife bought a condo and moved out. We decided we still loved each other but couldn't live together. We split stuff up, pretty much, stayed married and lived happily ever after. Now my wife is my girlfriend and life is verrrry good.

That's my story. What's yours?


blue

 

[MADDOG]

My Dad had sex with my Mum (Who was his Sister) and I was the result. That of course also makes my mum my Aunt, and my Dad My Uncle. (Incedently, My sister is my fathers child that he had with his 1st daughter. I'm not quite sure how we are all related.)

For some reason, when I tell women that, they tend to shy away from relationships and marriage. I have no idea why. So no, I'm not married.

MADDOG

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Are you just being clever,

or are you for real, and I am sincere
in asking?

blue

 

[MADDOG]

LMAO!

 

[FlamingoBlue]

So am I!

You English guys are such suckers for feigned sincerity. Whenwill you understand that no one e;se cares about you. And that's no bollocks!!!

 

[MADDOG]

Where Did you get the idea that I was English? And where did you get the idea that I cared whyat YOU thought?

 

[Guest]

Now now boys. Let's get along!

 

[Shylady]

now boys behave!
but to answer the question. I have been married for 20 years and we still have a great relationship. Sex is better now than ever. Not sure how we keep things so good it might be that we actually like each other and were friends before we married. We have the same sense of humor and we want the same things out of life so that helps too.

 

[Gingersnap]

Shy Lady you are such a nice person how could anyone help but love you. Hey MadDog I'll marry ya sugar that is if I wasn't already totally gone on my guy... You are such a sweet aussie muffin!!!!

 

[Shylady]

Why thank you Ginger! I say life is to short to spend it being mean minded. My life is blessed so why not try to make people smile? Besides i love this site!

OMG how corny can i sound?

 

[Mr_Neb]

Married for 18 years and like a previous post, the sex has never been better. (See my bio for more about that.)

I think the reason for that is that the sex transcends just the physical act(s). If thats all it was, it would certainly get boring. Bringing new activities into the bedroom is always a good idea but if there is no personal connection, then no amount of sexual acrobatics will improve things for more than it takes for the novelty to wear off.

Mr. Neb

 

[Samtran123]

Married for 46 years and we still can’t keep our hands off each other. Although during all these years we have had sex outside the marriage but with the consent of the other partner. We have also had threesomes and foursomes.

 

[bala7400]

Married for 46 years and we still can’t keep our hands off each other. Although during all these years we have had sex outside the marriage but with the consent of the other partner. We have also had threesomes and foursomes.

Oh that's a great we love it

 

[screwher]

How's your sex life with your mate? What do you do to keep it fresh?

My wife and I were on the brink of a very bitter divorce. We were angry at each other. Intimacy was long dead and our sex life was nil.

My wife bought a condo and moved out. We decided we still loved each other but couldn't live together. We split stuff up, pretty much, stayed married and lived happily ever after. Now my wife is my girlfriend and life is verrrry good.

That's my story. What's yours?


blue

Mrs. Screwher and I have been together 35 years. High school sweethearts. She’s been my one and only. She had one boyfriend before me. He was the first to fuck her. But they didn’t last long. We started dating right away.

Four years in, my wife cheated on me. Almost ruined us but soon after I actually started to become aroused by her tryst. Years later she cheated again. She confessed to it and I confessed my desires. As a couple, we decided we both wanted her to continue having sex with other men. Since then three other men have fucked her!

 

[PFWilly]

55+ years hitched, 58 years as a couple. (Not always exclusive…lol)

Yeah, we’re old!

 

[anaughtywife]

40 yrs and it is still amazing, events early on helped us share a naughty side and explore together,,
we took each other's innocence. and met very young,, but we do have more than just a physical thing..
everything in life we share... still now the feelings inside especially at work when he is mentioned,,
we are lucky but I knew that the day we first met...
only he can open my naughty side.....

 

[Rollinbones]

Twenty years here. It is our third marriage each. there are ups and downs. Menopause has been a battle. But we still get the bed banging against the wall now and then.

 

[UnexpectedLuggage]

Nine years here. We don't have sex nearly as much as we'd like due to conflicting work schedules (she works days, I work graveyards), but it's still a great time when we can find the time.

 

[Nicenashguy615]

Wife and I have been together 26 years. We’re in our early/mid fifties now.

For many women, my wife included, perimenopause destroys libido. My wife will put out but it’s no longer enjoyable for her and becomes more of a chore. It’s not fun for me knowing she’s not into it. We talk and work on it but nothing short of a miracle will restore her libido.

Even early into our marriage, it was obvious we weren’t a fantastic match in bed. Never seemed to sync with one another as much as I would have liked. Talk only gets you so far when the root is more a lack of chemistry.

Maybe we should have parted early on but I felt an obligation to honor the commitment we made and more importantly, to be a good father and role model to our child.

So, the way I saw it early on, I had three options:

1) Put up with it. Keep trying to talk and work through it but people don’t really change and that’s a great way to build resentment on both sides with ultimately leads to the ugliest of divorces.

2) Divorce. Maybe it was the best option in the early years but there comes a point, financially, when a divorce after too many years means little chance of ever fully recovering. I just finally retired early at 52 and I have no desire to go back to work for the rest of my life because I lost half my pension and savings.

3) Cheating. As fucked up as it sounds, this turned out to be the best choice for me. Every five years or so, my needs would reach a breaking point so I found an outlet with long term (6-12 month) affairs. The result was I was happy as a clam and all my wife ever saw was how happy and content I was. I gratefully met her needs because mine were being filled elsewhere. Even after the affairs ended, I’d be smiling for the next year thinking about the good times. But eventually, those needs build up again. Resentment sets in, I’m not the good husband anymore and I know it’s time to find the next one.

I don’t think Human Beings are biologically designed for life long relationships. I’m chatting with a beautiful woman now who is in a perfect marriage yet she’s bored to tears and has online affairs with guys like me.

If I found myself single again, I’d never remarry. I might have a long term relationship with the right person but we’d live separately.

 

[skitzoid]

I have been married twice. The first was almost out of high school and lasted for 29 years. Sex and comitment on her part was fine. I wanted more sex, so destroyed the commitment end of it. That marriage ended when she died from cancer after a 5 year battle. Now, married to a fine gal for 24 years. Sex is going downhill and a plain bummer to me. But, to old to fine another. So,, make do with what I got.