Any advice?

[legoose99]

hey, i'm a virgin male, but i'm hoping to be giving my v-card away soon. Any advice for me or any other males in my situation? i'm straight just FYI.
If anyone is a bit shy, embarrased or worried about posting you can PM me or add me on yahoo, my username is legoose999.
Thanks in advance,
legoose99

 

[millieteases]

It's not a card to be given away it's one of life's special experiences.

Be kind, be sweet, be respectful, be careful. If you're not, you're just masturbating in her vagina.

Millie

 

[satindesire]

hey, i'm a virgin male, but i'm hoping to be giving my v-card away soon. Any advice for me or any other males in my situation? i'm straight just FYI.
If anyone is a bit shy, embarrased or worried about posting you can PM me or add me on yahoo, my username is legoose999.
Thanks in advance,
legoose99

A few tips for a guys:

Remember that women are built very different from men. Not only do we take longer to fully relax and get warmed up and aroused to have intercourse comfortably, but our headspace and emotions are just as important when it comes to sexuality. Being nervous, frightened, depressed or angry can ruin a woman's sexual mood very easily. Being comfortable with your partner and emotionally stable and happy is important to good sex.

Women have a very important sexual organ that no man should ever ignore. Her CLITORIS is exactly like your penis, and most women need direct clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. Open communication is the only way you'll learn what she likes in terms of stimulation and intercourse too, so you need to be comfortable with your partner in order to talk about sex. The only way you'll be a good lover for her is if you are both willing to talk frankly and openly about sex.

Remember, if you're too embarrassed to talk about sex, then you're not emotionally mature enough to have it.

Lastly: USE A CONDOM! I don't care if she tells you that she's on the pill, the birth control pill does not protect against STDs. You really do not want your first time, or any other time after that to be ruined by a pregnancy scare or the worry about a disease. Until you see a recent STD panel that proves your partner is STD-free, and you're ready to be a father, use a condom EVERY TIME.

 

[kromen]

Don't take tips from porno clips. They are made for fantasy, not instruction. Communication is key one, pretty much everything satindesire said.

 

[NippleMuncher]

While you shouldn't take losing your v-card lightly, it's also not the great big deal that so many put on it. What IS a big deal is having an emotional attachment with your partner, that is what makes all sex meaningful and worth while.

Don't take tips from porno clips. They are made for fantasy, not instruction. Communication is key one, pretty much everything satindesire said.

Definitely forget about anything you've seen or read in porn! Women don't react that way, and most don't like being treated that way either.

Remember, it's not the destination, it's the journey that counts! You're probably too young to understand this statement, but remember it well. As Satin offered, women are wired differently than us men, go slow, use lots of foreplay, and if possible give her an orgasm first, being your first time, you likely won't last long enough to please her otherwise.

 

[CWatson]

TELL HER. Make it absolutely clear that this is your first time. Yes, it's embarrasing, but here's the truth: you're going to disappoint. Your performance isn't likely to be great. That's not your fault, by the way; it's rare to excel at anything the very first time you do it. But that doesn't change the fact that you're not going to be able to give your partner the fucking of her life. Frankly, you're not even going to be able to give yourself the fucking of your life. You'll have other things to occupy yourself with.

So. With all that in mind. Do you want her to be expecting it and prepared for it? Or would you like to surprise her on the spot?

(Caveat: I too am a virgin--and, from the looks of it, am going to remain that way for all eternity. Thus, all advice to be taken with a grain of salt, because if there is one thing you can guarantee it's that I have no idea what I'm talking about. But, that's my advice.)

 

[fuckmeat]

I would say tell her. If she's also virgin, it'll take away most of the performance anxiety for both of you cause whatever happens, it'll be the best you've ever had. If she's not a virgin, she's likely to take control of what happens and lead you into it, which will also reduce the worry of feeling like you have to get all alpha and caveman about it.

Ok, for the rest of my post I'm going to assume you've been raised on Mars and have no notion of basic female anatomy. I also have no clue how much fooling around you've been doing. Please therefore disregard anything that sounds patronising and just focus on whatever may be relevant.

Less obvious erogenous zones: You can ease yourself into intimacy and nakedness gradually, there's no need to fling your clothes to the floor in a state of hyperventilating panic, face set with grim determination. Try to get the two of you relaxed and comfortable with sexual intimacy. Kisses to the ears, neck, throat etc can be very hot. The tummy can also be very sensitive, especially when she's aroused. The back of the neck/spine is another area to go for.

Breasts: Are neither radio dials nor bags of bread dough. Caress rather than grope. When playing with her nipples, start very gently. Some girls have very sensitive ones and others need less gentle stimulation so watch her reactions. Kissing her nipples should involve stimulating them with your tongue, flickering over them. Sucking can be too much for some girls so start gentle and don't get tempted to nibble unless she specifically tells you too. Seek reassurance as you go, ask her if what you're doing feels good.

That is your gold plated tip here, watch her reactions and respond to them. All women are different and knowledge is power. If you remember nothing else in the heat of passion, remember that. Oh and if you someday leave that woman and meet another one, be aware that the same info will not apply.

Clit:

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You'll want to touch and finger her down there but dry fingers on or in a dry pussy is not enjoyable for women. Instead get down there and take a good look, because mastering her pleasure is going to become the key to feeling justified in banging her rigid until you've got yours. Her clit is at the apex of her pussylips and until she's wet and aroused it'll remain covered with a little hood of skin. Kiss her labia and get her good and moist on the outside before you shove your tongue in between her lips and go to work on her clitoris. Rubbing it in slow circles with your finger is good and you can pick up speed later once she's moaning and squirming. Working your tongue over her in a circular motion can also work. Your codebreaker here though is the alphabet, I'm not kidding, bear with me. Trace letters over her clit with your tongue and then commit to memory the letter movements that she responds favourably to. Once you have a few moves that work, you can play around with speed and pressure. The clit can also be sucked and basically treated like the miniature cock it is. Just like with your equipment, consistent rhythm works once you find the right one.

Hopefully, at about this stage in the game you'll get a blowjob. Refrain from cramming your cock down her throat. Enjoy.

Pussy: Once she's good and moist with her own pussyjuice, you can finger her (though if she's also virgin you want to stick to one finger and be very gentle). Most women can handle two average sized fingers inside a wet pussy. You can fuck her with them, gently at first. You can also scissor them and you can go searching for her G spot, which should be situated on the front wall of her pussy. It is often identifiable by a rougher patch of skin. Many women swear they don't have one though, so keep your focus on her clit unless your explorations make her go pleasantly nuts. Don't be afraid to ask her to show you what she enjoys.

Try to make her cum but accept it's not the end of the world if it doesn't happen. Once you have lockjaw, wrinkled, aching fingers and your tongue is numb, you have officially put enough effort in. You can also get her to show you how she makes herself cum and then file away her own moves for future reference. If she's also inexperienced she may be to nervous to let go and cum. You could also ask if she has a toy that she uses to make her cum. Don't be threatened by toys, however well proportioned they are. Nothing is any substitute for the joy and intimacy of sex. The toy will keep her happy and sated until you're a sexgod, and then it can accumulate cobwebs in a drawer somewhere.

Asshole: Does NOT exist! Don't even think about it, no matter how curious you might be. Most women aren't into anal and virtually no woman wants you going near her ass when she's getting to know and trust you sexually. Even if you just try stroking her there, you'll put her on edge and kill her chances of orgasm. For the record, new girlfriends never poop or fart either. Don't refer to anything ass or bathroom related unless she does. There's an infinitesimally small chance she could beg you to fuck her tight little ring and should that happen, feel free to oblige. Then drag her to Vegas and marry her.

Teh Sex: Firstly, if you masturbate hard and frequently, ease off on that. Better yet, start working on stamina by slowly and gently bringing yourself to the edge, before easing back a few times. If you've told her you're virgin, she won't be expecting an epic performance and most guys start out as one minute wonders so don't get hung up about it. So long as you've spent plenty of time pleasuring her, she won't mind. Condoms reduce sensation a little, which can work in your favour. Practise putting one on in private, so you don't panic and fuck it up when the time comes. For the first penetration I'd advocate missionary, simply because it's intimate and allows you to keep assessing her reactions. Start slow, work yourself into her gradually and if you're well endowed, stop if you hit her cervix (neck of the womb) and ask her how deep is comfortable. Another good position is for you to lie down and let her go on top, then you can watch and learn while she gets her rocks off. Keep paying attention to her clit or encourage her to do so.

If you cum fairly quickly, don't worry cause it's perfectly normal. Remove the condom and clean yourself up. Don't try to keep the same condom on and then go again. Try to have something of a debrief while you're holding her and getting your breath back.