Another Question for the Dom/mes...

[cellis]

Here is the senario...

A few weeks ago Himself gave me a little task to complete which included taking some pictures of myself and having them in His inbox by the time He got to the office the next day....

He was very specific about what He wanted and expected me to do... and I did everything He required of me, except that I added one little bit that He had not requested.

The next day He asked me if I was trying to second guess Him. It never occurred to me that He would think this way. My thinking was that the thing that I did would just increase His pleasure even more. And I explained this to Him.

So I guess what I am wondering is how other Dom/mes feel about this.

Understand, that I am not trying to second guess Himself, I am only wondering if this has occurred and how others have address the issue. Himself has dealt with me and I would not have it any other way.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Here is the senario...

A few weeks ago Himself gave me a little task to complete which included taking some pictures of myself and having them in His inbox by the time He got to the office the next day....

He was very specific about what He wanted and expected me to do... and I did everything He required of me, except that I added one little bit that He had not requested.

The next day He asked me if I was trying to second guess Him. It never occurred to me that He would think this way. My thinking was that the thing that I did would just increase His pleasure even more. And I explained this to Him.

So I guess what I am wondering is how other Dom/mes feel about this.

Understand, that I am not trying to second guess Himself, I am only wondering if this has occurred and how others have address the issue. Himself has dealt with me and I would not have it any other way.

I would have responded exactly as your Master has done.
When I give an order or a direction I do not wish the submissive to improve upon on it or detract from it.
In My opinion when that happens the sub is subconciously saying they know better than I do what will please Me.
It actually pisses Me off and has been known to cause Me to say the famous..."you don't need My direction!" Dom/me yourself..enjoy!

I am not saying this to you personally cellis...I say it as a general statement.

 

[cellis]

Thank you Shadow.

I honestly never thought about anything but His pleasure and it never occurred to me that would be His reaction. (Understand, I won't be doing that again anytime soon.)

 

[Shadowsdream]

Thank you Shadow.

I honestly never thought about anything but His pleasure and it never occurred to me that would be His reaction. (Understand, I won't be doing that again anytime soon.)

~~smile~~ I do understand that and it is not unusual to be surprised when you hear that We are not delighted.
A valuable lesson learned that will never be forgotten.
So in the long run..perhaps it was a good thing?

 

[cellis]

It is funny, in all the time we have been together, I have not done anything like that. And yes, I was more than a little shocked to see that He was not pleased with me...

 

[Shadowsdream]

It is funny, in all the time we have been together, I have not done anything like that. And yes, I was more than a little shocked to see that He was not pleased with me...

I have a feeling the shock is coupled with sadness as you try to look within to see what caused you to divert from your natural behaviour.

 

[Guest]

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

 

[cellis]

Re: The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Cellis, obviously i'm not Domme, but i hope you don't mind me butting in.

I think it's all part of the learning curve. I used to second guess, but quickly learned that such behavior was not appreciated, or tolerated.

Mostly i did it because i was trying to please, or to try and make life easier, but it had the opposite effect.

Now i understand that my second guessing Him is me trying to control things, a subtle (or not so subtle?) form of TFTB - even if i didn't consciously mean it that way.

Oh foxy you are never butting in.

I hope that others like yourself share their experiences.

And yes, I do see that my actions were a subtle form of control. Part of my punishment if you will call it that, was to start this thread and discuss my actions with others. He knows how much I hate to be seen as "less than perfect".

 

[Ebonyfire]

The next day He asked me if I was trying to second guess Him. It never occurred to me that He would think this way. My thinking was that the thing that I did would just increase His pleasure even more. And I explained this to Him.

So I guess what I am wondering is how other Dom/mes feel about this.

Understand, that I am not trying to second guess Himself, I am only wondering if this has occurred and how others have address the issue. Himself has dealt with me and I would not have it any other way.

What an excellent question, cellis, really on the money.

I find that sometimes a certain eagerness may creep in. By that I mean the urge to please is so eager that a sub might forget that it is very important to follow directions to the letter. No more, no less.

"If I do this, and it will please _____, if I do even more it surely will please ____ even more.

In other words, the need to be the best and to please the best can mislead you into not following orders.

It is a matter of discipline.

Many times I ask a sub a question and they fail to answer it by adding too much information, in short not following the direction I have given them.

Ebony