Another date...

[Adrenaline]

Is everryone here a college student? (Other than the Junior High Schoolers...)

I'm in grad school. I am über-college.

I hand out a survey to potential dates. On it I ask if they liked the Da Vinci Code. If they say yes then I go shopping. Why waste a night on a useless date?

I considered doing a survey thing as a frosh after my illusions about intellectual, journal-reading, ambitious university males were rudely shattered. It never did pan out.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Oh, wait, Swedish fish are okay.

The GB is a lutefisk-free zone.
Don't make me make up stories about moderators to bluff about enforcement.

 

[Adrenaline]

There's more to life than graceful exits. Just sayin'

I know but I've been trying to be a nicer person...since summer. Give people a chance, don't be so picky, be more understanding, try not to be so dismissive. Bad, bad idea.

 

[tortoise]

You are definitely not too critical. That conversation is rife with cringeworthiness.

 

[LukkyKnight]

cringeworthiness.

Word of the day.

 

[tortoise]

Thank you, sir.

 

[capricious_chic]

I know but I've been trying to be a nicer person...since summer. Give people a chance, don't be so picky, be more understanding, try not to be so dismissive. Bad, bad idea.

Me too! Doing the whole dating outside my comfort zone thing. I've come to realize that I like it much better inside of my comfort zone. At least I understand those guys.

 

[Adrenaline]

You are definitely not too critical. That conversation is rife with cringeworthiness.

Disaster written all over it. I didn't even mention his tendency to reduce everything to sex. To paraphrase: "Oh, you worry about grades? They're arbitrary. Must be a woman thing. You're that squeamy about vomiting? What are you going to do when you have a baby? Must be a woman thing."

Those were the mildest.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Those were the mildest.

And yet you felt compelled to be graceful? Must be a woman thing.

 

[restlessnights]

Disaster written all over it. I didn't even mention his tendency to reduce everything to sex. To paraphrase: "Oh, you worry about grades? They're arbitrary. Must be a woman thing. You're that squeamy about vomiting? What are you going to do when you have a baby? Must be a woman thing."

Those were the mildest.

Oh my god. That should have given you a horrible migraine. No other excuse needed.

 

[Adrenaline]

Me too! Doing the whole dating outside my comfort zone thing. I've come to realize that I like it much better inside of my comfort zone. At least I understand those guys.

Indeed. Being accommodating is often completely overrated.

And yet you felt compelled to be graceful? Must be a woman thing.

Hahahahahahaha. This happened after the movie and after calling him on it I gave an exaggerate yawn and sped to the car.

 

[mrtnmoon]

Me too! Doing the whole dating outside my comfort zone thing. I've come to realize that I like it much better inside of my comfort zone. At least I understand those guys.

what's your comfort zone?

 

[capricious_chic]

what's your comfort zone?

Typically - sarcastic bastards w/wit and geeky intelligence, 5'6" - 5'8" and w/in 5 years of my age.

 

[Adrenaline]

Oh my god. That should have given you a horrible migraine. No other excuse needed.

I had to pour in a little rum and add lots of whip cream to my hot chocolate, at home, to help in the recovery.

Older men are starting to look a lot better now. Even the creepy ones.

 

[richard_daily]

Another dud. I am too critical, I think.

After discussion on film tastes

Him: I forget...is your major philosophy?

Me: No, Poli Sci. Why?

Him: Oh. I figured it would be philosophy. You like to think.

Me:....*disbelieving chuckle* what?

Him: You like films that make you think.

Me: Oh well, sometimes, yes but--

Him: I don't really see the point in sub-title films. I don't like to read when I go to the movies.

(pause)

Me: *nods silently*

Him: I mean if I'm going to read, might as well get a book right? *laughs*

Me: Right. Same thing.

Him: Not that I'm a big reader. I'm done with that thank god, now that I'm a working man.

Me: Of course.

Him: Not that I mind reading, I know you like it. Have you ever read the Da Vinci Code? That was fucking great and pretty important.

Me: So when are we gonna see the movie?

Ouch. I can definitely top that with the 28 year old communist I went on a date with who told me she was a virgin after dinner, and 5 minutes later said she had never kissed anyone.

 

[mrtnmoon]

Older men are starting to look a lot better now. Even the creepy ones.

let me know if you get to fat, bald and creepy.

re: the comfort zone question to CC. I was curious as to whether or not it was a physical or a personality thing. I guess it's a combination.

 

[richard_daily]

Typically - sarcastic bastards w/wit and geeky intelligence, 5'6" - 5'8" and w/in 5 years of my age.

Hi, I'm 31.. nice to meet you.

 

[capricious_chic]

I had to pour in a little rum and add lots of whip cream to my hot chocolate, at home, to help in the recovery.

Older men are starting to look a lot better now. Even the creepy ones.

All of the older men I have dated have led me to the conclusion that older men are bossy boots.

 

[capricious_chic]

let me know if you get to fat, bald and creepy.

re: the comfort zone question to CC. I was curious as to whether or not it was a physical or a personality thing. I guess it's a combination.

Definitely a combo deal. Although, I would say aesthetics are less important than personality. The right personality and it doesn't matter much how one looks. A hot body w/nothing else is boring.

 

[capricious_chic]

Hi, I'm 31.. nice to meet you.

You barely make it.

 

[richard_daily]

You barely make it.

SCORE!

 

[Adrenaline]

let me know if you get to fat, bald and creepy.

re: the comfort zone question to CC. I was curious as to whether or not it was a physical or a personality thing. I guess it's a combination.

I'm fairly flexible on physical qualities. As long as the guy looks healthy and is well-groomed (and taller than me, ha) I am good to go. Especially if these are combined with intellect, curiousity, open-mindedness, a taste for sarcasm and argument and he is able to give it as hard I do. I am passionate about a lot of things and I have neither the time or patience to reassure the bloke at every turn that I don't want to bite his balls off. Or listen to patronizing statements about things that are just "entertainment" and should therefore not be held to some kind of standard.

Basically I like a challenge.

 

[Adrenaline]

All of the older men I have dated have led me to the conclusion that older men are bossy boots.

Oh, I can't handle that.

Guess I'm left with women!

 

[mrtnmoon]

Definitely a combo deal. Although, I would say aesthetics are less important than personality. The right personality and it doesn't matter much how one looks. A hot body w/nothing else is boring.

I see comments like that a lot here.... I wish I could believe that looks are as unimportant as people claim they are. I guess a lifetime of hearing,
"you're so nice.... you're such a good friend to me. I wish I could talk to (insert name of asshole husband/boyfriend here) like I can talk to you," has left me a little skeptical.

 

[capricious_chic]

I see comments like that a lot here.... I wish I could believe that looks are as unimportant as people claim they are. I guess a lifetime of hearing,
"you're so nice.... you're such a good friend to me. I wish I could talk to (insert name of asshole husband/boyfriend here) like I can talk to you," has left me a little skeptical.

Quit talking to girls that are already in a relationship.

Many people get into fucked up relationships. Me, fuck that. If I can't talk to someone I most definitely don't want to fuck them let alone tie my life to them in any way.