Anonymous Secrets Thread

[The_Fool]

I wonder which one looked good in a bikini, the lady that was present, or the one that was present in his thoughts. Maybe both. Maybe they had a threesome. I digress.

 

[Thandi]

Near as I can tell it's "man speak" for
"Hey there's this older lady at work. She may not be young but she's still kinda hot.
The other day she ran into the boss and starts talking about how they used to DATE! Well can you believe when he came in he didn't even know her NAME!!! God he's cool, I bet he did it with so many women that he doesn't remember even half of their names!!
He finally did remember that 25 years ago she looked really hot in a bikini.
I bet they did it. I'm gonna tell everybody they did it.
Hey, if she did him back then I bet I can hit that now! Sure, I bet I can..."

That's just from working with sales and whse. guys though. This one may have meant something completely different.
Maybe he was shocked.

 

[photograph]

Here's what I got.

This hottie saleslady, who shouldn't be, because "Hey, she's a grandma, yanno". Had an appt with the big man, he was late so I got the dirt, which was awkward, because i knew and he didnt? before he actually knew? or something. He saw her in a bikini, so they must have fucked on the beach.

*snort*

I figured it was more along the lines of "I don't really have a point, but I'll post something anyway."

 

[Kudram123]

36 M. I use to come here because I was morbidly obese and full of self-doubt and just wanted to be loved. 4 years later I have dropped 157lbs the hard way and now have washboard abs thanks to chicken breasts, various races, and God only knows how many planks. You, gentle reader, might be saying “good for you anonymous man”…….. But here is the crux of my secret. While I am straight as an arrow, the way I treat women is pure malice. Yes, I now have a shot with a lot of hot women. But, any woman who will sleep with me now, I treat like a vain whore.

 

[Que]

36 M. I use to come here because I was morbidly obese and full of self-doubt and just wanted to be loved. 4 years later I have dropped 157lbs the hard way and now have washboard abs thanks to chicken breasts, various races, and God only knows how many planks. You, gentle reader, might be saying “good for you anonymous man”…….. But here is the crux of my secret. While I am straight as an arrow, the way I treat women is pure malice. Yes, I now have a shot with a lot of hot women. But, any woman who will sleep with me now, I treat like a vain whore.

I get his angst, in the sense that he FELT inadequate in the past and has noticed that he gets more attention in his present incarnation.

I had self image issues, childhood crap. Other end of the spectrum. TOO slender. I joke now when people note that I watch what I eat that "I don't mind being a little guy, I just don't want to be a little guy WITH a gut." Interestingly women seem to like me more with 10-15lbs extra, abs that haven't been seen in years. My rise in esteem came about in convoluted way that is a post in its own right, but WHEN I accepted myself entirely, the confidence that grew from that was attractive...little about my physical appearance changed.

yes they ARE responding to the new and improved you...the confidence, not so much the abs I would wager. and hey, women like assholes so let a little of that show, but low simmer....some of them even deserve a little 'payback' if not for you specifically... they probably DID look down at someone exactly as you suspect....

For YOU you need to let go.

 

[Kudram123]

(female)

After reading a post in this thread, I have avoided a "friend" here. Sometimes writing styles are too familiar. It hurt because I had to read something here rather than receive it myself. The half-hearted and one-sided statement that was given said everything I needed to know. It left me sad to be treated such a way by somebody I trusted but at least I found out. Thank you.

 

[NotHisLady]

36 M. I use to come here because I was morbidly obese and full of self-doubt and just wanted to be loved. 4 years later I have dropped 157lbs the hard way and now have washboard abs thanks to chicken breasts, various races, and God only knows how many planks. You, gentle reader, might be saying “good for you anonymous man”…….. But here is the crux of my secret. While I am straight as an arrow, the way I treat women is pure malice. Yes, I now have a shot with a lot of hot women. But, any woman who will sleep with me now, I treat like a vain whore.

This is a very good place to stand behind the curtains and incubate the inner you while you doubt and agonize over your outer self.
May I ask--and don't necessarily answer here but in just your own mind--when you were just words on a screen, when the people here knew only that inner voice how did they receive you?

Like the other gentleman who responded to your post I went through a sort of metamorphosis. I found myself thinking very similar things about the guys who started noticing me--the ones who hadn't spared me a second glance before even when I'd done my best to attract attention.

What I had to sort out (and it didn't happen overnight) was that even though my outside had changed my inside hadn't. I was still fundamentally ME. Maybe a person will be drawn to my 'new and improved' packaging but if they aren't attracted to that inner ME then it gets obvious pretty quick. I just had to stop judging myself so harshly and projecting it onto the people who wanted to be around me.

So you do get a "Good for you!" for all the work you've done on the outer you. Unfortunately you're only halfway there.
Think of the woman who goes out and gets a total makeover from a plastic surgeon--new boobs, all the fat sucked away, everything tucked and lifted. Because she feels like she isn't good enough as she is.
What you did was much harder but done for pretty much the same reasons, to make yourself FEEL better about yourself.
Now the outside is taken care of but the inside is still the same. It's time for the really hard part--it's time to work on the inside. To learn that you are good enough as you are however you are. Making yourself healthier was a positive thing--don't get me wrong but you have to believe that the women attracted to you see YOU and not the skin you're wearing. That means you have to like the YOU inside the skin you're wearing.

The other side of the coin is this. If all you're after is getting them into bed and you can accomplish that in a date or two (or less) they probably ARE sluts. Aim higher and you'll feel better about the person you wind up with.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Very well put,NothisLady. I feel the same way. If People are not attracted to my personality now, I sure shit don't want them attracted me when I shed the excess "me".. It's pretty shallow.

I know though, it's hard. When you are overweight, despite our very best efforts some of us will inwardly project what we "think" others think of us based on looks, body habitus, etc. It's difficult not to. I would suggest, as NHL did, to work on accepting your new self and confidence and not so much how or why you think others are now attracted to you. It will become clear enough who likes you for you and who just thinks you're a sexy piece of meat..

In the meantime, also try to temper the "hating" on the females.. Lol. A dick is a dick is a dick. Project that attitude and you are more than likely setting yourself up for a lifetime of one night stands with hoochies just out for a little bump and grind with the "bad boy."

Good luck, babe, and congrats on the new "you!"

 

[LiveFromKorea]

Apparently, a 14 year old's boss has a secret

I almost pissed myself... LOL

 

[LiveFromKorea]

36 M. I use to come here because I was morbidly obese and full of self-doubt and just wanted to be loved. 4 years later I have dropped 157lbs the hard way and now have washboard abs thanks to chicken breasts, various races, and God only knows how many planks. You, gentle reader, might be saying “good for you anonymous man”…….. But here is the crux of my secret. While I am straight as an arrow, the way I treat women is pure malice. Yes, I now have a shot with a lot of hot women. But, any woman who will sleep with me now, I treat like a vain whore.

In high school, when I was much younger, I was good friends with a girl who was cute, but not "hot." She was 16 at the time and over the next few years hit a bit of a growth spurt. She grew several inches, slimmed out, and was as gorgeous as any woman I've ever seen.

She talked to me one time about getting the new attention from all the guys and said she was a bit resentful. She wondered why they were suddenly interested in her and insisted they only want to get with her because she was now the "hot" girl.

I thought about it and I told her, paraphrasing at this point obviously, regardless of the initial reason that drives them to talk to you, that doesn't mean they can't learn to like and/or love you for who you are and not just what you look like.

My point is simply that men and women can both be shallow and that isn't fair. However, you worked hard to put yourself in a situation that now gives you an opportunity to get to know more women (honestly know them, not just sleep with them) and then decide whether they are someone you want to know more intimately or someone you want to shove in front of a bus and do humankind a favor.

 

[Aquagal]

(female)

After reading a post in this thread, I have avoided a "friend" here. Sometimes writing styles are too familiar. It hurt because I had to read something here rather than receive it myself. The half-hearted and one-sided statement that was given said everything I needed to know. It left me sad to be treated such a way by somebody I trusted but at least I found out. Thank you.

I would say unless you hear confirmation straight from the horses mouth, don't be too sure. I read something recently on here that made me think the EXACT SAME THING. So I asked, and was told, absolutely not, and here is why...

Now I'm chuckling thinking it may even be the same post. I came forward and even said Hey, it's okay if it is, but let me in on that, not from some bullshit post.

 

[Kudram123]

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m9bufiywVY1qdoqhwo1_500.gif

Still accepting secrets on kudram123@gmail.com or in my PM inbox

Your secret shall be posted here, your name never revealed.
Any "fishing attempt" will be ignored.

Still goes

 

[Kudram123]

F -
I like to send naked pictures of myself to my friend. I do it because she wants me and I like shocking her. I am tempted to ask my friend if I can touch her breasts. I'd love to play with them and suck on her nipples. I'm sure that after her initial shock, she'd let me. I just don't want to go down on her though.

 

[Kudram123]

Female - no age

Today I used google to search the yahoo ID of a man I've been talking to quite frequently on lit. I know his first name. The yahoo ID linked to other sites that showed his full name. I searched Facebook and found him. I am confident it is him, because his comments on FB contain the same little "signature" as his PM's do.

I only searched because I was curious as to what he looked like. I don't think it would have truly mattered to me, as it is his words and personality that captivate me. I will admit that he is as sexy as I imagined him.

I don't intend to do anything malicious with this information. I am not that kind of person. But if your anonymity here on Lit is important to you, you may want to do a search on yourself and make sure none of your contact information you post here links to your true identity.

 

[Kudram123]

M

I drive a lot for work and often when a bit drowsy.... after lunch, for example, I find my mind wanders and I get horny. I will unzip my pants and stroke myself as I give in to fantasies. The rush of the sexual energy snaps me out of my drowsiness. I rub my cock under my thumb for miles...faster and slower...depending on where my mind is. I am alert to the road but so horny.

 

[BradBigBrain]

Female - no age

Today I used google to search the yahoo ID of a man I've been talking to quite frequently on lit. I know his first name. The yahoo ID linked to other sites that showed his full name. I searched Facebook and found him. I am confident it is him, because his comments on FB contain the same little "signature" as his PM's do.

I only searched because I was curious as to what he looked like. I don't think it would have truly mattered to me, as it is his words and personality that captivate me. I will admit that he is as sexy as I imagined him.

I don't intend to do anything malicious with this information. I am not that kind of person. But if your anonymity here on Lit is important to you, you may want to do a search on yourself and make sure none of your contact information you post here links to your true identity.

You should have friended me after you found me.

 

[haha_on_me]

You should have friended me after you found me.

Hahahahahahaha I was thinking the same thing, then I realized that I don't get PM' s and figured it wasn't me. Hahaha.

 

[Kudram123]

I have a crush on a little perk lit member for months. I create different alts to flirt in hopes of cybering and perhaps more with her. It has become a game that I enjoy but get weary of the rejection.

Male, 29

 

[Aquagal]

I have a crush on a little perk lit member for months. I create different alts to flirt in hopes of cybering and perhaps more with her. It has become a game that I enjoy but get weary of the rejection.

Male, 29

Don't be so sure she doesn't know it's all the same YOU. Usually writing style is unique to the person.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

F -
I like to send naked pictures of myself to my friend. I do it because she wants me and I like shocking her. I am tempted to ask my friend if I can touch her breasts. I'd love to play with them and suck on her nipples. I'm sure that after her initial shock, she'd let me. I just don't want to go down on her though.

If she wants you why would she be shocked? I take it you wouldn't let her go down on you even if you wanted her to? After all, what is sauce for the goose.....

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Female - no age

Today I used google to search the yahoo ID of a man I've been talking to quite frequently on lit. I know his first name. The yahoo ID linked to other sites that showed his full name. I searched Facebook and found him. I am confident it is him, because his comments on FB contain the same little "signature" as his PM's do.

I only searched because I was curious as to what he looked like. I don't think it would have truly mattered to me, as it is his words and personality that captivate me. I will admit that he is as sexy as I imagined him.

I don't intend to do anything malicious with this information. I am not that kind of person. But if your anonymity here on Lit is important to you, you may want to do a search on yourself and make sure none of your contact information you post here links to your true identity.

If its no biggie, why dwell? Just sayin

 

[Lady_Fiona]

M

I drive a lot for work and often when a bit drowsy.... after lunch, for example, I find my mind wanders and I get horny. I will unzip my pants and stroke myself as I give in to fantasies. The rush of the sexual energy snaps me out of my drowsiness. I rub my cock under my thumb for miles...faster and slower...depending on where my mind is. I am alert to the road but so horny.

Trust me, you aren't alone.

 

[Aquagal]

If its no biggie, why dwell? Just sayin

I didn't get that she thought it was a big deal, perhaps making others aware that was a way they could be traced? Especially after we heard from the woman seeking out with only revenge as her intent.

I don't know. *shrugs

 

[perkyT]

I didn't get that she thought it was a big deal, perhaps making others aware that was a way they could be traced? Especially after we heard from the woman seeking out with only revenge as her intent.

I don't know. *shrugs

I wonder why she went to all that trouble when she could ask the dude for his pic??

It is a little creepy that people cyberstalk...what?? I was just nonchalantly following H2OGal around for reading content...really.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I wonder why she went to all that trouble when she could ask the dude for his pic??

It is a little creepy that people cyberstalk...what?? I was just nonchalantly following H2OGal around for reading content...really.

I would never stalk anyone like that...wait...I'm doing it right now. Nevermind.