Angry, Divorced dad

[warrior queen]

It is good that you were brave enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable to this person who had hurt you so much. There is no intimacy without vulnerability.

Would you be able to reconcile with a mother who was marriied three times and screwed around in all her marriages? What sort of limits do you think you would have? What if your mother was physically abusive? Mentally abusive?

at various times throughout my childhood, my mother was all of those things you describe.

but with the benefit of being an adult, i can now see that none of us is perfect, and i do not set limits on my love or friendship.
if i give either to anyone, it is because i have chosen to accept the one reality - no-one is perfect.

 

[overthebow]

at various times throughout my childhood, my mother was all of those things you describe.

but with the benefit of being an adult, i can now see that none of us is perfect, and i do not set limits on my love or friendship.
if i give either to anyone, it is because i have chosen to accept the one reality - no-one is perfect.

I think that it is very brave of you not to set limits on your love and friendship. I think that I have no limits with regard to my children. With regard to my parents, I loved them, but didn't let them influence me.