anal

[kfree261]

I want my husband to take it analy,,,however my ex did it forcefully a couple of times,,now I am scared to death. How can I make this easy,,and relax,,I have the k-y,,does anyone have suggestions?

 

[SweetErika]

First off, I'm sorry for what your ex did to you.

Secondly, if you're referring to KY Jelly, ditch that and get yourself some real lube that's formulated for sex, rather than one-time insertion during medical procedures. We've found silicone lube to be the best for anal play and just about everything else. It's a little more expensive up front, but it'll save you in the long run because you it is super slick and doesn't dry out like water-based lubes. Case in point: we're only about 2/3 of the way through a 16 ounce bottle after like 4 years of using it for everything (it doesn't change/go bad with time or contain any of the nasty preservatives that are in most water-based lubes).

Finally, if you haven't done so already, read through the Anal section of The Blank Manual sticky because it's a wealth of great info on painless anal and associated issues. Ideally, your hubby should read it too. If you have read through the anal section of the sticky (or after you do so), feel free let us know if you have additional questions.

If/when you are ready to try anal, YOU should control the speed and depth of penetration - your guy should be completely still, save for playing with your clit or whatever turns you on. We like doggy style and a good vibe for this.

 

[laozmo2]

Here are a few hints.

1) Get a good lube like ASTROGLIDE at Walgreens.

2) Order a LUBE LAUNCHER from AMAZON.COM. ($5.00) Its a small syringe to inject lubricant several inches into your rectum.

3) As the penis is slowly entering you push out like you were having a bowel movement. It opens and relaxes your snal sphincter muscle.

Good luck and enjoy!!!

 

[klippert]

I want my husband to take it analy,,,however my ex did it forcefully a couple of times,,now I am scared to death. How can I make this easy,,and relax,,I have the k-y,,does anyone have suggestions?

correct me if I'm wrong.... You want your husband to take it up his ass???...

my response is amusing your taking hubbies cock...

Good lube, we prefer ID Glide.... start with rimming, fingers, a small vibe (helps get used too the penetration)

When MrsK's and I did anal for her first time, she was on top... she controlled the penetration, but it was the lube that made it real good, she has intense anal orgasm. the second time she was on her side.... lying on your side may be the best for you and your hubby, you can still control how much cock you can take...If your hubby is a hung fella... on your side will help... but (no pun) it still may not work for you..... be sure to relax... a little wine buzz helps as well....that is if you indulge in spirits...

 

[oldkinky]

I want my husband to take it anally,,,however my ex did it forcefully a couple of times,,now I am scared to death. How can I make this easy,,and relax,,I have the k-y,,does anyone have suggestions?

We enjoy anal play on me as a regular part of our sex lives. Many years ago I never dreamed that I would enjoy anal play on me, but as I began to understand my prostate and how anal play can be exciting.

Initially I purchased a vibrating anal toy(Pro Touch from Tantus). When it arrived I asked DW to use it on me while she gave me a blowjob and WOW what an orgasm. Most intense ever. Not only was it more intense, but also I produced much more cum which DW loved. We were both hooked. We have tried other anal toys like vibrating dildos and beads and they are all nice.

From prostate massage we proceeded to strap on sex. We purchased a Bend Over Beginner Kit. It has a harness with a pouch for a small vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while she does me. It also includes two small silicone dildos(Silk Small-7/8 by 4.5 inches- and Silk Medium-11/4 by 5.5 inches- made by Tantus). Both of these are small and easy to insert with lube(Wet Original). DW put on the harness with the Small Silk dildo). She became so hot as she rubbed lube on the dildo and talked dirty about her dick. I got in the doggy position and she lubed my opening. She slowly inserted the dildo in me. It felt so good. She thrust some in this position, but we decided to try a variation on the missionary position. She removed the dildo and I lay on my back with my legs drawn up. She lay between my legs and inserted the dildo in me. In this position she can easily reach my dick for a handjob while she does me. She lubed my dick and went to thrusting while giving me a handjob. It wasn't long until we were both cumming-she from the harness vibrator and me from prostate stimulation and the handjob.

We then purchased a new harness(Buzz Me Tender) which is a little more sturdy and has pouches for two vibrators.

We have graduated to new dildos. A word of caution about dildo size. The maximum dildo diameter that is comfortable for me is 1 1/2 or a little less, but up to 7 inches long or longer is fine. We much prefer silicone dildos. Some we enjoy are Vibrating Mistress(1 3/8 inch by 6 inches) made by Vixen Creations, Vibrating Leisure(! 1/4 by 7 inches) made by Tantus, Acute(Tantus)1.25 by 5 inches and curved, Compact (1 by 5.25 inches-made by Tantus,.

A recent addition is a double dildo. We use Nexus Jr. with a harness and we do each other at the same time. DW had her first squirting orgasm while we were doing each other.

Remember use lots and lots of lube. You can't use too much.

Some couples are concerned about creating a mess. If you have a BM an hour or two before sex things will usually be clran. For me , however, I use a Fleet Enema filled with warm water before sex. i usually fill it three times or until it comes out clear. Also you can use a condom on the dildo.

Hope this helps. Strap on sex is a great addition to our sex lives.She does me about once a week.

 

[djyak]

In case you haven't caught the theme of the previous post it's lots of good lube. I love AstroGlide. Great stuff, and it works great in the shower! Slow, slow, slow is the key. Have fun!

Tifani