Anal...

[bare_pussy]

Yeah, twice that night...he enjoyed himself as much as I did. Didn't realise that there was any sort of chemical reaction going to occur. I, like you thought it was just the actuall motion and newness of the experience. Next time I'll try it with a condom on.

great that you enjoyed it! my guy did too - just hope he doesnt replace regular sex with that! heh

 

[Just_4_Giggles]

i think the point of anal is he has to wear a condom for regular sex just in case, th

OK, take it from an "old pro" - anal sex can be fun, but do not ever allow it to be replaced by regular "vanilla" vaginal sex. If you really enjoy it, GREAT - if it becomes a replacement due to the really tight, hot difference for HIM, YOU must make it "dessert" and not the Main Meal. (You can lobby for furniture and cars if it goes this way - LOL!) Trust me on this - I "brought this out" when there was a chance of losing him (20 years ago) and now he prefers this over regular vaginal sex. Sometimes its fun, sometimes its a royal pain in the ass and I wish I never offered it. (No pun intended.)

If you are new to The Pill (first 28 days) or if you are taking anti-biotics, then by all means, use protection or a "back-up" method. The "Back Door" method IS NOT pregnancy proof!!!!!! Sperm can leak and make its way to the vaginal canal simply by the geography of your anatomy. Though its most likely *not probable,* I wouldn't make "back door" a "back-up" method. I question the conception of baby #2 - she's either God's Baby (Immaculate Conception) or there was a "traveling" factor of sperm.

Cramping: make anal sex the last thing you do for the day. The next morning, all the air and 'fluids' (sperm & lube) will expel via a morning trip to the bathroom. If he keeps it in there, and thrusts within you, there won't be much of an air problem. If he likes to pull out and watch the gape before going back in, there will be an air problem. You will get to know your own body's "rhythm" and "schedule" and when it is most comfortable and *convenient* for you. Do not be afraid to say "not now" and leave it at that.

The LAST thing I would EVER do is go for a walk after anal sex! LOL!

 

[pupper]

My wife and I engage in anal every now and again.The main gripe she has is that it burns at first,we use lots of lube,and she has cum from anal.But her vagina is very selfish and wants that cock to herself.

 

[bare_pussy]

OK, take it from an "old pro" - anal sex can be fun, but do not ever allow it to be replaced by regular "vanilla" vaginal sex. If you really enjoy it, GREAT - if it becomes a replacement due to the really tight, hot difference for HIM, YOU must make it "dessert" and not the Main Meal. (You can lobby for furniture and cars if it goes this way - LOL!) Trust me on this - I "brought this out" when there was a chance of losing him (20 years ago) and now he prefers this over regular vaginal sex. Sometimes its fun, sometimes its a royal pain in the ass and I wish I never offered it. (No pun intended.)

If you are new to The Pill (first 28 days) or if you are taking anti-biotics, then by all means, use protection or a "back-up" method. The "Back Door" method IS NOT pregnancy proof!!!!!! Sperm can leak and make its way to the vaginal canal simply by the geography of your anatomy. Though its most likely *not probable,* I wouldn't make "back door" a "back-up" method. I question the conception of baby #2 - she's either God's Baby (Immaculate Conception) or there was a "traveling" factor of sperm.

Cramping: make anal sex the last thing you do for the day. The next morning, all the air and 'fluids' (sperm & lube) will expel via a morning trip to the bathroom. If he keeps it in there, and thrusts within you, there won't be much of an air problem. If he likes to pull out and watch the gape before going back in, there will be an air problem. You will get to know your own body's "rhythm" and "schedule" and when it is most comfortable and *convenient* for you. Do not be afraid to say "not now" and leave it at that.

The LAST thing I would EVER do is go for a walk after anal sex! LOL!

heh thanks for the advice. I don't think he'll replace it, but it might be the way to finish for him or something. I just don't know yet. I understand 'traveling' sperm, and I was sure (for a number of reasons) to wash with anti-bacterial soap right after he came. I also went #1. Those two should help reduce the risk.
He also did stay in, for the most part, because pulling all the way out and going all the way back in simply was too uncomfortable for me at this stage.

We didn't go for a walk RIGHT after - we sat on the couch and watched American Wedding...lol

oh - and as for tightness...I assure you both are tight, I'm pretty sure it's just the no-condom thing. He has to wear large size condoms, which apparently are pretty thick. I'm just being selfless

 

[SummerMorning]

cramping after bareback anal is usually caused by the ejaculate itself.
the rectum/colon reacts to the acidity/alkalinity of the ejaculate.

you can eliminate this by using a condom - with the added benefit that it makes him last longer [usually]!

Not so sure it's that... I get cramping from anal play as well sometimes, and far as I can tell, my gf doesn't have a penis and therefore can't ejaculate anything into my ass.

LOL

 

[bare_pussy]

hm...good point

 

[BustyJ]

...just looking to see if any other women (or gay guys) get that feeling

Well here goes.....used to have anal all the time, however this stupid girl never had lube before....so either dry or even worse "vaseline" which after I found out is like a laxative...oh yeah. however I never had that crampy feeling. Now if we have anal, he uses lube.

 

[BustyJ]

Not so sure it's that... I get cramping from anal play as well sometimes, and far as I can tell, my gf doesn't have a penis and therefore can't ejaculate anything into my ass.

LOL

Ok, I just figured it out....the crampiness is due to the pushing of air inside that area. which causes you to feel bloated and crampy...thats all.

 

[Epona's Chylde]

I generally feel a bit crampy afterward but it goes away. I always cum from anal (even without vaginal/clitoral stimulation), and it gives me such intense orgasms that I don't mind the pain a bit !

Just give it time, you'll get use to it

 

[sexyredcar]

Anal...again

I fancy trying a bit of anal with my man but not sure how to tackle it...any suggestions?

 

[ewopper]

My input

The few times I've had anal with a woman she never complained but that doesn't mean she didn't cramp, all i know is that i took my time making sure she was well lubed before we did it and i tried to get her as relaxed as possible. The two women i did do it with complained of the need to go as i inserted but after getting pass the sphinter ring said the feeling went away, so the next time you try it make sure he gets you relaxed by rubbing and massaging your back as he inserts and not to force his way in too harshly the women i was with seemed to appreci ate me doing it that way and both had orgasms or they claim they did

 

[Chi-Guy31]

I fancy trying a bit of anal with my man but not sure how to tackle it...any suggestions?

Always a favorite topic of mine... certainly ask him if he is interested. As strange as it seems to me, there are some men who have no desire to plunge the depths of anal pleasuring! Maybe even during sex, you can ask him if he wants to move on down to your other hole, provided you are well lubed, relaxed and ready. Maybe offer him your ass right from the get-go?

 

[sexyredcar]

I have tried offering him my ass during sex but haven't said outright that I want him to fuck me there. I guess I am scared of him saying no & thinking I'm a freak or something!

 

[ewopper]

here are things you can try

I'm no expert on it since I've onlly had anal with two different women over the years, but when you take the plunge have him start by lubing his finger really well and slowly indert into your area working it in rather than forcing , don't be afraid to tell him if there's too much pain, as you become more comfortable you can tell him when you're ready but make sure you're ready and don't let him push or be too forceful, and what the women told me was as they relaxed their bodies it made my entry easier to handle as they became more relaxed the more enjoyable it became to them i hope this helped

 

[sexyredcar]

Thanx, I like to play with my own ass when I masturbate as it gives me THE most intense orgasm and I want him to experience it too. Guess I gotta take the plunge as it were

 

[Chi-Guy31]

Thanx, I like to play with my own ass when I masturbate as it gives me THE most intense orgasm and I want him to experience it too. Guess I gotta take the plunge as it were

Do you guys share any porn or sex manuals, which might include anal action? If you are looking at either of these, you could ask him if he has ever tried or wanted to try it, out of curiousity - I always wanted to, but it really did take my wife actually asking me if I wanted it, before it happened.

 

[sexyredcar]

No but I may invest in some to put the idea into his head. I have a feeling that he is worried about hurting me but I have read extensively on the subject...lube, lube, lube & relax I believe?

 

[Chi-Guy31]

No but I may invest in some to put the idea into his head. I have a feeling that he is worried about hurting me but I have read extensively on the subject...lube, lube, lube & relax I believe?

Good point, he might be concerned about your enjoyment, but your interest, curiousity and open-minded should be enough to allay those fears. He may even have some porn of his own, you could ask him and see what he likes there, bring in some new stuff you like. And yes lots of lube helps, plus your relaxation - sometimes after orgasming vaginally or clitorally it makes anal easier, but then for some of us that practice anal frequently we can go straight to it w/ minimal preparation!

 

[jvillcouple]

I have fucked 11 women in my life, all but one of those in the ass as well. But, coming of age in the late 60s when virginity still meant something in the south, if I can remember I fucked at least 4 college girls just in the ass. I think it's funny now when 35 years later I bump into one of them with their husbands, I laugh to my self that I had her in the ass. ( I was never a one-night-stand guy, that's why I have fucked all but one in the ass.) To the ladies, it is the best orgasm. A nice tight ass is just a little bit of heaven. (My wife claims I was her first back there???)

 

[amvc]

many people feel that way (i highly doubt is has anything to do with the cum). i believe it has something to do with the pushing and suction of whatever's penetrating you. could also be nerves, if you were anxious or hesitant.