Anal sex only for that 'special' guy

[Hitchiker69]

I have a gay friend who doesn't really enjoy bottoming for another man. He'll only give it up if he needs to, to keep a special guy, or a great lover.

What would you do to keep an excellent lover around? I'd do almost anything to keep the right guy .

I'd consider almost anything, including taking him up my ass (which I enjoy anyway). I'd be his sub sex slave. if he wanted to share me with his friends in a gang bang I'd do it. I'd let them spit roast me. This is mostly stuff I've been wanting anyway.

How about you. What would you do to keep the right guy?

 

[whiteasianlvr]

Hitchhiker69, IMO you suggest you would be content with a totally one-sided relationship. An excellent lover implies a more than a merely physical relationship. I, for one, would NOT be willing to "do almost anything to keep the right guy," as this seems almost like desperation that would cause him to lose respect for me and ultimately push me aside. No disrespect to you intended....just my opinion. Sex is one aspect, albeit an important one, of a relationship and not the entirety of one's life.

 

[Phatfeet]

I have a gay friend who doesn't really enjoy bottoming for another man. He'll only give it up if he needs to, to keep a special guy, or a great lover.

What would you do to keep an excellent lover around?

I'd consider almost anything, including taking him up my ass. I'd be his sub sex slave. if he wanted to share me with his friends in a gang bang I'd do it. I'd let them spit roast me. I;d do almost anything to keep the right guy .

How about you. What would you do to keep the right guy?

For me, sex is about exploration...

To that end I really do not have a list of things I will do, or not do, and where sex becomes so black and white. And for pleasurable sex there really should not be one a list or black and white expectations. This is not a doctor’s office where you have a 40-item check list. For me it is dabbling in the grayish areas that can be the most fun. Challenge me. Try changing my perception if you have tried something I have not.

If there is something you really like; suggest it, make it seem appealing and seduce me even. I might agree to try it, and hell, I just might like it and be willing to keep doing it. I might not however, or I might say no from the onset, but I want you to feel comfortable in presenting almost anything to me.

For me the biggest issue is trust. I can do some kinky things as long as I know that what we do stays between us and is not blabbed to everyone. That is where something kinky becomes something special between us. That is not desperation, or even validation, its just intimate and personal.

In that I do not need continuous platitudes to keep doing what I do. I am astute enough to understand non-verbal cues, which is no different than needing my boss to constantly tell me I am doing a good job. Deep down I already know I am, which is not arrogancy, but rather confidence. It is the same with sex. I am not going to be used, but I never want sex to become an “I'll do this, you do that”, sort of experience where it is very regimented; instead let’s explore some grayish areas...

 

[mtsnowrider]

I have a gay friend who doesn't really enjoy bottoming for another man. He'll only give it up if he needs to, to keep a special guy, or a great lover.

What would you do to keep an excellent lover around?

I'd consider almost anything, including taking him up my ass. I'd be his sub sex slave. if he wanted to share me with his friends in a gang bang I'd do it. I'd let them spit roast me. I;d do almost anything to keep the right guy .

How about you. What would you do to keep the right guy?

I'm thinking if he wanted me to do stuff like that he wouldn't be the right guy....but that's just me

 

[SPARTAN047]

Not EVERYTHING, but I'll do a few things I may not be comfortable with.

I'll ask if they're also okay with doing some things I want too, because I've been used like that and heartbroken before.

 

[hungryboytoy]

Nothing I wsn't comfortable with, but if he would only stay if you did those things then he's not the right guy, he's an arsehole. There is a difference between 'things that don't do anything for me, but I'll do them for him' and 'things that actively make me uncomfortable'.

Of course, trust goes a long way to support exploring.

 

[Phatfeet]

I do not really see the other man in this situation as being an A-hole so much. A lot of men like to be tops-only. It sounds like he is making some excuses for that by saying, “I only will for the right man”, which by omission is kind of mean to say to @Hitchhiker69 because it’s rejecting him by suggesting he is not good enough for that reciprocative role. I just don't think he wants to bottom, and that is okay, some men don't like it.

But then it seems to me the original post morphs into list of what Hitchhiker69 thinks he is willing to do. It does not sound to me like the man demanded all this from Hitchhiker69, its just Hitchhiker69 saying to himself, ‘if he asked me to do this, this or that, I would do it’. And that is okay, its good to be open-minded and be willing to explore into some areas that are uncharted and might make us a little uncomfortable. I would never do something "just to keep them", but I fully understand how being seduced into something can be erotic.

And I get what he is ultimately saying. It is hard to find the ideal person in which to explore male-male sex with, so even if this man is not reciprocative (only a top and not a bottom) he is someone to explore bisexualism with. Who would not want it to continue even if it not ideal?

 

[tristantrotsky]

I have a gay friend who doesn't really enjoy bottoming for another man. He'll only give it up if he needs to, to keep a special guy, or a great lover.

What would you do to keep an excellent lover around?

I'd consider almost anything, including taking him up my ass. I'd be his sub sex slave. if he wanted to share me with his friends in a gang bang I'd do it. I'd let them spit roast me. I;d do almost anything to keep the right guy .

How about you. What would you do to keep the right guy?

I've been in that situation. You could say that I was young and gullible, that I was naive, but I was so infatuated with that older married guy, and so very scared that he'd dump me, that I was eager to do anything he wanted. He took my anal cherry. But... eventually, he dumped me anyway!

 

[2wayroad]

I don’t know. If he doesn’t want to stick around, he can go.

Ideally, right now I like to find a married guy in a sexless relationship, or a recently divorced guy who has needs, but doesn’t want to fall into another woman trap. Straight guys, or at least guys who want to believe they are straight, since they only pitch, and never catch, are intriguing to me. It’s hard for me to resist them. They always drift away, but that's okay.

 

[artgorden]

I have a gay friend who doesn't really enjoy bottoming for another man. He'll only give it up if he needs to, to keep a special guy, or a great lover.

What would you do to keep an excellent lover around?

I'd consider almost anything, including taking him up my ass. I'd be his sub sex slave. if he wanted to share me with his friends in a gang bang I'd do it. I'd let them spit roast me. I'd do almost anything to keep the right guy .

How about you. What would you do to keep the right guy?

If he wanted to share me in a gangbang that would make me even more submissive. If he's got a couple bbc friends they could gangbang us as a couple.

 

[liqueur]

What would you do to keep an excellent lover around?

I'd consider almost anything... take him up my ass. I'd be his sub sex slave. if he wanted to share me with his friends in a gang bang I'd do it. I'd let them spit roast me...

How about you. What would you do to keep the right guy?

I'd do any of those things in a heartbeat for almost anyone who felt safe. For that “someone special”, I'd include rimming.

 

[liqueur]

Seems to me that people responding here are being too literal and getting too pedantic.

The point of the post (as I see it) is that there are things you might want to do for that someone special, things you wouldn't ordinarily do with a casual lover.

 

[none2_none2]

I have a gay friend who doesn't really enjoy bottoming for another man. He'll only give it up if he needs to, to keep a special guy, or a great lover.

What would you do to keep an excellent lover around? I'd do almost anything to keep the right guy .

I'd consider almost anything, including taking him up my ass (which I enjoy anyway). I'd be his sub sex slave. if he wanted to share me with his friends in a gang bang I'd do it. I'd let them spit roast me. This is mostly stuff I've been wanting anyway.

How about you. What would you do to keep the right guy?

He may be "a special guy" to you, but are you special to him if he wants to share you in a gang bang? It doesn't seem the least bit special to me.

As to "great lover", a great lover doesn't need assistance from his friends. If he thinks he does, then the "team" is what you are going for, not an individual.

 

[SoReadyNow]

Hitchhiker69, IMO you suggest you would be content with a totally one-sided relationship. An excellent lover implies a more than a merely physical relationship. I, for one, would NOT be willing to "do almost anything to keep the right guy," as this seems almost like desperation that would cause him to lose respect for me and ultimately push me aside. No disrespect to you intended....just my opinion. Sex is one aspect, albeit an important one, of a relationship and not the entirety of one's life.

^ This! 101% this...

 

[2wayroad]

I don’t know. If he doesn’t want to stick around, he can go.

Ideally, right now I like to find a married guy in a sexless relationship, or a recently divorced guy who has needs, but doesn’t want to fall into another woman trap. Straight guys, or at least guys who want to believe they are straight, since they only pitch, and never catch, are intriguing to me. It’s hard for me to resist them. They always drift away, but that's okay.

To please him, so that he wants to see me again, I will do things I wouldn’t normally do.

My last married guy liked to meet in parking lots, and fuck me in his backseat. I normally like car play, but this would be in places that weren’t too discrete. His windows were tinted, but not limo. He would tell me to get in his backseat first. People would see a white man get into his back seat. Then he would tell me to show him my “pussy”. I’d pull my shorts off and spread my cheeks for him. Then soon, a black man would get out of his car and would calmly get in the back with me. If anyone was paying attention, they would know something was up. He would have me suck him hard, then he would fuck me, while he was also looking out.

It was very erotic and extremely submissive position to be in. In a parking lot, in the backseat of a car, mostly naked, with a man fucking me, with no ability to see if anyone was taking notice. Will I do that for anyone? No, but I did it for him, until he drifted away.

 

[tristantrotsky]

He may be "a special guy" to you, but are you special to him if he wants to share you in a gang bang? It doesn't seem the least bit special to me.

As to "great lover", a great lover doesn't need assistance from his friends. If he thinks he does, then the "team" is what you are going for, not an individual.

Why restrict your own pleasures?
You may be quite content with the way that 'special guy' fucks you, but there could be an even better cock just waiting around the corner for you. And how will you ever know until you try them all...?

 

[freakiFairi]

Well I'd give him my hole anytime he wanted it, but I'm a submissive, slutty bottom. I love total tops. There's something so hot about getting fucked by a guy that doesn't like getting fucked himself. Plus, I never have to worry about guys like that wanting me to fuck them, which is a total turn off.

 

[liqueur]

Well I'd give him my hole anytime he wanted it, but I'm a submissive, slutty bottom. I love total tops.

Yes! Yes to all of this. But especially this part ↓↓↓

There's something so hot about getting fucked by a guy that doesn't like getting fucked himself. Plus, I never have to worry about guys like that wanting me to fuck them...

“Only faggot queers get ass-fucked,” they're thinking. “As long as I'm the one doing the fucking, I'm still straight.”
And I love them for that thought, and for the sneer in their mind as they think it.

 

[liqueur]

I'm so horny today I'd bend over for almost anyone. And it's so quiet here today I can't even tease myself reading about other people's experiences.

 

[Uncut1969]

Can’t wait to have special guy take my virginity and fill me with his cum feeling it drip out