Anal sex, more or less intimate

[Blindinthedark]

This ones prob already been done but since I'm new I'll start it again.

It's a topic that came up in a conversation I was having with some friends. I say it's more intimate because of the trust issue and it's something that most ppl do later in a sexual relationship.

They said nope, less intimate mostly because they felt that vaginal sex had a greater emotional attachment to them.
A point to make is that she's (my friends gf) never had an orgasm via anal sex where as my gf has if that makes any difference

What do you think?

One way or the other it's fun.

 

[Starblayde]

well....

It all depends on how intimate your technique is.... good old penis in vagina sex can be really un-intimate sometimes...

it just depends on the mood and style

Starblayde 3:16

 

[heterotic]

It can be more intimate when I'm giving. I think receiving would be more so, but I don't know yet.

 

[Lili]

I agree that anal sex is way more intimate than vaginal. As far as I can remember, I've never had an orgasm that way. To me, orgasm's do not equal intimacy - they're just a reflex reaction after all.

There is something that still feels taboo and nasty about anal sex, and the fact of crouching there like that while someone takes me that way... oohh!

Of course I've only had it twice in the past 6 years... Oh well.

Lili

 

[celiaKitten]

For me, anal sex has been very intimate. I have to trust my partner completely every time, and as a consequence, I feel completely in tune with him. To me, there's nothing more intimate that complete and total trust. Combine that with sex and it's a killer!!

And, I have had an orgasm from anal sex, but I agree that orgasms do not mean intimacy. Not in the slightest

 

[heterotic]

So, is someone going to volunteer to help me find out, or not?

 

[cymbidia]

In my life, in my mind, (in my body?), anal sex is less intimate than vaginal sex but WAY the fuck more fun.


Here's one of the most recent threads on this topic. You might really like this one, Blindinthedark. And you were right; we talk about ass fucking a lot round here.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=64814&highlight=anal

 

[KillerMuffin]

Intimacy is the connection between two people who have let down their guards enough to touch each other emotionally.

Fucking is only intimate when the people themselves are intimate. It doesn't matter how you make love, butt or pussy. Kissing is intimate because there isn't anyway to avoid mental contact with the other person. Vaginal and anal sex isn't because you can avoid mental contact. Shut your eyes and think of England.

 

[riff]

Intimacy is the connection between two people who have let down their guards enough to touch each other emotionally.

Fucking is only intimate when the people themselves are intimate. It doesn't matter how you make love, butt or pussy. Kissing is intimate because there isn't anyway to avoid mental contact with the other person. Vaginal and anal sex isn't because you can avoid mental contact. Shut your eyes and think of England.

This is VERY well said.

 

[Notme2]

Anal sex is not so much more intimate as it is about trust. A woman has to trust you a lot to let you put something 2-20 inches long and 1-5 inches thick into her ass. You can do some serious damage. So if you equate trust with intimate then that would be a yes. I still say no though, but I agree with the people who say it is WAY more fun.

 

[rambling man]

ther can be something very intimate when the male allows the female to penetrate hi somehow...the intimacy lies in the surrender, the vulnerability, the willingness to take the female role, the trust you give by opening a sensitive area physically and eotionally

 

[cherrypi28]

ther can be something very intimate when the male allows the female to penetrate hi somehow...the intimacy lies in the surrender, the vulnerability, the willingness to take the female role, the trust you give by opening a sensitive area physically and eotionally

i agree...i think that it should be a 2 way street... if women trust men to do it and let it become an intimate part of the relationship, then why not let us reciprocate???

 

[rambling man]

It is so wonderful to be on your hands and knees, being penetrated, face shoved into the bed...i'd never want a guy doing that, but to be submissive to a woman, so awesomely hot....

cherry, does the dominant role appeal to you in thissituation?

 

[cherrypi28]

would you consider a 3 some...minus the guy guy thing? him doing me and me doing you??? if so pm me

 

[rambling man]

sounds like fun...i sent a pm

 

[Blindinthedark]

Thanks for all the reply's

I knew this thread was way to good a topic to be an original one so thanks for the link cymbidia.

Thanks all for your personal thoughts about such a taboo subject. Looks like I even started a dating service. I should charge for that.

And Notme2 ... 20 inches long, 5 inches thick ... you must be from the planet of Gigantic Dicks lol

 

[Beethoven'sFire]

Anal sex can be a great gift, and in that way intimate. However, I personally feel that sex (for me) is not truly intimate unless the man releases himself (without barriers) into my womb. Of course there are other factors determining.

 

[rexfelis]

I have never had anal sex, but I would imagine it would depend on who was doing it. For me it's not the act, but the emotional connection that spells intimacy.

 

[heterotic]

Re: Thanks for all the reply's

And Notme2 ... 20 inches long, 5 inches thick ... you must be from the planet of Gigantic Dicks lol

That is some brobdingnagian proportions. I'm glad somebody else said something, I was beginning to feel a bit inadequate.

 

[VanB]

For me, from a man's point of view, anal sex is infinitely more intimate than vaginal sex. It implies a lot more trust and confidence and for a lot of women it's the ultimate in terms of what hey're prepared to give. There are plenty of women who would have vaginal sex with a man with whom they wouldn't entertain anal sex because it is too intimate.

Not everyone is the same and that's only the experience that I, and my friends, have had.

 

[Blindinthedark]

VanB you make an interesting point about the male perspective.
I don't think the majority of males get much anal stimulation so for men it only appears to be more intimate.

I mean I see both sides of the argument and they both make sense. I guess it's mostly about preference after that.

I think KillerMuffin said it best
"Intimacy is the connection between two people who have let down their guards enough to touch each other emotionally."

and heterotic ... you and me both. I mean Ron Jermy I'm not but I always thought I was within that average range.

Thanks everyone. I appreciate your comments.

 

[cymbidia]

ther can be something very intimate when the male allows the female to penetrate hi somehow...the intimacy lies in the surrender, the vulnerability, the willingness to take the female role, the trust you give by opening a sensitive area physically and eotionally

Such is the view of a sexual submissive. Have you seen this thread?
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=39661

If you're interested, please don't try to read the whole thing. Just breeze through it to get to the business end, 50-60 pages from the beginning.
cym
~who is anticipating hot wet screaming wild BDSM-style anal sex again on Wednesday as part of the hours of sceneing that are planned~




Oh.. Blindinthedark? heterotic? Sopmething that was 20" long and 5" thick wouldn't be going there in me unless it was some kinda medically necessary test. Well. Okay. Or a colon tube in the hands of someone who knew how to use it. But in no other case!

 

[april-wine]

Hmmmmm reading up on colon tubes.............Ohhhhhhh cym.......

 

[cymbidia]

~giggling wildly~
C'mon, april.
You already knew i was a pervert.

 

[april-wine]

See studying endoscopy is paying off better then I dreamed........pstttttt cym i passed that course with 91% lol.......