Anal intercourse

[curious2know]

After several years of mariage, I have this recurrent fantasy of my wife putting on a strap on penis and screwing me.
I have never had a homosexual or a bi-sexual intercourse in my life , nor do I want to do so (at least not counsiously).
The problem? She would go ballastic if she knew that I had even thought about it.
Have any of your readers had this fetish and if so were you successfull in getting your wife indulge your fantasy and how did you accomplish it?

 

[arljjc]

curious2know

Om the amature pic board there is a thread called Chicks with Dicks. I'm sure many of the people there could answer your quesiton. As for me, I have not had a women do that but woould like to, I have had a man (I'm bi.) Highly recommend it.

 

[midwestyankee]

After several years of mariage, I have this recurrent fantasy of my wife putting on a strap on penis and screwing me.
I have never had a homosexual or a bi-sexual intercourse in my life , nor do I want to do so (at least not counsiously).
The problem? She would go ballastic if she knew that I had even thought about it.
Have any of your readers had this fetish and if so were you successfull in getting your wife indulge your fantasy and how did you accomplish it?

This is not an uncommon fantasy or desire. And it is not a fetish. If you look around Lit, perhaps by doing a search on the term "strap-on," you will find numerous threads dedicated to discussion of men receiving anal sex from a female partner wearing a strap-on.

 

[shmily]

there is currently a thread on the Playground - Wife does me with a strap-on, which is very interesting.

You might start by asking her to massage your prostrate while giving you head.
Or if she likes anal - ask her how it feels and that you would like to feel it also.

I have massaged his prostrate while giving head he liked that. He suprised me one night by asking me to use a vibe. His orgasims are much more intense. We have tried several times with other vibes and things - Believe me there is nothing Gay about it. Just a good feeling.
Try it. All she can do is say no.

 

[Lager than most]

Try taking turns

Have you had anal sex with your wife? My GF and I have been having anal for a while, with me penitrating her. A little while ago she found out about women fucking their men with strapons, and it turned her on. She convinced me because if I got to do it to her than she should get to do it to me. You could try hinting at that to see if wants to give it a try.

If you haven't had anal with your wife try incorporating some anal play into your sex life. Play with her ass while you go down on her. It's very importyant to go slow and remember that a finger feels big down there. If she likes it do it more and see if she is comfortable using her fingers on you. Make this a long process, Months or weeks, not hours and it could become a normal part of your relationship.

I hope that helps, good luck.

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

Well why do you think she would go ballistic? Some women, such as my girlfriend, like the idea of anally stimulating their mate. We have yet to use a strapon, but it's on our to do list and we have done quiiiite a bit with vibrators. Quite a few women around Lit feel the same way, of course since we ARE on this website at all we arn't quite normal people though.

Trust me anal play is veeerrrrry worth it if you have an understanding lover.

-Zergplex

 

[curious2know]

Thanks for your answers

Please overlook the misspellngs in my original post- I got so excited about the possability that there may be an answer to my question, that I didn't check my spelling.
In answer to your question concerning my fuckin g her in the ass, I did once to my total delight and to her her repugnance .
She said that it hurt and for me not to do it again, which I don't understand. I have tried sticking three fingers in my anus and loved the sensations that it caused. I don't know if I reached my prostate or not, but I know that I came like I haven't done since the first time that I masturbated at an very early age.
Unfortunatelly, jacking of alone, dose'n't get the job done.
I have seen advertisments for fuck machines, which I may eventually turn to and imagine that it is her fucking me, but I am obssessed with the idea of it being the real thing.
I am open to any suggestions please help me!

 

[Bobmi357]

Re: Thanks for your answers

Please overlook the misspellngs in my original post- I got so excited about the possability that there may be an answer to my question, that I didn't check my spelling.
In answer to your question concerning my fuckin g her in the ass, I did once to my total delight and to her her repugnance .
She said that it hurt and for me not to do it again, which I don't understand. I have tried sticking three fingers in my anus and loved the sensations that it caused. I don't know if I reached my prostate or not, but I know that I came like I haven't done since the first time that I masturbated at an very early age.
Unfortunatelly, jacking of alone, dose'n't get the job done.
I have seen advertisments for fuck machines, which I may eventually turn to and imagine that it is her fucking me, but I am obssessed with the idea of it being the real thing.
I am open to any suggestions please help me!

First off, don't worry about spelling here. Most of us are fluent in typo.

Ok, you've had anal sex once with your wife and she's said she basically hated it. Like it or not, even it if feels good to you to have 3 fingers stuck up YOUR butt, you have to recognize that it didn't feel good to her and abide by her decision.

This isn't to say that she will always be against anal sex, but for today and probably for the near future, its not something she's willing to be on the recieving end of. Its her body, her choice, you can either live with that, or go find yourself another wife. Plain and Simple.

Now, just because she isn't interested in recieving anal sex, it doesn't mean she's not interested in giving it.

You might try suggesting that the next time she's going down on you, that she maybe play a little with your anus. Nothing major, just suggest it and gage her reaction. The simple fact is, if she isn't interested, and isn't willing to talk about it, negotiate about it, then it just isn't going to happen. Its entirely up to you to know if this is something worth breaking a relationship over. Quite honestly I don't think it is, but everyone is different. Relationships are built on compromise, if the sex is great in all aspects but this, then you can probably live without it and still have a very happy relationship.

Not everyone is into anal sex, on these boards you will find those that like it, those that love it, and those that despise it for whatever reason. Your wife might fall into that last category. But you'll never know if you don't try to bring the topic up with her and work it out.

 

[freddyandeddy]

Is your wife open to watching porn? If so, rent or purchase "Bend Over Boyfriend," by 'accident' and pop it in for "what the heck" reasons. Guage her reaction and MILDLY suggest you'd be open to something like it yourself. If she freaks, you have the "just kidding" angle as your out. If she is interested, go a little further over the next few weeks and look at strap-ons together on the web. Let her pick one out and see if she'll go for ordering it.

 

[floweringlotus]

Hi... I'm posting this on several anal threads so forgive me if you have already read this. I'm just hoping to get some ideas and don't know who reads what......

Last Sunday, a week ago now, my lover and I had anal intercourse for the first time. We have played in the area quite a bit, and we have both inserted fingers, licked, kissed, rubbed, spanked, etc. He has penetrated a bit with the head, but this was the first time he went in as far as he did with about half of his penis, thrusting as in vaginal intercourse.

At first I was tight and it was kind of sore, but then I opened up. That is when he started thrusting. He used a lot of lube, and is very careful, so that part was okay. I was nervous while we were doing it and I'm not sure I let go entirely.

I wasn't sore right afterwards, but he was kind enough to place a warmed wet wash cloth against my butt three times, re-warming it as it got cold. I really appreciated the attention.

I have been very sore, however, for almost the entire week. Yesterday it seemed to let up finally, and today isn't bad, but I'm wondering if this is normal after the first time, or if I should be concerned.

I HAVE been concerned, which probably hasn't helped me relax any. The soreness hasn't just been around the opening, it has gone up inside and has accompanied lower abdominal discomfort similar to menstraul cramps. During most of the week, it was uncomfortable to sit, to drive, and to lean forward. More comfortable to stand or lie down.

I'd appreciate any insight - well, let me rephrase that - no 'in sight' allowed <grin> sorry, it's my wry sense of humor...


floweringlotus

 

[sexxyange1]

I had a question that I didn't see adressed as i scanned other threads on anal.


My SO and I recently had anal sex for the first time, it was enjoyable and only mildly painful. My SO's only complaint was that (in his words)"took a while to open up" and " i'm pushing so hard it was a lil uncomfortable".

Mind you the discomfort was his. I thoroughly enjoyed it.

My question is are there any tips to make entry easier or does this just come with practice?

How we did it was we lubed up his cock and my ass and then he slowly worked in the head once passed the first barrier he began to gently thrust his way in.

Any advice would be great thanks.


On another note is it possible for a woman to cum from being fucked in t he ass with out any vaginal/clitorial stimulation?

 

[ReadyOne]

IOn another note is it possible for a woman to cum from being fucked in the ass with out any vaginal/clitorial stimulation?

Yes.

I once had a gf...

A couple of tweaks to her head, like talk in the car and slapping her butt as we went in the door...

Next drag her into the bedroom, or go get the kit from the bedroom, and then make a small production of getting the lube out and a condom ready...

Bare her body or just drop her jeans, bend her over the bed of the sofa or the table or put her on her back, part her legs, and make one pass of lube around her rosebud...

Then after a slow entry, start thrusting for maybe a whole minute and her orgasm would start. No stimulation of clit or vagina. Just her taking my cock up her ass in the right frame of mind.

When her orgasm subsided, I could go very shallow and rapid for half a minute or so, then start deep thrusts aiming toward her belly button. She would start another orgasm after just two or three pokes at her a-spot or g-spot or what ever her sweet spot was.

I could also thrust continually at slow to medium speed and she would begin waves of orgasms starting at maybe two minute intervals then shortening up.

Her orgasms gasping and talking, really, really excited me, and it was hard to hold back. The power to create, foster, and even compel a sexual response in a partner is an incredible turn-on.

Once when I held out longer than I thought I could, she ended up losing control of her body, helpless to manage her flopping and twitching limbs, with her breathing so irregular that I thought she might be choking. It was the best climax she ever had from any kind of sex we ever had.

I discovered that finally taking my own orgasm was the thing to do because her anal orgasms didn't carry over straight into PIV sex. Stripping off the condom and switching holes didn't start things off again for her.

She needed some play with her clit and lips and fingering or tonguing before she wanted her vagina filled with my dick. I was younger then, and could recover enough to enter her pussy just about the time she was telling me to start fucking her.

So to answer your question: Yes you can get anal orgasms without clit/vaginal stimulation. But I concede this gf of mine a very rare species for the speed at which she could come with anal from a standing start.

My question to you anal hoers... After an anal orgasm, can your lover switch to PIV and get you swiftly off again, just like a quick position change?

 

[sexxyange1]

Worked for me. A quick condom switch and we were off to the races!

 

[Keith36]

My wife can cum from anal, without any other stimulation. However, she cums easily.

It will get easier with time. Play some, use some toys, and use nice lube.