Anal gaping. How to...?

[SweetErika]

Bathe. Use condoms and gloves for penetration. When he pulls his cock or fingers or fist out (hell, they even make gloves that go up to the elbow!), he pulls the protection off, turning it inside out, and throws it right in the trash. You can buy black nitrile gloves, condoms and toys if you want any 'residue' on them to be virtually invisible. You won't be killing yourself with enemas and neither of you will see or have to deal with whatever might come out (which shouldn't be much of anything if your gut is healthy, and dietary suggestions for a healthier gut is certainly advice you can get from a gastroenterologist or nutritionist without embarassment). Problem solved?

 

[analgirl69]

Bathe. Use condoms and gloves for penetration. When he pulls his cock or fingers or fist out (hell, they even make gloves that go up to the elbow!), he pulls the protection off, turning it inside out, and throws it right in the trash. You can buy black nitrile gloves, condoms and toys if you want any 'residue' on them to be virtually invisible. You won't be killing yourself with enemas and neither of you will see or have to deal with whatever might come out (which shouldn't be much of anything if your gut is healthy, and dietary suggestions for a healthier gut is certainly advice you can get from a gastroenterologist or nutritionist without embarassment). Problem solved?

I bathe at least once a day- but that doesn't help what may or may not be deep in my butt. There is also no way he would use condoms. We tried that once cus, as sexy as it feels for him to cum there, it was giving me a stomach ache later. He hated it so we took it off. Doesn't work. I don't think he wants to use a glove either. I think he wants to feel what he is doing inside. My gut is healthy- I'm a health nut-but once every blue moon something happens. When you do it this often, it's unavoidable.

 

[Lord Pmann]

You probably never watched it, but there was a movie called ED TV. They described that as the rolling head syndrome. After an accident or whatever on tv, you don't want to watch cus it's gross, a freakin' head is rolling down the street, but you do anyway cus you just can't tear your eyes away. Lol. It's like the scary parts of a movie. You cover your eyes with your hand but part the fingers so you can see anyway.

This is spot on. I keep coming back here even though I'm scared shitless (takes bow for terrific pun).

But even through all of this, I have no clue what anal gaping is.

 

[analgirl69]

This is spot on. I keep coming back here even though I'm scared shitless (takes bow for terrific pun).

But even through all of this, I have no clue what anal gaping is.

It's in like every anal porno. Then there are lots dedicated to it. I personally think it looks gross and don't understand why a guy would want to see that, but people like what they like. I like stranger stuff than my husband so I won't judge. Lol. It's when someone/thing pulls out and the hole is open a bit after, kind of pulsating. Some people can make that hole really big, some have it really small. Either way, it isn't just closed right back up again for a few seconds. If you are nervous/unrelaxed how ever, you close immediately after they pull out-a la me.

 

[Lord Pmann]

It's in like every anal porno. Then there are lots dedicated to it. I personally think it looks gross and don't understand why a guy would want to see that, but people like what they like. I like stranger stuff than my husband so I won't judge. Lol. It's when someone/thing pulls out and the hole is open a bit after, kind of pulsating. Some people can make that hole really big, some have it really small. Either way, it isn't just closed right back up again for a few seconds. If you are nervous/unrelaxed how ever, you close immediately after they pull out-a la me.

I've honestly never had that desire. Again, there are some things I can't unknow. :/

 

[analgirl69]

I've honestly never had that desire. Again, there are some things I can't unknow. :/

Hahahaha!
Well, I mean I don't understand where the desire comes from, but hey. I like to accommodate, so here I am on my merry quest for info. Cus like you said, you can't "unknow" something.. I learned it by searching his porn to do things he liked but wouldn't tell me, and I knew (er.. thought i did.) what I was getting into. But it's all good.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Hahahaha!
Well, I mean I don't understand where the desire comes from, but hey. I like to accommodate, so here I am on my merry quest for info. Cus like you said, you can't "unknow" something.. I learned it by searching his porn to do things he liked but wouldn't tell me, and I knew (er.. thought i did.) what I was getting into. But it's all good.

And if you come across "2 girls, 1 cup"?

 

[analgirl69]

And if you come across "2 girls, 1 cup"?

Eww. Lol. Thank God I know I wouldn't. Lol.

 

[SweetErika]

I bathe at least once a day- but that doesn't help what may or may not be deep in my butt. There is also no way he would use condoms. We tried that once cus, as sexy as it feels for him to cum there, it was giving me a stomach ache later. He hated it so we took it off. Doesn't work. I don't think he wants to use a glove either. I think he wants to feel what he is doing inside. My gut is healthy- I'm a health nut-but once every blue moon something happens. When you do it this often, it's unavoidable.

I get it. Your partner would rather have you unhealthy, or even dead, than use condoms and gloves so you can both partake in frequent anal pleasure without you harming yourself with too many enemas. It sounds like you've got yourself a real winner there!

HE should know enough to research all of the risks of anal sex/play (and whatever you two do that's associated with it) himself. That would be his job as a responsible adult.

All of the healthy food and exercise in the world isn't going to help you if you screw up your body with too many enemas. It's like someone figuring it's OK to smoke because they work out hard everyday. If you were really a 'health nut' I'm thinking you'd tell your partner you will be cutting out the enemas so he's just going to have to use condoms and gloves for your personal comfort from now on. You'd refuse to knowingly harm yourself when there's a really easy solution that won't harm either of you. Infuckingsane.

I'm sorry, but I just can't conceive of someone choosing to harm themselves because their partner prefers bareback. Would you let him do you without a condom if he had HIV, or another incurable STI, just because he doesn't care for using condoms?

 

[EMPRESSLAINIE]

I take one or two enemas daily and have for 20 yrs. There is no harm done, and I don't have to be bothered going to the toilet when I am busy otherwise.

 

[analgirl69]

I get it. Your partner would rather have you unhealthy, or even dead, than use condoms and gloves so you can both partake in frequent anal pleasure without you harming yourself with too many enemas. It sounds like you've got yourself a real winner there!

HE should know enough to research all of the risks of anal sex/play (and whatever you two do that's associated with it) himself. That would be his job as a responsible adult.

All of the healthy food and exercise in the world isn't going to help you if you screw up your body with too many enemas. It's like someone figuring it's OK to smoke because they work out hard everyday. If you were really a 'health nut' I'm thinking you'd tell your partner you will be cutting out the enemas so he's just going to have to use condoms and gloves for your personal comfort from now on. You'd refuse to knowingly harm yourself when there's a really easy solution that won't harm either of you. Infuckingsane.

I'm sorry, but I just can't conceive of someone choosing to harm themselves because their partner prefers bareback. Would you let him do you without a condom if he had HIV, or another incurable STI, just because he doesn't care for using condoms?

Well, no, but since he was a virgin that's not an issue. But I get that's not your point..
He's not like that. He does care. A lot. He's just.. a little lazy when it comes to research. He doesn't look up anything that isn't fun. He did TRY to do it with a condom. It just sucked. I don't want to be the wife who gave him something and took it away. I 'm not a bitch. I love him.

I guess I should specify- I am not a health nut for pretty much any purpose other than to look good. I lost 120lbs, got thin, and then gained a bit back from being pregnant which is mostly gone.. but because of how I exercise and eat. It's not because I care about my body. That may sound horrible, but it's true. If it wasn't, I wouldn't have suffered eating disorders like I have to look more appealing. Also part of my ocd.
I'm saying this so you can see- I go to extreme lengths to be idealistic, or else I feel shitty about myself and become very depressed. I'm honestly still not happy with myself and have a lot of self esteem issues. Having said that, if I felt there was a better, safer option- I would. Unfortunately it feels bad and is not really an option afterall.

I know you are going to tell me I am ridiculous. I've heard it before. But if my best friend can't fix what's broken, well.. It's just hard to change things even i they may be bad for you. Last note- I have severe ocd (obsessive compulsive disorder) so it's not like I don't want to forgo the enema- but, well, it's the only way to ease my over-anxious mind.

Sorry if my post makes you irritated again. I don't mean to be frustrating.

 

[analgirl69]

I take one or two enemas daily and have for 20 yrs. There is no harm done, and I don't have to be bothered going to the toilet when I am busy otherwise.

Just water enemas? Are you dependent on them? (Can you go without taking one? I heard that can happen..)

 

[Asho]

Asho

I love ass holes

 

[Lord Pmann]

I love ass holes

Brilliant first post.

 

[analgirl69]

Brilliant first post.

Bahahahahahahha my thought exactly...lol.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I had to quote it so it will live forever in infamy. What a hysterical post. "I love assholes"

Perhaps Asho and I would get on well then. Several people here have certainly muttered "asshole" whilst reading my posts.

 

[analgirl69]

I had to quote it so it will live forever in infamy. What a hysterical post. "I love assholes"

Perhaps Asho and I would get on well then. Several people here have certainly muttered "asshole" whilst reading my posts.

HAHAHAHAHAHA!

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

The excessive enemas may very well be causing the runnier poop. Ideal bowel movements are soft enough to form an 'S' shape, but firm enough to hold their shape, and fairly long.

Is that an upper case 'S' (S) or a lower case 'S' (s)?