Anal - first time - Just how painful is it ?

[BadBhoy]

Guys (or gals) do you remember the first time you took it up the ass ?

Bi-curious newbie just a little anxious that will hurt like hell, any first-time advice greatly appreciated.

 

[Nabokov]

My first time was great. It was with a female friend using her strap on. She was rimming me, which is what caused me to ask to be fucked in the first place. Before she did it, she lubed me up real good and took her time. There was some discomfort to start with, but once she was in, it was amazing.

 

[QueryGirl]

Whist! now, BadBhoy...

When it's good, it's very very good.

What I've determined is the key to anal sex is a partner whom I trust completely not to hurt me. He's always excited to participate, but never ever is he willing to rush things. And my abilities vary from one day to the next...

So. That said.

Breathe. Remember that your lover (if he or she is worth anything!) wants for you to feel so very special and warm and good.

Rimjobs. (oh, heavens! yes!)

Lube, lube, lube.

If you're on your knees, remember to open your hips and edge your knees back towards your partner's when you can.

Ask him to place at least one hand on your back and rub your skin lightly, particularly over your lower back. When I'm fucking my partner, I've noticed that just rubbing his lower back, with my hand sweeping back towards my own body, simultaneously pulls him back onto the purple silicone strap-on I use. Too much pressure on your back, though, and you'll be taking it too deeply too quickly, likely.

Stop if you can't do any more. The first two or three times that I tried with my partner, I got all keyed up and anxious and asked that we stop. We did. However, I was also so very crazy turned on by what we were doing that after about 3.5 minutes, I asked to try again. And oooooooh! my! The second time was the charm those nights!

Just remember, you're having fun -- loving and trusting one another (if all is as I believe it ought to be in a perfect world). There's no prize, other than this crazy-sexy experience.

And once again -- breathe. In and out.

Good luck! Oh, I do so hope you enjoy yourself!

QG

PS -- When my partner is on his back, he always asks that I slowly lean over to kiss him...and that's how the dildo slides in...by me just leaning into him...eyes locked. <shiver> Damn, he's a sexy man!

 

[llyra]

I think the best position for beginner's anal is spooning - doggie style is something that you need to work up to in my experience. The tension in the muscles tend to make doggie more painful.

Spoon with your lover, rub about a liter of lube into and around your ass, and just have him rub the head of his dick over your asshole, again and again, until you feel ready. Push back against him - you'll feel quite an intense stinging pain as the widest part of the head pops past your sphincter. From there stay still and have him masturbate you until the stinging fades, then gradually work your way back so that his dick starts to slide in.

Don't be afraid to stop and wait while the pain fades, and know that quite probably by the end of the first ass fuck you'll be in heaven

Alcohol REALLY helps too. Helps you relax.

llyra xxx

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v281/alexandrasmum/ass.jpg

 

[Sallad]

All those are good pointers, but you don't even have to have ANY stinging. I found the best way to get started is of course LUBE LUBE LUBE, but also a little stretching with one, then two fingers is very helpful.

Always remember that if you really trust the person you're with then you can relax knowing that he will stop if you can't take it.

VERY IMPORTANT: If either of you shave (esp. your balls or your butt) DO NOT use aftershave or any alcohol based anything. It will burn SOOOOO badly if either of you do

 

[ifitsfundoit]

Guys (or gals) do you remember the first time you took it up the ass ?

Bi-curious newbie just a little anxious that will hurt like hell, any first-time advice greatly appreciated.

It's a muscle just like any other. So, invest a little time in warming up. Get your partner to use a tongue, a finger, or two or more. Use lots of lube, and take your time.

Above all else, remember that it's going to be fantastic

It's well worth the wait.

 

[blackieone]

go to puckerup.com,then click onthis

there's a FAQ.

 

[QueryGirl]

blackieone is right!

I was one of those ladies who was shy to the idea -- though even years before I tried anal penetration, I would fantasize about it (to the great chagrin of my extremely fundamentalist ex-husband).

I went through three men with whom it HURT to try or even to think about -- all because it was that goal-oriented activity that was spoken of. My current partner (an absolute dreamboat) helps me relax so wonderfully, so naturally.

And the orgasms. My. I wouldn't trade 'em.

More luck!

QG

PS -- blackieone, how'd YOU get so smart?!

 

[blackieone]

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[Snazzyassets]

Everyone here has great tips. If its your first time, your big issue is anxiety. I know I had it the first few times and they were NOT enjoyable experiences. Now that I am with my husband we have taken the time to explore the most enjoyable way for us both and I love it now. My personal favorite place / position is in the shower. That way I can back up to him when I am ready and I can take it at my own pace. Good luck!! Hope this helps

 

[QueryGirl]

in the interests of experimentation

hehehe...

Last night, after some me-on-top intercourse and other shenanigans, I cuddled up to my partner as llyra suggested and spooned with him as he slid his lubricated cock into my bum. <sigh> Such heaven. He was licking and grazing his teeth across the nape of my neck (my "yes" spot) and I was just crazed.

After that, I was up on my knees -- spastic vibe running against my clit -- and having just the most wonderful orgasm. God and goddess, how I adore the this man and the ways he makes me feel!

As a bonus, after I'd been reduced to a quivering mess, I got to use the same vibe on him.

All in the interests of science and the experimental method, of course. <wink>

I really want to have anal intercourse with me on my back -- more "missionary" -- as he adores kissing (as do I, for that matter). <musing> Maybe that's next!

And hey, BadBhoy -- anything to report?? <grin>

Keep care, All!

QG

 

[BadBhoy]

Not yet

Nothing to report as yet...

If / (when?) fantasy becomes reality I will certainly report back.

Anyone fancy a cherry ?

lol

 

[slimchance]

Guys (or gals) do you remember the first time you took it up the ass ?

Bi-curious newbie just a little anxious that will hurt like hell, any first-time advice greatly appreciated.

i have a friend who's married. i'd been sucking him for a while and he kept wanting to fuck me. i never thought i wanted it, but the more i thought about it, and reading things other guys said, i started wanting to try it. his wife always worked weekends. so when i went over there i told him he could fuck me this time. so we tried to lube me good and he started. he's maybe 7 inches, and thick. he tried to be gentle, but it hurt like hell 'till he got it all in and started stroking. then i guess the lube got spread more and it started feeling really good. i went back the next day, (sun.) and he fucked me again. that's when it hurt the most. i guess it was too soon. i was sore and it kinda burned too. but i let him do it anyway. then i stopped for 2 weeks before i let him fuck me again. and it was a lot better. doesn't hurt now at all. but he'll come in about 5 minutes. i'd like it if he held back for awhile and got me on my stomach with my legs spread with him laying on top and fucked me for like 20 or 30 mins.

 

[cracker4444]

i have a friend who's married. i'd been sucking him for a while and he kept wanting to fuck me. i never thought i wanted it, but the more i thought about it, and reading things other guys said, i started wanting to try it. his wife always worked weekends. so when i went over there i told him he could fuck me this time. so we tried to lube me good and he started. he's maybe 7 inches, and thick. he tried to be gentle, but it hurt like hell 'till he got it all in and started stroking. then i guess the lube got spread more and it started feeling really good. i went back the next day, (sun.) and he fucked me again. that's when it hurt the most. i guess it was too soon. i was sore and it kinda burned too. but i let him do it anyway. then i stopped for 2 weeks before i let him fuck me again. and it was a lot better. doesn't hurt now at all. but he'll come in about 5 minutes. i'd like it if he held back for awhile and got me on my stomach with my legs spread with him laying on top and fucked me for like 20 or 30 mins.

Is it better when he fucks you for 20 miniutes or would you rather think your hot enough to get him off right away?

 

[slimchance]

Is it better when he fucks you for 20 miniutes or would you rather think your hot enough to get him off right away?

i would like it better. he just can't last that long. but sometimes he fucks me twice. he will last longer the second time.

 

[bi_asian_guy]

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[sigsauerprinces]

the first time i had anal sex, i didn't really want to do it, i did it for my partner cos HE wanted it. i expected it to be horrible, honestly..i had no interest in it. he used a ton of lube and went very slowly. the first push in hurt, but he knew to push in and then just wait...he waited maybe five minutes...and then started thrusting...and i was just like omg...holy fuck this feels fucking amazing.

i've liked it ever since

 

[Shankara20]

he used a ton of lube and went very slowly. the first push in hurt, but he knew to push in and then just wait...he waited maybe five minutes...and then started thrusting...and i was just like omg...holy fuck this feels fucking amazing.

i've liked it ever since

I would suggest for the first timer that you and your partner agree that the ass will move onto the dick (or whatever) & lube, lube, lube.

That is to say - have the head of the dick placed up to just touching the asshole than let the ass do the moving - at its own rate feeling safe and opening up and asking the dick (or whatever) in.

Some one posted "Alcohol REALLY helps too. Helps you relax." I suggest that when first starting alcohol is a BAD idea. It could keep you from being able to hear your body saying "WRONG" and thereby preventing something from being hurt.

Ass play should NEVER hurt in a bad way. Once you know your way around your butt you might even come to see being called an "ass hole" a compliment.

 

[FurryFury]

Take it slow, open it up with something smaller than at cock at first, use lots of lube. Don't get so excited you try to go faster. It is great when done well, yes, even the first time.

Fury

 

[fishfndr]

I had always been very curious about anal, both giving and getting. Turns out that my mistress was willing to oblige me. She started me out with smaller vibrators, beads, and plenty of lube. One time she surprised me with a LONG strap-on. It was thicker and longer than I thought I could take, but I trusted her. She took it slow, but I was so tense that it was more painful than pleasurable at first. Funny thing was that as she went deeper, the pain went away and it only hurt when she pulled out too far.

That first time was with me on my knees. Next time I was on my back and she used her hand to move it in and out while she was sucking me. What an orgasm!!!

So while I'm by no means an expert, I would suggest NOT being on your knees, don't spare the lube, and relax!

 

[Chicklet]

Man, everyone keeps saying "lube lube lube" and I didn't get ANY lube! But it was still relatively comfortable, without too much whining on my part The key was in my mental state and the ability to get over the fear of what was actually happening enough to *relax* and enjoy it. I found it extremely pleasurable.

 

[FurryFury]

I loved it on my knees the first time and I really was scared and didn't think I would. I only wanted more after that.

Fury

 

[borderline]

Guys (or gals) do you remember the first time you took it up the ass ?

I'd had anal sex with girls before, so I knew not to rush in like a porno star my first time getting banged by a guy.

After loosening up with fingers and a small vibe, (and about a gallon of KY) I started with the missionary position based on what an old girlfriend had shown me when I first started it with her. Once I got used to his cock, then I rolled up to doggy. I like it better that way, but even now, especially if it's been awhile since someone's been in my ass, I always start with missionary.

What's kind of ironic, is that when I do have anal sex with women, I get kudos on how much nicer it was than when they did it or tried it with their ex's. Maybe it's just bedroom banter, but knowing first-hand how painful it can be if you just shove it in their ass like "Butt Bunnies #4" or "Oz", does make you take your time with your partner.

As an aside, the first time a girl used a strapon on me was her idea to dissuade me out of fucking her ass. Pretty much, "I'll let you fuck mine if you let me fuck yours first." She didn't know I was bi, and by then had been with a couple of guys, so after pounding my ass for what felt like hours and I still WASN'T screaming in agony, she gave up and lubed up. She liked it, because we did it regularly after that, most of the time at her request... and of course, the strapon didn't go to waste either...

 

[Chicklet]

lol borderline, that story about the strapon is fantastic. Thanks for making me smile.

 

[Baskin Robbins]

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