an organised life...

[dolf]

ok, the thing i miss most about the ex is having my life organised.

for me there was a board in the kitchen where my duties for each day were listed {from laundry to sex} he decided where we went, what we did, who we saw, what we bought....i don't think i had to make a single choice the whole time we were together, lol.

out of curiosity, how much does your partner run your life...or the other way round...???


xx

 

[ownedsubgal]

i have a daily schedule, but it's fairly relaxed. it gives me plenty of time to do all the things i have to do, as well as take care of any extra things that may come up unexpectedly during the day..my Master is a pretty spontaneous person so a rigid schedule for his slave would just not work for him. things like eating, drinking, household chores, working out, tv time, etc., are on the schedule. when he is not with me, i can go to the bathroom whenever i need to. leaving the house alone is strictly forbidden. so as long as i stay indoors and get all my chores and things done for the day, i'm as free as a bird hehe.

 

[Quint]

Nope. We're both too self-centered. He has his life to which he attends, I have mine. Right now they're both too 100% for me to fairly expect him to guide mine as well, not to mention I'm learning some necessary life skills by doing this on my own. I know that the List works for lots of couples and has been a good tool for us in the past, but it isn't practical for us right now.

 

[graceanne]

Who needs him to organize me? lol I have on my fridge a list of things that needs to be done on a daily, weekly, monthly, bi yearly and yearly basis. Then I have a loose, flexible daily schedule, so tht I can keep myself on shedule. Now I dont' always follow it, cause that's life, but it helps me to have some guidlines, I get more done if I know how much time I should be spending working on something. It keeps me from getting sidetraked, too, cause i"m ADD and that happens. Easily. I've been known to spend the entire time I'm in the kitchen cleaning, just scrubbing the counters. Cause I get so involved in what i'm doing that I loose track of time. And I set up all this by myself. I even did it on the computer so it looks neat. Then I laminated it, so it wouldn't get nasty, and taped it up there. Yes, I know, I'm anal retentive.

 

[luxey313]

ok, the thing i miss most about the ex is having my life organised.

for me there was a board in the kitchen where my duties for each day were listed {from laundry to sex} he decided where we went, what we did, who we saw, what we bought....i don't think i had to make a single choice the whole time we were together, lol.

out of curiosity, how much does your partner run your life...or the other way round...???


xx

That sounds so comforting.. knowing what to expect. (To a certain extent )

 

[catalina_francisco]

He doesn't have the time to be so organised. I know what is expected of me, and sometimes he will issue a special order for the day. I atually find that a lot more difficult as if it is given the night before, something unexpected happens or it is a particularly bad day, it requires extra effort to remember there has been a specified task given....even worse is when I decide to do it later in the day and he comes home earler than usual. Part of my serving him requires I use my skills to do things he does not have time for, make decisions he might not wish to deal with, and make sure everything runs smoothly. In taking that responsibility it is expected I wil not do it acording to my personal taste or desires, but more so I do it in a way he would wish it done. Makes life interesting.

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[dolf]

Re: Re: an organised life...

That sounds so comforting.. knowing what to expect. (To a certain extent )

very! after the initial joy of freedom i soon plummited and realised that i'd forgotten how to run my own life

i'm getting better.
xx

 

[FungiUg]

I don't organise my partner, nor she me. I would do this for a submissive if I needed to, but it's not really a desire of mine.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Grins Wickedly

and glides quietly out of the thread.

BTW, do a quick search for a poll on management/micromanagement of a partner's activities.

 

[dolf]

Re: Grins Wickedly

and glides quietly out of the thread.

BTW, do a quick search for a poll on management/micromanagement of a partner's activities.

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xx

 

[Marquis]

Man, that would be hot. Almost makes me miss being in an LTR.

 

[graceanne]

I just know that if I don't have my lists I get spacey. I dont' know if it's the illness or whatever, but my memory gets worse like every day it seems. I have all my lists to help me keep on schedule. If I don't have schedules I get flakey.

Besides I need the structure. I need to know what's going on and I need the security. I do much better if I know what i'm doing, and what I need to do. I have no problems with deciding not to do something on the list, for whatever reason, but i get mad when I dont' do it cause I forgot. It just frusterates me.

 

[silver_inari]

ok, the thing i miss most about the ex is having my life organised.

for me there was a board in the kitchen where my duties for each day were listed {from laundry to sex} he decided where we went, what we did, who we saw, what we bought....i don't think i had to make a single choice the whole time we were together, lol.

out of curiosity, how much does your partner run your life...or the other way round...???


xx

My partner doesn't give me lists of things, but for awhile he was really harsh on me about neatness, at least until his obsessive-compulsiveness took another direction and got me off the hook. In general though I'm not a terribly organized person, and lists help me get things done. If I have a list of things I have to get done, I'll actually start working on them immediately when I get home and won't stop until they are finished. Just my nature.

It probably would help if he directed a few more things on a daily basis but I don't want to bother him with silly things, so I take care of stuff myself.

 

[dolf]

leaving the house alone is strictly forbidden. so as long as i stay indoors and get all my chores and things done for the day, i'm as free as a bird hehe.

that sounds oddly appealing, lol, and i'm not sure why???
utterly impractical if you have kids though...
xx

 

[Spirit Guide]

The cats pretty much run our lives