An identification thread Please

Gender: Most definitely male. (And despite my posts to Never to the contrary, I'm not cutting anything off!) ;)
Personally I'm not offended by a little male-to-male flirting, though I know it makes many guys feel squirrelly.

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: I'm not in the "lifestyle," and don't particularly want to be. Though pretty much all the good sex I've had has had elements of BDSM in it, I am a lightweight, and probably would not be comfortable in a 24/7 relationship.

Availability for educating: Well, I doubt you'll learn anything from me, but I love answering questions, and I always return pm's.

Years involved: There was some play involved with my very first girlfriend, thirteen years ago. And like I said, most of the good sex I've had since then involved D/s.

Change in style: When I came here, I still nourished fantasies of subbing. I've pretty much given up on that.

Age: 31.
 
Re: An identification thread Please

Sex: male/straight

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: light to moderate bdsm or fetish play, we used to do more but we have both put on weight and our stuff doesn't fit any more. :(

Availability for educating: I love to dispense advice whether I know what I am talking about or not. If you want to PM me to show that you know more than me... don't.

Years involved: I have known I was kinky since about age 8. (really!)

Change in style: I used to play the sub role (or want to) more and now I am much more comfortable on top.

Age: 30 and pissed off about it!
 
The DRx replies

Todd-'o'-Vision wrote *on the wrong thread <grin>*

DRxBlue is that your Sub or Domme . . .
In your avatar?

Dang your one lucky dude.

Anyways, you said some interesting stuff up above in this thread about that I seem the type that would listen to what you would have to say care to elaborate?

Thanks for your insight.

That's no ordinary girl in my av! That's *an expectant hush* superlittlegirl

i AM a lucky dude! :D She has, in the 11½ weeks since i met her (here at Lit) become a most treasured and delightful comrade.

Just because i hang out with perverts doesn't mean i AM one!<lol> i'm working on it... but she's NOT my sub nor is she my Domme. We are wholly self-owned (yet somehow connected) individuals.

Though we would seem, on first examination, to be a square peg and a round hole situation, (now DON'T get all Freudian on me!) she has neatly squared the circle, and i have become a perfectly rounded square. It just works. Thank you, Universe!

As for YOU! Mr. -'o'-Vision, i read a bit about your transformation from basically a non-believer into an interesting student of the scriptures among other things. i just got the impression that if you asked a question, you listen to the answer given.

That in itself makes it worth answering an inquiry. You also seem he type who'd question the answer given and ask for clarification or even rebut certain statements. THAT is what makes for real intellectual discourse! (an all too rare commodity)

There! That should pretty well cover what you were wondering about, EXCEPT! on the other thread you wondered about talking with Freya on the phone.

Since she lives in Georgia and is entirely her own person, you'll have to make that deal for yourself. She's very friendly, but i suspect she DOES bite! You might try a PM, but she won't be home for a few days yet, most likely.

Talk to ya later, (one way or another)
 
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Gender: Male

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard}
R/L Dom married to my wonderful sub.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: I will answer PM's the best I can. Though my area of knowledge is mostly in computers.

Years involved: Less than a year. For many years I have had the desire for it.

Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.} 34, 35 in a month.
 
LOL, this would be so helpful at times!!

Gender: (Francisco) Male (Catalina) Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: 24/7 TPE Master/slave (Sadist and masochist) - also married....medium to hard

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: We are always happy to answer any questions in PM or threads to the best of our ability.

Years involved: Our relationship - 2 3/4 years Fr - somewhere over 12 years Ca - a bit over 5 years of serious devotion to achieving such a relationship.

Changes of style: Become much harder in play though that was always an aim and we started out hard as it was; I am 100% a slave always and forever, but he has demanded I top male subs and we continue to explore this to his wishes and will likely move to female subs at some future date. He says I have sadistic qualities he wants explored!!

Age: F - 37 C - 46


Catalina http://www.smilies4you.de/content/liebe/b20.gif Edited to fix those bits I missed in my distracted state. :)
 
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HI Todd-'o'-Vision: Thanks for asking the question. I have been wondering myself. Quint I thought you were male :eek: And catalina_francisco you had me confused for a while.:confused:


Gender Female

BDSM Play soft but my PYL pushes my limits just a little with ever session.

BDSM Type: Sub I love to be tied up and blindfolded

Availability for educating through PM If you have a question just ask. PM me any time.

Years involved: How about months involved. Met my PYL in October 2004. But I have been reading the BDSM Literotica stories for years and was always could identify with the sub. With the Internet it made it easier to find out there were more people like me.

Any changes in style No not yet.

Age 42

Extra stuff: Found my PYL on adultfriendfinder.com. Turned out we went to the same highschool. He is a year younger. Go figure.
 
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Gender: Bi-female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: I'm a masochist in a 24/7 D/s relationship with my owner, fiancee', and sadist, JohnnyMayberry. We play med. to hard, and stay away from the whole munch/playparty scene. Not our cup of tea.

Availability for educating: I'm around.

Years involved: 4

Change in style: JM created the masochist you see before you today. Ain't he talented...LOL!

Age: 42
 
Originally posted by Todd-'o'-Vision
What I was hoping to know was:


Gender: {this is where I screwed up most about some of you my bad :(} - Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard} - Slave, by your definitions I'm a medium :)

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: {i.e, Frouwa_Aph uses a foriegn word is she willing to explaim in PM if neccessary} - Education is a big thing with me, I never mind answering questions in PM or in open threads that are seriously posted and not intended as a backhanded insult.

Years involved: {actuall skin to skin} - Just a wee bit more than five years now.

Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.} - I started as a submissive and am now a slave to my Master.

Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.} - 33
 
Gender: Bi-female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: BD&S - medium (I think)

Availability for educating: If you have questions and I don't have answers, I try to know who might have the answers you seek. PM at will.

Years involved: 2

Change in style: Came back to BDSM after a really bad 2 yr relationship ended 10 yrs ago. I've flirted with Switching; but don't have enough experience to call it a change - yet. Currently, I am a submissive whose "type" has moved from soft to medium.

Age: 43
Incredible how many 40 somethings are on these boards...

Esclava :rose:
 
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dixicritter said:
Gender: Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: Definately sub. with Hubby as Master. Med I suppose...don't really fit in hard or soft catagory.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: If I have the answers sure...I'll clear up any of my own posts anytime, pm me if questions.

Years involved: Less than a year, we are still "new" to the lifestyle, learning more everyday.

Any changes of style: I figure I've always been a sub, just didn't know it until recently....at least didn't know how I felt had a title.

Age: 36

Wow a blast from my past....LOL.

Updates are still sub to Hubby/Master, but more in the medium to hard range.

Still available via PM.

Years involved is now closing in on 3 with a few months of breaks here and there.

And I'm now 38, turning 39 in Jan 2005. (Yikes...LOL.)
 
Gender - female but I like genderplay.

BDSM stats - Domme, in scene 8 years. Started out mainly bottoming, kinda knowing it wasn't going to last though.

Poly, partnered, getting married to my primary partner within the year probably.

Not especially rigid in training style and with protocol, but consider my peeps 24/7. I have a submissively inclined fiance and a long distance slave at the moment.

Flexible as regards masochism and occasional switch ... but expect a heavily do-me bottom or a specific service bottom rather than a slut or toy. Also *I* decide if I'm going to bottom. *You* do not.

play level, hardish intermediate. But that means nothing without specs

Things I consider too out there for me today but might try someday are bagging/breathplay/scat/roman/branding and scarring/heavy trampling - I would consider trying any of these with the right education and right person to do them with.

Education? I can try, and I've been new. I'm learning new skills all the time and I'm pretty generous with an opinion. When I say things they are based on what I've done for the last 8 years, either that has a lot of weight with you or you see that as pretty newish.

Age - just turned 31
 
Gender = Male

Type: B sub M

I don't know soft, medium or hard... I don't know. I'll say M and alter it when experience is attained. Still a virgin here.

Years involved: Zip, though I do have many friends who are into kink but are all Mdom.

Age - 19

Change in style - Hah.
 
Gender: female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: a bit of everything i guess. i am open to pretty much anything as long as it doesnt permanently harm me. Having said that, i doubt i could handle the hard stuff, but i am interested in it. I have a partner. We are by no means 24/7, but we play pretty often.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: sure, though i am not an expert in any way.

Years involved: skin to skin about 2 years, though i got my ex to spank me once.

Any changes of style: i always thought i was just a sub, but now i am more of a switch. This is mostly because my partner has some submissive tendancies, and i am always willing to experiment. Primarily, i am a sub.

Age: 20
 
Gender - female

Type - sub, medium

Availability for education/clarification - sure

Years involved skin to skin - 9, if you count a long-ish hiatus borne of circumstances and the inability to devote any quality of time to developing a relationship.

Age - 36.


shay
 
Gender: bisexual female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard} All the letters apply although I would say my nature is a masochistic submissive who prefers medium to hard (dependent on my health status).

Availability for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: Welcome to PM anytime

Years involved: by choice 30 plus years (technically "trained" as a wee one). Definitely off and on thru the years - currently involved 24/7.

Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.} Started as a sub, switched to a dom status which I did not give up until I found a partner I felt safe enough to trust with my submission. Tend to be more dominant with women although my guess is I would prefer the sub if I found the right gal. Overall change in style of play, ie how hard one plays, would be that I have arthritis (bionic status) which has forced some alterations in types of play - also affects pain issues.

Age: old as dirt (aka 44)

~Kierae :rose:
 
Gender: female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: submissive, on the softer side of medium.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: Sure, though I caution anyone that my experience is limited. Take me with a grain of salt.

Years involved: 1-ish

Any changes of style: Ah well, I'm trying to concentrate on my 'nilla marriage. I haven't had sex in about 7 months, and it's been much longer since I've engaged in anything even remotely resembling BDSM.

Age: 35
 
Gender: Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: I'll say I lean heavily toward submissive but as I am still a Lifestyle virgin I can't say that won't change.

Years involved skin-to-skin: O, and no plans to become so within the next year and a half. Am focusing on school right now which leaves me no time for even vanilla dating much less anything else. Once I finish school and get settled somewhere not so dang cold I'll look into changing this.

Age: 25
 
Gender, bi female

BDSM lifestyle type - masochistic submissive primarily, with a healthy sadistic side keeping under control, until I can in my view handle the responsibility
24-7 I'm married to my Sir.
I would take from the other's we are medi-hard


Availability for educating, please don't, there are much better ppl to learn from, I'm willing to explain anything I say however.


Years involved, I was in someways actively involved in bdsm from
my first relationship with a female and have always had a dominant role with females so that would be 12 years, I just didn't have a clue what I was doing had a name.

As a masochist sub just over a year, came to lit looking for advice and opened a whole bag of worms.

Any changes of style, I moved from a more dominant sadistic lez to a submissive masochist with a Dom, but they are both equally me and make up who I am, I can just as easily administer a cane as I can take it.

Age, 26.

gee that looks like whole lot when I put it down and I'm still such a baby.
 
Quint said:
Gender: Female

BDSM: Definitely B&D, definitely submissive, and a healthy dosage of masochism. I have qualities of both soft and hard, I think. I revel in the mental pain while I shy away from anything other than wimpy physical pain, though perhaps a large part of the latter is lack of limit pushing.

Questions: Send 'em my way, all and/or sundry. It makes me feel special.

Years: Been dabbling for two years. Don't know if I even consider that being in the lifestyle anymore, since recently I've realized that I was mostly pretending to be who I naturally am, which is an unpleasant revelation.

Changes: Well, I've fluctuated between sub and switch, but right now there is no place I'd rather be than kneeling.

Age: 19 and a day!

Aww, wasn't I cute? :D

As a decrepit 21yo, I can say that the desire, tolerance, and activities have fluctuated moderately and the ego has remained the same.

Yeah, I get the "guy" thing a lot. Must invest in a stock B&W subfemale avatar one of these days...
 
Bump for some of our newer members.....LOL, not nosey, but geez it helps when doing those thought of the day calendar threads to know for sure what side of the fence newer posters are on. :)

Catalina:rose:
 
Gender Female

Lifestyle type soft to medium

Availablility to educate through Pm I am usually the one asking and usually in threads. I probably wont know the answer but may know someoen who will.

Years Involved 1 started as online then Play met Master 8 months ago

Change of Style Still learning what style I am. Master and I are not 24/7 but i do want to be in that type of relationship one day.

Age 37yrs
 
*smiles*


Gender - female parts, but mentally I love to mix things up

Style - Definitely bondage and discipline, yes I'm a sadist with a serious masochistic streak, Domme. Medium to hard though I do have a slightly maternal touch.

Availability for educating- sure, but I'm a lousy correspondant.

Years involved - Mr. Lily and I have done top/bottom for years, nearly ten. Pets and subs outside the marriage, not quite a year.

Changed in style - started as a bottom, traded sides once on a whim and never really went back.

Age - 35
 
Gender: Female – homosexual

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: Poseur and wannabe

PM: If you must. Just don't expect much in the way of an answer.

R/L years involved: You're joking, right?

Any changes of style: As first I hung out here because I had friends and now I do so to frighten off the young lovelies.

Age: 23
 
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