Am I wierd? Am How can I stop thinking like?

[OneVike]

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[lordonlyknows]

The only unusual sexual behavior is none at all. - Sigmund Freud

I've had similiar fantasies with my girl, though not the capacity you once had to fulfill them.

No, you're not strange. It's pretty common.

 

[Guest]

The only unusual sexual behavior is none at all. - Sigmund Freud

I've had similiar fantasies with my girl, though not the capacity you once had to fulfill them.

No, you're not strange. It's pretty common.

Common in Litland, maybe.

In real life...I seriously doubt it.

 

[swingsncarousels]

Am I weird for wanting to watch my wife get laid by other men while I watch?

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Nope. I've done it all my life, from sharing my girlfriend at 14 with all my mates, to my wonderful marriage of 35 years, during which time my lady must have mated well over a thousand different men, had children by three of them, and one by me, and uncountable screws.

And I didn't do too badly myself incidentally, 'cause what was good for the goose was good for the gander, and I sired a couple of sprogs elsewhere myself as it happens.

It's quite common actually, but in our uptight society a lot of couples who try it don't survive it, so be careful. You must be totally confident in her, and in yourself, have no jealousy or even envy for the "better man" (you are *always* the better man in her eyes if it's working well), and complete confidence in your own sexuality.

If you lack any one of these, you will find yourself in trouble at some stage. Trust me. If you want a model, look at a swinging couple who have been together 20 years....

swingsn...

 

[swingsncarousels]

Am I weird

An addendum to my previous post. I can understand your desire. Once you've been there there's no going back. It's the best sex there is IMO. I could never have remained married to a monoganous woman.

However - there is something more to this that she's not telling. Something traumatised her during that one affair, and it could be almost anything.

The worst thing you can do is nag. Instead you must draw her out. Convinvce her that no matter what it is, communication is the key. Otherwise I see real shoal waters ahead....

I'm guessing, but I suspect what might have happened was that she felt herself falling for him, but valued her marriage too much to compromise it, and slammed the door shut while she felt she still could.

My wife had a similar experience, but in her case I told her to go with the flow. Just realise that it is quite possible to be in love with more than one. She took my cue and ran the relationship to its natural conclusion. In the end, the passion spent, nothing took its place, but Old Faithfiul was still there...

Now, it may be that she has a sense of guilt at having let her emotions get the better of her. Maybe she feels she was unfaithful, and can't face it, or - she's terrified of the risk of it happening again if she was to take another partner.

Of course, if she lacks emotional control (though I don't think she does as she shut down on Kevin) this could be dicey, but if you convince her that *you* don't see it as infidelity, then she has no further cause for guilt.

Play it cool, man. Get her to *talk* about it. Make her feel *safe* to do so above all. Do a lot of *listening* rather than talking, and if you steer your boat carefully, you could very well solve this problem.

I sincerely hope you do, and the very best of luck to both of you.



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