Am I the only one with a double life?

I’m 45 swf and I have been leading a double life for years. I’m a low key professional by day and NONE of my friends know that I swing, go to adult theaters and have sex with strangers. Is this totally unhealthy?

Only if you're not doing it with me 🤣🤣.
 
I’m 45 swf and I have been leading a double life for years. I’m a low key professional by day and NONE of my friends know that I swing, go to adult theaters and have sex with strangers. Is this totally unhealthy?
If so, we’re in the same boat. Hubby and I have careers that would take a pretty bad hit if we didn’t keep our swinging private. When we were younger we kept it quiet so our friends and family didn’t find out. Now it would affect our jobs and we’d also rather not have to explain things to our kids. We’ve always kept that part of our lives to ourselves so it’s not as though we feel we are living a double life. It just that some things need to be discreet. Others might feel repressed and long for an un-judgemental brave new world-ish orgy-porgy civilization. No thanks. A little forbidden fruit is that much sweeter. Also, hubby and I were talking about this a while back, if you look at various civilizations and cultures, if you don’t have “conservative” social and sexual taboos, it’s very difficult to keep the electricity and clean water on.
 
I’m 45 swf and I have been leading a double life for years. I’m a low key professional by day and NONE of my friends know that I swing, go to adult theaters and have sex with strangers. Is this totally unhealthy?
Not at all, life is short, do whatever turns you on & makes you're panties wet.
 
I’m 45 swf and I have been leading a double life for years. I’m a low key professional by day and NONE of my friends know that I swing, go to adult theaters and have sex with strangers. Is this totally unhealthy?
Sounds quite healthy and full of life; enjoy it as long as you can. It is your life and no one else's to judge.
 
I suppose I am. The real me, not oggbashan, is a community activist dealing with my Member of Parliament, My district and county councils etc at least once a week. But oggbashan writes stories for Literotica.

Would it matter if the real me was identified as oggbashan? Probably not. There is a precedent.


A serving district councillor was standing for re-election when someone found some porn videos he had done while at university. He was asked by the local media 'Was that you?'

His reply:

"Yes, but that was a long time ago. I needed the money to finance my studies."

The videos, transcribed to DVDs, had a wide circulation among the voters.

At the election, he was returned with an even larger majority. Were they voting for him, or for the impressive size of his erection?
 
If your friends won't accept you based on you having sex with strangers, maybe you need new friends?
 
We are not health care professionals, so it is not us to decide if it is healthy or not.
We certainly would not judge either. Why do you consider it as a double life? You value your privacy, and what you do on your own time and what you share with friends is your call.
 
How does a single person ‘swing’?


As far as the rest, I don’t know or care what sort of sex my coworkers or friends have. So I guess it’s a secret 🤷‍♀️
 
I’m 45 swf and I have been leading a double life for years. I’m a low key professional by day and NONE of my friends know that I swing, go to adult theaters and have sex with strangers. Is this totally unhealthy?
I have no idea. Maybe you know. Did you ever get sick or injured or needed some kind of first aid or medical treatment? Does it cause you mental anguish such as anxiety or depression? Actually, sometimes when somebody leads a doble life, it's a lot like a vacation- they put all of their everyday thoughts and stress aside and sort of re-charge. Have you found a balance? Are you happy? Is your "real life" the real problem? Hell if I know, but since you're wondering, you probably need to ponder these questions and answer them for yourself. I wish you well. On the other hand, if you came here in need of validation- Nice nipples!
 
Nah.. i think we all have things we like that others n society might frown upon. I agree with many of the others here. Its ur life. If u enjoy it and feel good about it its not unhealthy. Thats what i love about lit.. we r all here learnin and seeking and enjoying and supportin. Stay safe n keep doin u. Xo
 
Lol I do not know if I have ever considered it a double life but the term does fit well. I just always consider one side the professional safe for work side and the other my private and exciting life. I figured pretty much everyone has these two sides to their world or maybe three sides lol.
 
I’m 45 swf and I have been leading a double life for years. I’m a low key professional by day and NONE of my friends know that I swing, go to adult theaters and have sex with strangers. Is this totally unhealthy?

We are of a similar age group. With my ex, many years ago, it was him getting caught by me and me getting caught by him when we cheated on each other. But now, my now-husband and I have a very meaningful life that is built around sex with multiple partners and we keep that close to ourselves.

To answer your question in a nutshell - no it's not unhealthy.

We were put on this planet to fuck.
 
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