Stxhm
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For those of us over 50, what has been the best part about getting older?
I'll start...
It's the confidence I've gained from being comfortable and content in my own space.
The last 8 years have been a journey of healing and rediscovery for me.
There's such a negative stigma surrounding getting "old". As if to suggest we lose value as a person as we age.
As I approach 53 years of age, I have the healthiest outlook than I ever had my entire life.
I am finally whole.
I have reached a point in my life where I value authenticity above all else.
I no longer make space in my life for things that I have to question.
I don't have any more space to question people's intentions; or to question people's motives.
I've finally reached a place where it's as simple as this: how you show up, is how you feel.
I use the language people show me through their actions. That allows me to determine exactly what they are, who they are, and how they feel about me.
I no longer get stuck in a place of trying to decipher, or trying to justify anyone's actions.
I've had to learn the hard way, that when someone loves you; when someone cares for you; when someone wants to see you do better, their actions will line up with their words.
This goes for my friends, family, and any significant other I choose to keep in my life.
These last 8 years have taught me that no more of my time can be wasted on trying to figure out what is clear as day.
I've learned that anyone with a pulse and a brain can fall in love, but that "love" doesn't sustain a relationship.
Connection, intimacy, respect, safety and trust do. Those are the mortar that help to solidify the bond between 2 people.
I don't know what my future holds for me, but I do know this:
Whatever life has in store, I walk into it comfortable in my own skin; confident in my ability to face it head on; and loving my imperfect self.
God didn't make me to break under pressure. He gave me the strength to bend, and the will to bloom wherever I am planted.
What do YOU celebrate about getting older?
I'll start...
It's the confidence I've gained from being comfortable and content in my own space.
The last 8 years have been a journey of healing and rediscovery for me.
There's such a negative stigma surrounding getting "old". As if to suggest we lose value as a person as we age.
As I approach 53 years of age, I have the healthiest outlook than I ever had my entire life.
I am finally whole.
I have reached a point in my life where I value authenticity above all else.
I no longer make space in my life for things that I have to question.
I don't have any more space to question people's intentions; or to question people's motives.
I've finally reached a place where it's as simple as this: how you show up, is how you feel.
I use the language people show me through their actions. That allows me to determine exactly what they are, who they are, and how they feel about me.
I no longer get stuck in a place of trying to decipher, or trying to justify anyone's actions.
I've had to learn the hard way, that when someone loves you; when someone cares for you; when someone wants to see you do better, their actions will line up with their words.
This goes for my friends, family, and any significant other I choose to keep in my life.
These last 8 years have taught me that no more of my time can be wasted on trying to figure out what is clear as day.
I've learned that anyone with a pulse and a brain can fall in love, but that "love" doesn't sustain a relationship.
Connection, intimacy, respect, safety and trust do. Those are the mortar that help to solidify the bond between 2 people.
I don't know what my future holds for me, but I do know this:
Whatever life has in store, I walk into it comfortable in my own skin; confident in my ability to face it head on; and loving my imperfect self.
God didn't make me to break under pressure. He gave me the strength to bend, and the will to bloom wherever I am planted.
What do YOU celebrate about getting older?
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