am i alone? i can't come from blowjobs

[paganangel]

ok, i don't know what i'm doing (i'm a newbie), so i'll just put this out there. i can't come from blowjobs or manual stimulation. please help!

 

[*bratcat*]

you aren't alone...

 

[lilminx]

Maybe you've just been with women who suck (or don't) at it...

 

[estevie]

LMAO

cat, i swear you crack me up!

 

[*bratcat*]

whattttt??

 

[atastetoarouse]

dream........

Close your eyes, ladies....... and dream. Remove all your clothes, take a hot, soapy bath, let your emotions go. Explore your body, touching yourself everywhere..... your breasts, your stomach, your thighs....... Then explore your pussy, caressing it softly, imagining it is your lover, the person who desires insatiably... Feel the fingers find you, caress it, tease it, letting yourself go.... Only when you let yourself go, letting go of all inhibitions, will you feel the sensuality that will be you......

 

[atastetoarouse]

of course..........

If you are a guy, you are seriously screwed........

 

[lilminx]

Re: dream........

Close your eyes, ladies....... and dream. Remove all your clothes, take a hot, soapy bath, let your emotions go. Explore your body, touching yourself everywhere..... your breasts, your stomach, your thighs....... Then explore your pussy, caressing it softly, imagining it is your lover, the person who desires insatiably... Feel the fingers find you, caress it, tease it, letting yourself go.... Only when you let yourself go, letting go of all inhibitions, will you feel the sensuality that will be you......

Uhhh.... this thread was originally posted by a GUY- and no women that I know of come from a blowjob...

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: dream........

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: Re: dream........

 

[lilminx]

Re: Re: Re: dream........

oh shoot...they DON'T?!?!?!?

well hell...no wonder!!!!!!!!!

Lol- I know- it stinks, doesn't it? BTW, PaganAngel is one of my friends, try to be nice to him...

 

[estevie]

first...why can't you cum from blowjobs? does it not feel good? are you always tense? are you in a hurry?

second...you said manual stimulation too...do you masterbate?

I think there are probably many reasons why you can't, I have no idea what they are. Maybe it just takes longer for you and you are not giving it enough time. I really have no idea, interesting though.

I have never met anyone who couldn't cum from a blowjob, hell, most of the guys i know, cum when you MENTION blowjob!

 

[christo]

I too have some difficulty coming whilst receiving oral sex, for, I think, several reasons. One reason is that the first girl to go down on me constantly asked me to tell her when I was close so I wouldn't come in her mouth. "Are you close?" she'd say. I'd say, "Uh, I still haven't taken my pants off". It was that bad. It wasn't that she was bad at it. It was that I knew she'd rather be doing something else. Anything else. I think she gave me a complex.

Reason two is that when a girl is giving me a blowjob, and I actually do get close, I suddenly want to have intercourse very, VERY badly. I would rather flip my good lady on her back and fuck my brains out than come from her mouth. I can't control myself.

And yet, when I actually HAVE come from oral sex, my orgasms have been utter mind-benders, the best ever. The first time a girl gave me a blowjob and swallowed I practically climbed the walls. I at last understood why that quality is so prized amongst girlfriends.

 

[paganangel]

well everyone, i am a guy and for those of you who asked the problem...i'm not really sure. i think it has something to do with the need for thrust. as far as not giving it enough time...that's definitly not it. oh and estievie, don't worry about me masturbating. i gotta system all worked out for that!

"I'd rather die on my feet than live on my knees" -Ernest Hemingway
"Who the hell is Ernest Hemingway?" -Tracy Lords

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

am i alone? I can't come from blowjobs or manual stimulation.

You're alone. Very alone. Spandau Prison alone.

It must be mental. Or physical. One or the other.

Seriously. I think you can get a lot of help if you provide a bit more background. Like, for instance, how old are you, how good is your health, and just how toothless and ugly are these women? People here can advise you if they knew more. People here are pretty smart. And the ones who aren't smart all have Google.

 

[lilminx]

You're alone. Very alone. Spandau Prison alone.

It must be mental. Or physical. One or the other. (Really, you haven't given enough information for anyone to help you. Like, for instance, how old are you, how good is your health, and just how toothless and ugly are these women?

Seriously. I think you can get a lot of help if you provide a bit more background. People here are pretty smart. And the ones who aren't smart all have Google.

FYI, he's 26, in good health, and if you've seen pics of me, you'll see that I'm neither toothless OR ugly... (we used to date)

BTW- you're not very nice, DCL...

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

BTW - you're not seeing the forest for the trees lilminx. Lighten up. It was a serious reply for more info and an honest impression that he'd get worthwhile help from a varied group of bright people, with an appropriate joke or two totally in the spirit of the warm fellowship of this site. K?

 

[lilminx]

Ok- but it's something that really bothers him and if I was in his situation, I don't think your first few sentences would make me feel any better- that's all.

LMAO- I saw that you replaced "camaraderie" with "warm fellowship"- i don't know why, but I find it incredibly funny! Maybe it's my caffeine high...

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Because I spelled it wrong and it sounded too communist.

Please don't tell me how to post so that I won't offend the sensibilities of someone I've never met, never read, and who hasn't expressed to the board the level of his angst, or, frankly, any real illuminating information regarding his character, his past or his state of mind. I understand you know him and have some appreciatiion for his personality -- how on earth am I supposed to divine the nuances of character you're aware of?

The man said little beyond "I can't cum from blowjobs or being jerked off." There IS something oddly funny about that, as you can tell from the tone of posts above mine. This is a funny, odd little board. What were you expecting? An Anne Landers column?

 

[lilminx]

Ididn't tell you how to post- I just said that if I was in his situation, your post wouldn't have made me feel better. You have every right to post the way you want to... I'm not dictating to you how.
And you're right, it isn't a common occurrence, but for someone who's new and doesn't know your sense of humor or the overall feeling of the board, it would have been nice to have a little more sensitivity. I don't want to get into a big argument over this...

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

You did just tell me how to reply to someone who's a blank slate and posting on a sarcastic, wicked, funny, helpful, friendly but thick-skinned Internet Board. And now you're telling me how to assess newbies.

Look, the "you're not very nice" comment was not very deserved, or appreciated. That's all.

 

[Guest]

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My supreme wit and talent bestows on me the right to belittle anyone and everyone I see fit. Why can't you people see that?

I'm an asshole, yes. I'm an insufferable prick, sure. But I'm smarter and wittier than you and that's all that matters!

Be gone before I'm forced to condescend to you once again!

 

[It'sasecret]

It is probably just a matter of relaxing. It took my hubby a long time to be able to cum from bj's. He was so worried about me that he could not enjoy it. It took a lot of reassuring him that I was enjoying myself in order for him to enjoy himself. It was all just a mental thing. Good Luck!

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Was that advice for the guy above you? LOL

 

[Guest]

Where is that Goddamn Viagra? Hal's weenie has bee soft as overcooked spaghetti ever since we ran out, and my pussy is on fire!

Good Gawd I'd eat Delta Burke's asshole right now, I'm so fucking horny!