Almost ready for Real Time...or am i?

[DRxBlue]

What an ASTONISHING ride i've been on. Since sometime on March 14th (2 weeks before this post) i have had my world completely redecorated.

Could it be just one of those "mid-life" things? i think not.

In that period i've opened to the world of BDSM like a flower in the sun. Something i always thought....well, silly...has been revealed as a possible link to my long lost sexuality.

(i'll tell you about that some other time)

This thread concerns the fact that i've connected (to some degree) with the local BDSM community. A small group, this far North, but interesting people.

i hope to get to the area "munch" which they have the 1st Saturday of any given month, probably not in April, but likely in May.

i've been incessently reading the material suggested by some of the wonderful unofficial mentors here at Lit. i've been told that i'm a "quick study". If so it's because i've NEVER been more fascinated by anything.

i'd like to hear from some of you about your recollections from when you 1st encountered "the lifestyle" face-to-face.

Perhaps you could save me some embarrassments, caution me about the dangers, perhaps even excite me with the juicy details of something wonderful that happened.

i'm open to just about anything, (i think that might be a plus) but i'm not SO open that just any old junk can get tossed in.

C'mon...what was it like...at the beginning?

 

[CarolineOh]

It seems to me that your open minded, friendly attitude will get you through just about anything! Someone said on a thread here somewhere to remember that the people you meet at the munch will be there because they want to make friends, so you have nothing to worry about.
If you are interested, I asked for advice before attending my first BDSM party a few weeks ago, and I was overwhelmed with the wonderful replies I received. Here's a link to that thread if you'd like to check it out:http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70938

 

[cymbidia]

Dbl post.
Been here all day, too.
You'd think i was a newbie.
Geeze.
Embarrassing.

 

[cymbidia]

Blue, you are a quick a study. Your enthusiasm and intelligence color the world around you with an extra layer of meaning, i think, as you wrest from the array of life's choices what will be of value to you. From a personal perspective, and just using your responses to my writing a dipstick, i've seen your grasp of the subtleties of BDSM interactions flow from somewhat superficial to perceptive and sophisticated in an astonishingly short time.

If this is what's been missing in your life, Blue, for so long, then you've recognized and grasped it to your soul like the proverbial life ring to a drowning man. Your local munch group is gaining a unique and lovely participant in you.

As for me, as most here know (ad nausea, i think), i came to BDSM when i was 15 years old, with the advent of my first sexual relationship. I've never had a life without it, effectively, and cannot be of help to you as you turn this new corner in you life.

However, nothing is ever gained by lying or shading the truth, Blue, not that you would. Others might though, and it'll always be on you to dismiss those who are not as they represent themselves and continue on your way undiminished by the contact.

I wish you joy (and wild excitement) in this new aspect of your life.
b.

 

[MissTaken]

Hey, blue,

This may sound odd, but I would feel much more comfortable going to a munch rather than a PTA meeting or a Sunday brunch with the hospital auxilliary.

Basically, blue, everyone at a party has been where you are now, have had similar questions, thoughts and anxieties.

Everyone had to take their first baby steps to real life....

Go! Have a great time and report back.

 

[DRxBlue]

Thank you people! <blowing kisses in a very MASCULINE way>

Thanks for the party thread CarolineOh!
(i love that song too)

Terrific outfit! i got some hearty chuckles from cym's description of her difficulties navigating in such footwear.
(fashion's so much easier for guys, makes me glad i'm not contemplating cross-dressing!)

At the munches, of course, street dress is suggested. Fashion is an aspect of the BDSM world i hadn't even considered.

Good point about honesty, cym. For me it's pretty natural, but i know that not everyone is so trustworthy.

Since my "eyes were opened" it's just incredible how quickly things in the lifestyle began to make sense.

It's really amusing sometimes to find terms like "crop" or "switch" in a graphics program and find my thoughts drifting toward SEX.(amusing and weird, so far)

It'll still be a little while before i get to try my new wings, but i'm amazed at my eagerness to "get airborne". i can't believe that when you, CarolineOh, were talking about flogging i felt VERY strongly attracted to the thought. Kinda hot and wistful.

Who'll i be by next month?

 

[SierraMoon]

Hello Blue.. I, like you, am just learning about myself and trying to find myself in this very mysterious, yet exciting lifestyle. I am also considering going to a munch in my area, to meet new people who are in this lifestyle and can possibly help me with my quest. I have many of the same questions you do, but didn't ask them, so thank you for opening the line of discussion. I have fortunately met the Master whom I am hoping will guide me and teach me all the things I want to know, and will hopefully accept me into his life. Keep your fingers crossed for me!!! Take care, and enjoy the munch, and let me know how it goes, and maybe I'll be able to put aside my nervousness long enough to attend one myself... lol... Sierra

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Thank you people! <blowing kisses in a very MASCULINE way>

Who'll i be by next month?

I really like this sentiment!

It so quickly and easily infuses all the emotions, thoughts and challenges of entering the lifestyle,

I also wonder, who will I be next month?
tomorrow ?
next year?