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Simply AJ
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Perfection is in the eye of the beholder.
I should probably have asked this outside of my thread... You guys have already proved you think outside society's airbrushed version of attractive.
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Perfection is in the eye of the beholder.
Several times over good day...
https://www.***********/s/wd3aleujfo3npbg/Photo%20Mar%2013%2C%209%2030%2044%20AM.jpg

Mmmmm... Better having seen you now Daddy!!

Coworker and I were talking at lunch... I threw out an idea and she agreed there was some truth to it... Would love your input... If you don't post here feel free to pm your thoughts.
I said that I though men looked at things differently and if they had to make a choice, they would rather have a woman who is sexually confident and adventurous than one with a perfect body. (As long as its just sex)
I do think that when its time to settle down they will sacrifice a great sex life to have a more socially acceptable/attractive woman.
Thoughts?
Let me chime in out of the blue. I agree with the first part and disagree with the second part. But it's not all about sexual confidence to me. I'll take a woman who is comfortable with herself as she is over one that is always trying to achieve a different mark. I don't care if you're curvy (though I do love curvy), thin, tall, or short as long as you are at peace with it and take me for my word when I say I like how you are. That's for a sexual partner and a life partner. Plus, socially acceptable and I have never been friends.
Oh my lord! "Several times over", you say? Wow!
What an erotic photo. Makes me hard and salivating all at the same time.![]()

Mmm...thanks baby girl. And I'm sure you can image several of the ways in which I've seen you in my fantasies all day!!!![]()
WOW!!! HOTT!!
Perfect body can be defined in many different ways. I think a woman who is sexually confident and is comfortable in her skin has the perfect body.


Coworker and I were talking at lunch... I threw out an idea and she agreed there was some truth to it... Would love your input... If you don't post here feel free to pm your thoughts.
I said that I though men looked at things differently and if they had to make a choice, they would rather have a woman who is sexually confident and adventurous than one with a perfect body. (As long as its just sex)
I do think that when its time to settle down they will sacrifice a great sex life to have a more socially acceptable/attractive woman.
Thoughts?

I should probably have asked this outside of my thread... You guys have already proved you think outside society's airbrushed version of attractive.
I should probably have asked this outside of my thread... You guys have already proved you think outside society's airbrushed version of attractive.
Coworker and I were talking at lunch... I threw out an idea and she agreed there was some truth to it... Would love your input... If you don't post here feel free to pm your thoughts.
I said that I though men looked at things differently and if they had to make a choice, they would rather have a woman who is sexually confident and adventurous than one with a perfect body. (As long as its just sex)
I do think that when its time to settle down they will sacrifice a great sex life to have a more socially acceptable/attractive woman.
Thoughts?
I agree that I want someone who is confident and has relatively high self esteem. They do NOT need to be "a socially acceptable/attractive woman". As another said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And I will add, beauty is more than skin deep.
Therefore, I disagree with your last statement that when it is time to settle down, men will choose socially acceptable/attractive over great sex life. Okay, maybe a shallow man would, but they will not be happy long term.
When a partner is confident in who they are, as they are, they will be fun, adventuresome, and usually great in all locations, including in the bedroom.
I think this is especially hard for me because for 15 yrs of marriage I thought I had that and then discovered he'd never been physically attracted to me. Suddenly our sexual disconnect made perfect sense.
Ah, that does make a difference to the confidence I'm sure. I am of the mind of saying what I think and I assume others do the same and that usually bites me in the ass. I can't imagine being with someone I'm not attracted to physically and mentally for any amount of time!
All that being said, I don't think you are wrong in the general public's thinking. That old saying about wanting a whore in bed and a princess in public came from somewhere. I just want the same person all the time. Anything worth having is worth having repeatedly.
Just remember that typical doesn't mean always. There are those of us completely not typical (or with proper grammar: atypical).
Coworker and I were talking at lunch... I threw out an idea and she agreed there was some truth to it... Would love your input... If you don't post here feel free to pm your thoughts.
I said that I though men looked at things differently and if they had to make a choice, they would rather have a woman who is sexually confident and adventurous than one with a perfect body. (As long as its just sex)
I do think that when its time to settle down they will sacrifice a great sex life to have a more socially acceptable/attractive woman.
Thoughts?

I see that you have "soiled" your panties.
You should remove them, quickly.
And then give them to me.![]()
I NEVER look at a woman thru the world's eyes as it is blind to true beauty.

I will take the sexually adventurous, self confident woman every time. Married to the beautiful but less than adventueous girl. Had Ltr with a bbw who was great in every way, but especially the sex.
Screw society's twisted version of what is acceptable for beauty. I don't need anyone to tell me what to eat, drink, think..... I know true beauty. I know what sexy is. You my dear along with many other Lit members are the standard for sexy beautiful. Most others can only hope to reach.![]()
My wife is not skinny but she is also not confident in her sexuality. She feels she is not pretty and well, it has made many aspects of our sex life hard over the years. I find her very sexy and still do. She thinks I am just saying that to make her feel better. It gets old but I knew that going in.
I married someone that excites me sexually. The perfect body....well as stated she excites me so to me, she has the perfect body. I know my wife does not fit into the photoshopped world of women in advertising but then again, I really do not find many of them very sexy either.
Ah, that does make a difference to the confidence I'm sure. I am of the mind of saying what I think and I assume others do the same and that usually bites me in the ass. I can't imagine being with someone I'm not attracted to physically and mentally for any amount of time!
All that being said, I don't think you are wrong in the general public's thinking. That old saying about wanting a whore in bed and a princess in public came from somewhere. I just want the same person all the time. Anything worth having is worth having repeatedly.
Just remember that typical doesn't mean always. There are those of us completely not typical (or with proper grammar: atypical).
I guess I'm must a lucky man.![]()
You have a gorgeous sexy wife and she has a handsome sexy beast of a husband.... Yeah... You two are blessed ... But you've worked at it and through it too

I'm probably more confident now than I've been in my whole life...yes my ex told me stuff but it was never quite believable... I was just a better option than being alone. He was at the age where he should be taking the next step and I'd do.
Since then I've had a couple of relationships with men who made me feel truly beautiful and sexy.
There's a fine line to walk between self-confidence and being full of one's self.
I do believe I'm a sexy vibrant woman with a lot to offer... I finally have it right with this go round with a thread... I'm not looking for validation with this thread... It's a door to connection and flirting that makes me feel alive.
I will never ever be a secret again... I won't be on someone's back burner... I won't compromise or settle again... If that means I die alone then at least I do it true to myself.