AITA: Lit Edition

[beachbaby179]

Reddit has a thing called "Am I the Asshole?". If you haven't seen it, people post situations, if they're not sure whether they're in the right or not, and the Reddit community weighs in. Thought it might work here. Answer mine, or post your own, and see what everyone else thinks. Here we go.

 

[beachbaby179]

I recently donated to a gofundme for an old acquaintance who suffers from a chronic illness and can't work. Her partner, the breadwinner, was recently diagnosed with a serious illness. So now they're both not working. Saw on FB today that they are adopting another puppy. They already have a few. I got aggravated. AITA?

 

[ydahecnot]

This thread is right up the alley of mnbreastlvr. AITA for thinking that?

Anyhoo, I can see your point. But if the puppy comforts them, I don’t see the harm. But I don’t think it makes you TA

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I recently donated to a gofundme for an old acquaintance who suffers from a chronic illness and can't work. Her partner, the breadwinner, was recently diagnosed with a serious illness. So now they're both not working. Saw on FB today that they are adopting another puppy. They already have a few. I got aggravated. AITA?

Grrrr....if you’re the asshole, then so am I. At least they aren’t Facebook bragging about going to Disney World, but still....

 

[pmichael]

Grrrr....if you’re the asshole, then so am I. At least they aren’t Facebook bragging about going to Disney World, but still....

AITA because I enjoy going to Disney and camping there for 2 weeks every year without posting
it on FB?

 

[beachbaby179]

AITA because I enjoy going to Disney and camping there for 2 weeks every year without posting
it on FB?

I don't think so! Internet safety rules say you should never post when you are on vacation.

 

[Dribble]

I have an NA friend whose bf basically kicked her and her 3 kids out. I mean...there were kids involved. So i talked w a few other members and we tossed in money for a first and last. I never expect to see the money again, and that is ok. I did it for the kids. But as they were moving in, she mentioned spending several hundred on some frivolous shit. I never said anything, because I did it for the kids...but did it change my opinion of her? Fuck yea it did. So if BB is an asshole, I am ok with being a bigger asshole.

 

[beachbaby179]

I have an NA friend whose bf basically kicked her and her 3 kids out. I mean...there were kids involved. So i talked w a few other members and we tossed in money for a first and last. I never expect to see the money again, and that is ok. I did it for the kids. But as they were moving in, she mentioned spending several hundred on some frivolous shit. I never said anything, because I did it for the kids...but did it change my opinion of her? Fuck yea it did. So if BB is an asshole, I am ok with being a bigger asshole.

See, that's exactly what I meant. The GoFundMe story was they were worried about keeping the heat on in their home, and food on the table. Now they're buying a puppy. Taking in a stray would be one thing. But they actively went out and bought this breed of puppy and are anxiously waiting for it to be old enough to bring home.

 

[hotwords229_A]

. . . they were worried about keeping the heat on in their home, and food on the table. Now they're buying a puppy.

Maybe they're going to eat the puppy?
AITA?

 

[hotwords229_A]

You ARE the arsehole.


Unless they do eat it.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

Maybe they're going to eat the puppy?
AITA?

Since the average price for a purebred dog is around $1000, that is not a good use of their food budget.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

See, that's exactly what I meant. The GoFundMe story was they were worried about keeping the heat on in their home, and food on the table. Now they're buying a puppy. Taking in a stray would be one thing. But they actively went out and bought this breed of puppy and are anxiously waiting for it to be old enough to bring home.

Then, on top of that, when the puppy, or one of the dogs they already have, gets sick, they will accuse their vet and his/her staff of not caring about animals and just being out to make money.
You are *so* not the asshole.

 

[beachbaby179]

Thank you all. I don't feel as selfish anymore. I needed a reality check.

 

[ImSinister]

They are the assholes for buying a puppy. I understand they may need some joy in their life and a puppy can bring that but PLEASE adopt one of the many many many puppies from a shelter or adoption group so that one less dog needs to be put down. And, Fuck Snidely Whiplash and Cruella de Vil, who I assume are the owners of the puppy mill.

See, that's exactly what I meant. The GoFundMe story was they were worried about keeping the heat on in their home, and food on the table. Now they're buying a puppy. Taking in a stray would be one thing. But they actively went out and bought this breed of puppy and are anxiously waiting for it to be old enough to bring home.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I was thinking about creating an AITA thread, but there's an old one! Yay!
My sibling has lived with my parents for almost 20 years now. For about 14 of those years, they provided free childcare for her as a single Mom and she only had to cook once a week. She also pays very little in rent because she cleans the house for them. Now that my parents are getting up in age, she has started to play the martyr acting like she does so much for them. 2-3 times a month I take time off of work to take them to appointments. On those days I have also made dinner for them and sometimes do laundry and ask what else they need done. I've been there and seen where after dinner, she goes to her bedroom and stays there unless they need her to do something. My other sibling goes over once a week to help them out with whatever.

AITA for thinking that she's not a martyr and that she actually owes them more than what she's currently doing?

 

[Btq97]

I was thinking about creating an AITA thread, but there's an old one! Yay!
My sibling has lived with my parents for almost 20 years now. For about 14 of those years, they provided free childcare for her as a single Mom and she only had to cook once a week. She also pays very little in rent because she cleans the house for them. Now that my parents are getting up in age, she has started to play the martyr acting like she does so much for them. 2-3 times a month I take time off of work to take them to appointments. On those days I have also made dinner for them and sometimes do laundry and ask what else they need done. I've been there and seen where after dinner, she goes to her bedroom and stays there unless they need her to do something. My other sibling goes over once a week to help them out with whatever.

AITA for thinking that she's not a martyr and that she actually owes them more than what she's currently doing?

no

 

[hairball18]

I was thinking about creating an AITA thread, but there's an old one! Yay!
My sibling has lived with my parents for almost 20 years now. For about 14 of those years, they provided free childcare for her as a single Mom and she only had to cook once a week. She also pays very little in rent because she cleans the house for them. Now that my parents are getting up in age, she has started to play the martyr acting like she does so much for them. 2-3 times a month I take time off of work to take them to appointments. On those days I have also made dinner for them and sometimes do laundry and ask what else they need done. I've been there and seen where after dinner, she goes to her bedroom and stays there unless they need her to do something. My other sibling goes over once a week to help them out with whatever.

AITA for thinking that she's not a martyr and that she actually owes them more than what she's currently doing?

No.She is because that is something that you do and you do it because you want to and not to look good for other people.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

No.She is because that is something that you do and you do it because you want to and not to look good for other people.

It really makes me angry that she acts like it's a big deal to cut up Dad's food for him. It's no worse than feeding a toddler. He has a rough time with keeping pasta on the utensil so we have to feed that to him most of the time. I give him a bite, I take a bite, and so forth and so on. It's not that hard!

 

[hairball18]

Some people need validation that they are doing something wonderful, when it is just caring.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Some people need validation that they are doing something wonderful, when it is just caring.

You're right, my BFF does 90% of the work of caring for her Mom but when her sister does one thing for her, she puts it on FB so everyone will tell her what a good daughter she is.

 

[gga]

AITA for thinking that she's not a martyr and that she actually owes them more than what she's currently doing?

I may be a wee bit biased, but you know where I stand on this.

Not the asshole, and she's looking for recognition and eventually sainthood for assisting her own parents as they age . (Yeah, I know. Wrong religion for the sainthood line. )

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I may be a wee bit biased, but you know where I stand on this.

Not the asshole, and she's looking for recognition and eventually sainthood for assisting her own parents as they age . (Yeah, I know. Wrong religion for the sainthood line. )

I asked here to get an unbiased view cause I know you got my back.

 

[beachbaby179]

Nta. And not to butt in when it's not my business, but be careful she doesn't wrangle her way into a larger share of the inheritance because she lived with them.

 

[gga]

I asked here to get an unbiased view cause I know you got my back.

And your front.

 

[gga]

I asked here to get an unbiased view cause I know you got my back.

And your front.

Oops, AMITA for that comment when you're asking a serious question?