Aint' No Misstresses Anymore

[Cai-Himada]

Its hard trying to find a good sadist woman these days, all women want to be taken over that ive met... Does anyone have anyplace's or tips to find said women?

 

[Xelebes]

I dunno... haven't met any dommes myself or those I have met I haven't picked up due to naivete.

Apparently from my friend (a fellow sub) knows 30 sub girls but only a few dommes (one I've been told is stupefyingly beautiful - oh so gotta meet her.) I guess it is a search thing - is it the same kind of search for male doms?

 

[Cai-Himada]

I dunno... haven't met any dommes myself or those I have met I haven't picked up due to naivete.

Apparently from my friend (a fellow sub) knows 30 sub girls but only a few dommes (one I've been told is stupefyingly beautiful - oh so gotta meet her.) I guess it is a search thing - is it the same kind of search for male doms?

Bieng a Straight Sub Male I dont really search for master's lol. But i think they are more easy to find seeing as the males mind tells him to be domminant more

 

[Xelebes]

I dunno... I think it is quite even, even if it is my naivete acting up again. The question wasn't whether or not you were on the look-out for a dom, but was a question whether the search by male doms for female subs was as strenuous for us male subs.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Most times good submissives (male or female) out number the good Dominants in the general vicinity. One must either expand their search area or look into personal ads and other sites specifically for setting up meetings.

You might wanna try a search using BDSM as a keyword and see what you turn up.

(BTW...welcome to the BDSM Forum)

Luna

 

[Vixandra]

*stalk*
That aside- Luna is correct. Dommes seeking male subs are out there.
Check the BDSM personals forum here, there may be one or two.
Failing that... find a naturally dominant female and ask her help?

 

[Ms_Lilith]

*snork* I'm a sadist woman, depending on the person...

But that side of me is happily occupied. *grin*

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Well, I'm a switch, but....

I tend to domme more than sub (but when I do sub I'm more masochistic than actually submissive). I'm in an exclusive relationship right now, commonly known as "marriage" . but I can assure that there are plenty of dommes still out there.

Remember that Lit isn't the only site online where you can place BDSM personals. Also, give out more info about what you want in your ads than merely saying "##-year-old submissive male seeks Mistress". I've glanced over personals before and I can't tell you how many I've seen like that. Also mention what you have to offer a Mistress and how you'd like to serve her (but without turning your ad into an essay ).

As to the comment of there being more femsubs and male doms than male subs and dommes, that's true. But from what I'm hearing on many sites, not so many are good doms or good subs. It seems to be just as hard for a femsub to find a good male dom as it is for a guy sub to find a good domme, and vice versa. So don't feel discriminated against or anything.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Have to agree with what pagan switch says (hmmm, that seems to be becoming a habit of late!! ), the worth of who is out there is more important than the number, and does require a lot of dedication and openness to find what you seek. It also might be worth adding, many a sadistic Domme finds the masochistic male sub seeking such is more interested in having his needs met, than offering something in return, even common courtesy and submission, so if you demonstrate being able to honestly accomodate those aspects, you already may create interest.

As much as sadistic D's need a masochistic sub, it is good to feel they are not approached in a manner which speaks of being used to meet the submissive's needs over the Dominant's. And if you place an ad anywhere, apart from presenting a good verbal picture of who you are, remember location is also needed, even if vague in an area more than exact city/town.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

We tend to hang out at Borders books. Femsubs seem to be B&N types, from what I hear.



...Seriously, why would you think that sadistic women are alike enough that there might be a special trick to landing us as opposed to any other kind of woman?


considering that about 1 in 20 male submissive candidates actually prove to be worth my time and effort over a long haul, I'd say fair is pretty fair.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Its hard trying to find a good sadist woman these days, all women want to be taken over that ive met... Does anyone have anyplace's or tips to find said women?

Yeah, it's a seller's market. You pathetic little subbie boys really need to have your ducks in a row in order to make a love connection, the way things are today. The ratio is completely skewed. What a racket.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Femsubs seem to be B&N types, from what I hear.

Nah. Hairey-legs, soy-latte women's-books stores. Acting all coy and above it all.

 

[EbonyVenus]

We are here

Perhaps if you stop trying to define the woman and just show yourself to be a good submissive you might find what you seek..

Ebony

 

[Etoile]

We tend to hang out at Borders books. Femsubs seem to be B&N types, from what I hear.

Heee! wtg Netzach.

(Actually, I prefer Borders. But then I'm the convention-flaunting type anyway.)

 

[Xelebes]

Does Borders equate to Indigo Books or Chapters in Canada? I'm just curious.

 

[Etoile]

Yep, they're cousins:
http://www.barnesandnobleinc.com/company/bninvestments/co_indigo.html

 

[MissTaken]

Re: We are here

Perhaps if you stop trying to define the woman ...

Ebony

Yep.

Of course, if you go to Walmart and look in Aisle 3, they are having a special on Dommes.

 

[D's mariposa]

But the SuperK center will do a price match, so if you can't find One at Wallyworld, try there..

 

[Xelebes]

Re: Re: We are here

Yep.

Of course, if you go to Walmart and look in Aisle 3, they are having a special on Dommes.

Niceness? How much are they going for? $24.86?

 

[woodcarverII]

I found a place not too far from here that actually has a flea market approach to the whole thing. You can walk through the place and hear all kinds of demanding women.

 

[Pure]

The market's a hundred to one against you, if you're talking 'love connection.' Lacking that, reach for your wallet and you'll find some woman who'll put you through your paces. (Is her being a 'genuine sadist necessary? How about if she is mildly amused that someone, for a whipping and directions to jerk off, will pay $200 for a half hr?)

 

[lotus_hazel]

Dom women

I was really beginning to think there was a shortage on good sub men. I know quite a few lesbians who are dommes. My lady is very dominant, but then again so am I! Our arguments on who gets to dominant who are pretty amusing.

As a side note, the B & N's in Dallas are much more gay friendly than the Borders. Not sure why that is.

~Lotus

 

[Xelebes]

Re: Dom women

I was really beginning to think there was a shortage on good sub men. I know quite a few lesbians who are dommes. My lady is very dominant, but then again so am I! Our arguments on who gets to dominant who are pretty amusing.

As a side note, the B & N's in Dallas are much more gay friendly than the Borders. Not sure why that is.

~Lotus

Y'know... knowing that some dommes fear that is a good thing to know. *readies the elbow grease*

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Nah. Hairey-legs, soy-latte women's-books stores. Acting all coy and above it all.

We MUST have met. (I only shave the parts that Don't show. Gotta keep up appearances! )

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Re: Re: We are here

Niceness? How much are they going for? $24.86?

Price roll down.

$23.88