Age differences, new society and the net.

[Betticus]

A thought popped into my lil bald head and I figured I would share it and get some feedback and open it up for discussion.

In the past the seperations between the generations was pretty much normal. You grew up, married, had kids, career, retired and then died.

During all of this time your social group would have mainly been people close to your own age group. Behaviour at a certain age would have been expected and also reinforced by your peers.

Today, all of us here at lit interact in a new way. We are worldwide, I can chat with any of you without knowing your age, gender, race, background. In essence we are all just spirits existing without bodies in our electronic universe.

Now, this brings me to what I was thinking about. It seems to me that the only real meaningful differences between an 80 year old man and a 20 year old man is experience and infirmity.

There are arguments against that given just how everyone is different but it seems to me that we are all very alike across our age gaps, different nationalities and all of that. I'm pretty damn young at heart though, I get more mature of course but I still feel terminally young.

 

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[Betticus]

I guess it really can be argued that we are similar. But it could also be argued that the only reason it seems like theres not a large difference between people is that you don't really know enough about that person to create any conflict.

You said it yourself, "I can chat with any of you without knowing your age, gender, race, background." And thats fine, Your connecting with someone because you have something in common without having to worry about whether there the same age or what not. I guess it can be said simply that its easier to discuss a certain topic without having to worry if that person has all the same interest as you.

Not saying that its bad, just throwing that out there.

It's also pretty eye opening to realize that a lot of the prejudices we are taught as children are untrue. I've traveled the world from babyhood though so that was never an issue with me but I've seen a lot of that with people who never went anywhere.

Everyone, everywhere wants their children to grow up in a safe, secure and healthy environment. We want them to be able to laugh and play without fear.

 

[myinnerslut]

i think its great that so many people of so many backgrounds and ages can meet and talk about things without being judged on thier apearence or age or accent or anything else.

ETA being one of the younger members on the board, my opinion on this topic may be slightly biased

 

[graceanne]

It's also pretty eye opening to realize that a lot of the prejudices we are taught as children are untrue. I've traveled the world from babyhood though so that was never an issue with me but I've seen a lot of that with people who never went anywhere.

Everyone, everywhere wants their children to grow up in a safe, secure and healthy environment. We want them to be able to laugh and play without fear.

Um, I beg to differ. If my kids DO NOT STOP LAUGHING AND PLAYING, their will be fear.

[/hijack]

I've found that their are differences in people in different areas as a whole, but no matter where you are their will be people who fit in 'globally' I guess. I'm sorry, in the south there ARE more rednecks, the people in New England are more uptight than the people on the West Coast . . . etc. . . . I had a train of thought. Shit. Freaken kids. Excuse me while I go raise hell.

 

[Betticus]

Um, I beg to differ. If my kids DO NOT STOP LAUGHING AND PLAYING, their will be fear.

[/hijack]

I've found that their are differences in people in different areas as a whole, but no matter where you are their will be people who fit in 'globally' I guess. I'm sorry, in the south there ARE more rednecks, the people in New England are more uptight than the people on the West Coast . . . etc. . . . I had a train of thought. Shit. Freaken kids. Excuse me while I go raise hell.

Oh please, describe the beatings in detail. I have to live spanky life vicariously through others!

 

[midwestyankee]

You're absolutely right, Betticus, in seeing us as something like spirits connected electronically. I also agree that it's easier to get past prejudices and biases through the internet. While many who post here have shared their pictures, many have not. And so we interact, mostly quite civilly, as equals despite all sorts of likely differences in age, education, background, etc.

Without the internet, how would a dull old fart like me ever get to chat with the young and the beautifu and the kinky?

 

[ms.read]

Oh please, describe the beatings in detail. I have to live spanky life vicariously through others!

hot damn you just made me spit soda through my nose with that comment.

Anyway, the reason why I keep coming back to this site is because of the friendly ness of the boards. On other sites chatrooms or boards immature people ask ASL for the first question of the conversation. Who the fuck cares? When I come here, I know weall have something in common: We all like sex. People enjoy different flavors of it, but we all enjoy sex. I think that puts us on a different plane then all the other internetters out there.

We dont have social class, race, age or handicap to deal with. and The subject of sex is taken right off the table, because you have no fear to offend some body if you say the wrong thing most will just laugh it off as the joke of their day.

Oh crap! Im not explaining this as well as I want to. Oh well. Im going to make some mac and cheese, and stew on this a little longer before I post again.

 

[unfoundiamond]

I enjoy not having a face

One thing I enjoy about my elders(I'm 21) is there is no ASL questions... I am actually here because it seems like more of an authors resource site than a sex or chat site... I enjoy the older men more for the most part as they are less likey to hound me for a picture and more likely to make me think, which is a turn on in its self...

I am one of the young and sexy as the man who posted the question reffered to ... And I do not have a picture for this reason, I do not want people (trolls) seing my pic and trying to locate me...

I enjoy the mix of cultures and ages...But in my opinion, my generation is less racially focused than those past. I look at someone and see a person, not e ethnicity. As an american though, we view peoples origin as more of a nationality, not a ethnicity. Maybe somepeoples opinions would make more sence if we could see them... I think some people come off cold and maybe I'd undrertand why they are if I could see them...

 

[Homburg]

I'm sorry, in the south there ARE more rednecks,.

Um, not really. I've lived a LOT of places (including abroad). There are rednecks everywhere. We're just proud of them here in the South, and vote them into office and such.

As to age, I can usually guess a person's age range from how they post. Usually. Little signs here and there, style of prose, experiences mentioned, outlook, etc. I don't really care though. Some of my favourite people here are in their 20's. Their cute lil amateur attempts at worldly cynicism just warm the cockles of my crusty old heart.



(Actually the folks I like that happen to be in the 20's don't tend to play the cynic card. I'm just kiddin ya. Well, except *points* you. You are SO cute when you try to be cynical.)

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[LittleJade]

Even outside the world of the internet, I have noticed this trend.

My best friends are two women my age, a woman in her 40's, my mom who is in her early 50's, and my mother in law, who is in her late 50's. And what I love about these women, is that they are all vibrant, fun-loving people. They have passion for life, they have a joy in living. Even when things are just downright crappy, they perservere- they pull this amazing strength out of them that hides, normally, and they get through it.

And this spans the decades that separate us. This strength, this passion for life- it is not age-dependent. Sure, my mom and m-i-l have wisdom that us younger women don't. Sure, they've got experiences that we don't. But we've also grown up in a different time, and we've got experiences that THEY don't. We're able to learn from each other, and grow, and bloom.

It's really quite something.

 

[Netzach]

I think what's interesting is that the net has created as many interpersonal communities of intent and interest. I've met people I would not have met because commonalities surfaced first through talking which would have been hidden otherwise.

I think the communities of interest are changing the way we find and pick friends, definitely.

 

[graceanne]

Um, not really. I've lived a LOT of places (including abroad). There are rednecks everywhere. We're just proud of them here in the South, and vote them into office and such.

I know that their's rednecks everywhere (I live in Oregon and I'm married to one), but their are MORE in the south - probably cause your'e proud of them. It's socially acceptable to be a redneck in the south. lol

 

[Infinity_2007]

First Post

Been lurking for a while, but this was an interesting thread I thought I'd throw my two cents in on.

I think one of the interesting things about the Internet in general, and boards like this in particular, is that the anonimity of it breaks down a lot of barriers. In a lot of ways, the reason people would only be close to people of the same age, race, etc, is because communities were somewhat insular. People with very specific interests can now find each other in a way that once was not possible and you can find common interests (such as kinky sex) that may not have come up in everyday conversation. You may be the only person in Toledo who likes to masturbate with a piece of liver, but now you can find all your bretheren the world over.

Darren

 

[Homburg]

I know that their's rednecks everywhere (I live in Oregon and I'm married to one), but their are MORE in the south - probably cause your'e proud of them. It's socially acceptable to be a redneck in the south. lol

Nope, not more, just more are Out because it is acceptable. I've found all kinds of closeted rednecks, even in such places as NYC and LA. They're everywhere, Gracie, just like homosexuals, but with more pick-up trucks and less teeth.

 

[graceanne]

Nope, not more, just more are Out because it is acceptable. I've found all kinds of closeted rednecks, even in such places as NYC and LA. They're everywhere, Gracie, just like homosexuals, but with more pick-up trucks and less teeth.

I have to say that if you go to Walmart at night - that's when they gather.

Don't do it - I'm not sure I'll ever recover. *sob*

 

[Homburg]

I have to say that if you go to Walmart at night - that's when they gather.

Don't do it - I'm not sure I'll ever recover. *sob*

Yup, Walmart is to rednecks what bathrooms frequented by Republican lawmakers are to gay prostitutes.

 

[graceanne]

Yup, Walmart is to rednecks what bathrooms frequented by Republican lawmakers are to gay prostitutes.

I dont' knwo what's worse - the people who dress up to go to Walmart like they're going out dancing with Paris Hilton, or the ones who don't bother. You know - to dress. Or the ones who like my dad. Jeans, suspenders, and NO SHIRT. Yes, my dad's a redneck. he's the kind that scares people at walmart.

 

[Netzach]

Jesus, and I run in and out of Sam's club at record speed for padded envelopes...

 

[myinnerslut]

Their cute lil amateur attempts at worldly cynicism just warm the cockles of my crusty old heart.

i'm not cynical *pouts*

well, niether am i in my twenties

 

[Homburg]

i'm not cynical *pouts*

well, niether am i in my twenties

I know, deary, and you are terribly cute anyway =)

 

[graceanne]

i'm not cynical *pouts*

well, niether am i in my twenties

Yet.

 

[myinnerslut]

I know, deary, and you are terribly cute anyway =)

i can deal with that

Yet.

yep. not till january

 

[graceanne]

i can deal with that



yep. not till january

Looking forward to being out of your teens? I was thrilled - at 19 I was married and pregnant and people treating me like a teenager really ticked me off. Believe it or not, things improve along those lines at 20 - don't ask me why, they just do. Having a tiny baby might have helped, too.