Age and Dominance

[missmixalot]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

 

[cookiecat]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

"Naturally" more dominant? The short answer - for me - is no.

I'm 55 and have been monkeying around with D/s stuff for about 10 years. Some of the most dominant men I've met have been much younger than me.

It's all about attitude and being open to the experience. I suppose it's no different than any relationship. If you connect, all the pre-conceived ideas you have of what "should" be melt away.

 

[SpunThings]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

That's not how I feel. I have no clue how common that is, but I doubt it's uncommon. Does it matter whether or not it's common?

 

[Miles Long]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

I think it is probably fairly common, but there are also lots of common dynamics that are far different from the one you describe. It sounds like you associate age with power and authority, which you then translate into dominance. Many people do this, but many people do not.

 

[HisArpy]

Another common misconception about dominance is confidence. A confident person can appear dominant even if they are not.

 

[dacoach44]

Certainly

"Naturally" more dominant? The short answer - for me - is no.

I'm 55 and have been monkeying around with D/s stuff for about 10 years. Some of the most dominant men I've met have been much younger than me.

It's all about attitude and being open to the experience. I suppose it's no different than any relationship. If you connect, all the pre-conceived ideas you have of what "should" be melt away.

My sissydate tonite; she wants BDSM. So, I got her a collar. She wants it. But all i do is take what a woman wants to give, and it has never failed me. Since a sissy or CD or T girl wants to be a woman, they come to the same conclusion. Hurting someone else in the name of romance and affection is flat-out abuse. Not gentlemanly like at all. So, I will be a dom and feed her all the cock I can, but I am also on the lookout for what she wants.

All I ever wanted from a date was an invite for more....

 

[why_not_jill]

I think

I think a lot of people confuse age with experience. In all facets of life. I tend to persure more "mature" women. However I have dated a few girls my age, with as much, or in one case more experience on the D/s side of things.

Or maybe I am just getting old, haha

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

I think equating age with experience, more often than not, is what most people do regardless of the matter at hand. However, being dismissive or believing someone incapable based solely on this is a mistake. Don't go limiting yourself by adhering to a preconceived notion about someone younger than yourself's capacity to handle you. Youth carries it's own set of merits.

 

[malefica]

Age =/= experience. Also, just because someone has been a D-type for say... 30 years, doesn't mean they have necessarily been doing it safely.

 

[Freya_Gin]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

I've found this to be a common enough attitude among young (20something) subs. Not all of them, of course, but a lot. A few never really grow out of it; I know an older sub (72 years old) who has confided to me that most of his femdom fantasies are still about being a young man dominated by an older woman. Nevertheless, it's been my experience that most subs grow out of this attitude by their mid-40s.

 

[ShyMaleSub]

I've found this to be a common enough attitude among young (20something) subs. Not all of them, of course, but a lot. A few never really grow out of it; I know an older sub (72 years old) who has confided to me that most of his femdom fantasies are still about being a young man dominated by an older woman. Nevertheless, it's been my experience that most subs grow out of this attitude by their mid-40s.

Wow. A 72 year old male sub. At 58, I now don't feel quite as embarrased by my submissive fantasizing.

I think I'm turned on just as much by a younger femdom taking control of my old self, if not more, as I am with an older or my age femdom.

 

[cookiecat]

My sissydate tonite; she wants BDSM. So, I got her a collar. She wants it. But all i do is take what a woman wants to give, and it has never failed me. Since a sissy or CD or T girl wants to be a woman, they come to the same conclusion. Hurting someone else in the name of romance and affection is flat-out abuse. Not gentlemanly like at all. So, I will be a dom and feed her all the cock I can, but I am also on the lookout for what she wants.

All I ever wanted from a date was an invite for more....

Bold part = not true.

 

[cookiecat]

Age =/= experience. Also, just because someone has been a D-type for say... 30 years, doesn't mean they have necessarily been doing it safely.

I like your new profile pic.

 

[Miasorrow]

While I can relate to the maturity/experience/dominance triangle, I find nothing more exciting than the concept of a slightly younger dominant man.

 

[SpunThings]

Bold part = not true.

I'll second that.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[malefica]

I like your new profile pic.

Thanks. It was from a recent photoshoot I did

 

[MastersDelight]

I never liked younger guys. Master is only 9 months younger than me so it was hardly a difference in our ages. But I also never wanted to get married, or live with a partner, or have children. Tastes change. I still lean towards older men, but a young Dom who wears his dominance well? I'd be hard pressed to say no . Age is hardly a deal breaker for me, I prefer experience and attention to detail more. Which can be achieved by any age group.

 

[AnnieBonneau]

It always excites me when the roles are reversed. A young dom is special because it's rare that a young person has developed the skills.

 

[staciliv]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

I a 40. I think it would be super hot to submit to a 25 year old male.

 

[staciliv]

It always excites me when the roles are reversed. A young dom is special because it's rare that a young person has developed the skills.

Teach him. Men can be fast learners if properly motivated.

 

[malefica]

Teach him. Men can be fast learners if properly motivated.

Seconding this. I introduced my former Master of three years to kink.

 

[altair_1769]

it's not a matter of age. just motivation and understanding between partners.

Sub or Dom : you always learn !

 

[YoungToy]

As a younger, submissive male, every woman that Ive met on Lit has been significantly older than me. Only once while I was in college have I found a Domme around my age (and God was it f**king wonderful).

 

[Conager]

As a submissive female I find older men naturally more dominant. I really cannot imagine a man my age of younger dominating me. Is this common in D/s circles?

I have always been who I am, but perhaps in my youth did not realize what that was. The confidence that comes with experience tends to show, and knowing yourself and liking yourself comes across as more genuine, because ultimately, it is.

I think age makes being taken seriously for your little self pronouncements easier.

I was having a somewhat playful conversation with a somewhat nervous young nubile who was seemingly attracted to me. I joked with her that she could go elsewhere but of course she wouldn't have the opportunity to interact with someone quite as handsome as I. Now, although I've aged relatively well I'm no more particularly handsome than I ever was although I'm much more comfortable with how I look then I perhaps was in my youth. I've used that gambit a bit and it always amazes me how easy it is to get people nodding along in agreement with how handsome I am. Really other than having misshapen features, who isn't Handsome when attired and presented well?

Point being that an older man saying anything in a seemingly reasonable way comes across as...well...reasonable...even if really it's mostly advertising fluff.