Ok, here’s the thing….I have this friend that I met at work. He is 27, I am 33. We have became pretty good friends. Hanging out with each other sometimes outside of work. I have even told him probably too much personal information about my self LOL
A couple of months ago the subject of us taking things further came up. He opted to put that on hold because he just doesn’t have the time right now. I said cool, no problem. We even exchanged small but thoughtful presents at Christmas. In January he went away for two weeks vacation with his buddy’s. Since he came back we have been hanging out a bit more often, and he has even initiated a couple of the events himself. In the past it was always me asking him to do stuff. Two of the up-coming events are going to watch him and his band play two Saturdays in a row in March. I said I’d love to go, as I have never seen him play before.
So now I’ve got a bit more confidence up so I call him up and ask him what he’s doing Saturday night…but he had plans he couldn’t change and asked what I was doing Sunday night. This is also very cool. I am now trying to decide if maybe he would like to take things a little bit further or if he’s just wanting to still be just friends. My gut instinct is that he is interested but possibly scared and I know for a fact, very shy with girls.
My dilemma being, I haven’t had sex, or any other physical contact with a man in over 8 years. I’m pretty sure if anything is going to happen it will be because I have initiated things. How can I be subtle without making a goof out of myself? And what if I’m getting the wrong signals and he really only wants to be friends?
Yes, I’m clueless!
A couple of months ago the subject of us taking things further came up. He opted to put that on hold because he just doesn’t have the time right now. I said cool, no problem. We even exchanged small but thoughtful presents at Christmas. In January he went away for two weeks vacation with his buddy’s. Since he came back we have been hanging out a bit more often, and he has even initiated a couple of the events himself. In the past it was always me asking him to do stuff. Two of the up-coming events are going to watch him and his band play two Saturdays in a row in March. I said I’d love to go, as I have never seen him play before.
So now I’ve got a bit more confidence up so I call him up and ask him what he’s doing Saturday night…but he had plans he couldn’t change and asked what I was doing Sunday night. This is also very cool. I am now trying to decide if maybe he would like to take things a little bit further or if he’s just wanting to still be just friends. My gut instinct is that he is interested but possibly scared and I know for a fact, very shy with girls.
My dilemma being, I haven’t had sex, or any other physical contact with a man in over 8 years. I’m pretty sure if anything is going to happen it will be because I have initiated things. How can I be subtle without making a goof out of myself? And what if I’m getting the wrong signals and he really only wants to be friends?
Yes, I’m clueless!
