advice on affair

[Guest]

 

[incognito]

I was rather hoping for a nuanced and thoughtful way to address the situation.

You really think there's a nuanced and thoughtful way to address breaking your marriage vows and cheating on your wife?

I guess as long as you do what YOU want and as long as YOU'RE happy it doesn't matter who gets hurt or how many lives are ruined. As long as it's YOU who's happy.

Jackass.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Fabulous idea ... fuck your wifes friend.

 

[Harbinger]

My advice is go right ahead and do what you feel like, since once you start playing with the possibility of having an affair you will go ahead and do it anyway, if your wife's friend is willing. Or you could just save yourself time and cut right to the ending:

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Trust me, in about six to twelve months you'll know exactly what I was talking about.

 

[sincerely_helene]

all the responses are black and white....from what i saw, there appear to be only two options (a) divorce, and play (b) don't fuck up, work and save the marriage. No disrespect to y'all, but I was able to figure these two alternatives by myself. I was rather hoping for a nuanced and thoughtful way to address the situation.

The facts remain the same. I love my wife...but I apparently like this this other girl as well - who happens to be my wife's close friend. Firstly, can't a guy like/love two women? I can safely say, Yes. The tricky thing is - a guy is not allowed to have two relationships unless it is open.....else it is cheating.

The interesting questions are:
- What if this girl and I are denying ourselves when we may truly belong to each other?
- And if above does not turn out to be the case, why do I have to jeopardize my marriage and tell my wife BEFORE I find out?
- What if this turns out to be an infatuation...why tell my wife and cause needless hurt?

All I am saying is...there is a middle road where I can explore feelings (maybe not physically) and test how it goes, and then tackle the marriage situation. By having thoughts of another woman, and living with my wife, in itself, is gross injustice to both women, and myself.

Exploring your feelings for someone else behind your wife's back is even worse, not to mention more insulting than fucking around on her.

 

[Guest]

(a) what if I am wrong
(b) dont want to hurt my wife or this girl's husband..genuinely nice chap..

Of course, you're wrong! Remember the vows you said to your wife when you married. Good Lord @ "What if I'm wrong."

 

[mightyquinn2112]

thanks, y'all

Thanks for the candid perspectives...will keep you updated.

 

[bmw1080]

stop being a dick and wanking on here.

If you are gonna - then just go and have your affair.

if not shutup.

 

[MNGuy]

Thanks for the candid perspectives...will keep you updated.

When? Jesus, we give you all this great advice, and you shit on us by not telling up what happened.

 

[fgarvb1]

I am new..and ok, I bet all of you have seen dorks come in and ask advice on this sort of thing all the time...but here I am..and I am going to ask away..

I am married....and for the last 2 years, have had the hots for a good friend of my wife. She (the friend, I mean) likes me too a lot....neither have done anything...but when we all meet together, we find ourselves stealing glances, bump into each other, touch, etc....thing is, I don't know if she just likes me as a friend or wants me....

scared to do anything for two reasons (a) what if I am wrong (b) dont want to hurt my wife or this girl's husband..genuinely nice chap..

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Having lived some of the BS that I have, I'm going to advise you to keep your dick in your pants.

There are so many things that can and will go wrong, but not limited to.

1. Screwing around on your wife will change you and not for the better.

2. The ONLY thing that pisses a woman off more than screwing her best friend is screwing her sister. Either way you are so very fucked.

3.Sometimes best friends of wifes are jealous of their happiness and want to break them up.

4. It could be a test setup by your wife.

5. If she ever gets mad at you or your wife she will have of ammo to screw you two up.

The list goes on and on.

Do NOT fucking do it.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Hire a hooker who looks like your buddy's wife.

 

[foxinsox]

Oh, what tangled webs we weave.

The inherent human trait that compels many of us to knowingly undertake actions where the most likely outcomes are hurt, grief, pain and trouble never fails to baffle and perplex me.

Not judging, just an observation.

 

[Harbinger]

When? Jesus, we give you all this great advice, and you shit on us by not telling up what happened.

I'm sure he's already dead.

 

[MNGuy]

I'm sure he's already dead.

Looks like it.