Advice Needed
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naxalite0906
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Not really.. things are getting quite difficult at the moment to be honest
Not really.. things are getting quite difficult at the moment to be honest
naxalite0906
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Do you think I should introduce her to this site..? She is usually very uptight when it comes to things like this, and she may find it uncomfortable seeing i've seeked advice on here.. If you think I should, how should i approach it?
subwannabe
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I think you answered your own question. She will definetly be ticked if she sees you posted and the responses. I think if you say she is uptight about these kinds of things then she will not appreciate going to this site. On the other hand, you could treat it like a make or break situation. Have her come to the site (make sure she doesn't see your post) and see how she responds. If she reacts negatively she may think you are too much of "freak" for her and your relationship could soon be over, which may wind up being for the best anyway. There is a small chance she may begin to understand where you are coming from but don't hold your breath. All I can tell you is chances are more than likely that her sex drive will continue to decrease to the point of sex is only to have babies. All I can honestly see in your future is a frustrated guy who really cares for this woman and hoped she would eventually "come around", only to wonder for the rest of your life what could have been if you had met someone else. I know some won't agree with me but when giving advice I try my best to be realistic instead of optimistic.
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I don't feel comfortable telling you what you should do. That's probably a decision that you're going to have to make for yourself, since you obviously know your SO better than we do.naxalite0906 said:
I think that Lit can be a good place for couples, but it's not for everybody.
SweetErika
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I think this site can be a great tool to open up communication, learn, and spark libidos, but it doesn't work for everyone. If you want to introduce her to it, I would suggest logging out and clearing cookies, cache, and history in your browser. It seems you've had nothing but the best of intentions in posting here, but she might feel violated if she comes upon your posts.naxalite0906 said:
As for how to actually introduce it, you could suggest exploring/learning together, or that you heard a lot of women enjoy stories and do a google search, or maybe that a friend suggested this site and ask if she wants to check it out. I told my husband I'd found the forums when I was reading stories while he was on a business trip (all true), and then we looked everything over together.
naxalite0906
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SweetErika said:
Great advice once again erika.. thank u so much for trying to help me.. things are both up and down regarding our problems.. id love for her to share this site with me, as well as share wild, naughty and passionate times. Its just a shame her sex drive isnt really there.. We've decided to stop the DEPO and she also decided that losing weight may help so we are on the way to improve things.. She understands my issues completely and we are always talking about it and trying to come up with ways to improve.. I almost mentioned this site to her, but she has never been the one for porn and erotica which is why im dubious to her opinions of this place.. Speaking of which, how many couples can share some experiences and lessons they have learnt by sharing this site together.. and are there any people who have experience of their SO not approving of what they get up to online and on this room?
