give better head?

[hannahbandana]

I need some advice, my current bf says he likes getting head but seems....off put by it when i try it with him.

 

[wildchild24143]

Why dont you come over tonight and ill see what you're doing and perhaps we can help you dial in your technique.

 

[Tanner210]

I need some advice, my current bf says he likes getting head but seems....off put by it when i try it with him.

Hi

 

[NightL]

just ask him

 

[tristantrotsky]

I need some advice, my current bf says he likes getting head but seems....off put by it when i try it with him.

He should consider him fortunate that you want to please him.
I hope that he reciprocates, and that he licks your pussy? It's only fair. That way, you mutually explore each other and find out what you both like the most...

 

[wantonknowledge]

I'd guess this is a matter of personal preference for which you might ask his. However, here's my 2 cents' worth on the matter...

Enthusiasm, Sensual eye-contact, lube (saliva works), all hands on dick, slow but gradually building pace and varied stroke length (fast and deeper near the end), follow-through (keep sucking through orgasm and beyond, but be mindful tip could be overly sensitive after ejaculation, so be gentle)

I hope that helps

I hope he returns the favour

 

[ToPleaseHim]

^^

What he said

Enthusiasm and just wanting to do this goes a long way for most guys. Hands are great, too. Especially if/when your jaw gets tired. Getting lots of spit on board (the wetter and slipperier the better), I love to give him a handjob while matching the tempo with my mouth on his head the the top of his shaft. Moaning and sounds that indicate you are enjoying it will make him very happy, too.

Find what you enjoy doing to him. And ask him what he likes. If you are enjoying it and wanting to do this for him, it will be good.

 

[J_Bone]

Totally agree on the enthusiasm. The quality is always better with a woman who is clearly enjoying giving her partner oral pleasure versus one that is doing so out of a sense of duty or obligation. You can express this through moans or body language, i.e., even touching yourself, and even verbally by telling him in explicit detail how much you love doing this for him.

Another more physical tip I'll give is use your tongue.....A LOT!! Do so externally by sliding it up and down the shaft, lick his balls, swirl it around the head, and especially use it on the frenulum, which feels out of this world. The visual for a guy watching this is also incredible. Also keep an active tongue while he's in your mouth by sliding it front to back or even side to side. One particularly talented partner could get me deep enough in her mouth that she would extend her tongue and lick the front of my balls. Pure bliss. And it helped that she has a super long tongue.

Lastly, the wetter and sloppier, the better. Enjoy!!

 

[Davidishot69]

I agree with the enthusiasm for sure. Maybe let him put a hand on the top of your head so he can guide you. That way he is still in control. Use your hands, on both his shaft and balls, and let him touch you as your sucking him

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

Everything suggested here, and... For me it's such a turn on to hear her moan and groan when she has my cock in her mouth. That's when I know she is enjoying it.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I need some advice, my current bf says he likes getting head but seems....off put by it when i try it with him.

Hey,

Let’s treat this as a legit inquiry.

Have you had other bfs / hook-ups where you went down on the guy? If so, did they complain?

My experience is most guys are so delighted at the thought that a woman wants to blow them that they are not awarding points for artistic impression and technical difficulty.

It is entirely possible that your current bf is a fellatio connoisseur who expects the ultimate BJ each time. Or, more likely, he has some hang-up about the area.

Either way, the only solution is to talk to him. If you can’t talk to him, why are you his gf?

Randoms on the internet are not going to be of much help.

Sorry if you were expecting tips and tricks, you can always read my stories for that .

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Hey,

Let’s treat this as a legit inquiry.

Have you had other bfs / hook-ups where you went down on the guy? If so, did they complain?

My experience is most guys are so delighted at the thought that a woman wants to blow them that they are not awarding points for artistic impression and technical difficulty.

It is entirely possible that your current bf is a fellatio connoisseur who expects the ultimate BJ each time. Or, more likely, he has some hang-up about the area.

Either way, the only solution is to talk to him. If you can’t talk to him, why are you his gf?

Randoms on the internet are not going to be of much help.

Sorry if you were expecting tips and tricks, you can always read my stories for that .

This is literally a forum for people to ask others for “How To” advice. And prior to your reply, several random people have excellent advice and encouragement. Way to throw in the story rec, though; that certainly belongs here.

 

[Britva415]

I need some advice, my current bf says he likes getting head but seems....off put by it when i try it with him.

Hot take:

Start a fight. Make him the bad guy. Complain that you don't feel good about doing it when he acts the way he acts about it. Say you aren't going to anymore until he's willing to help you figure out how he likes it. You aren't a mind reader, ffs.

The make-up sex should turn out to be hot, and whatever inhibitions you both have about communicating around this will be gone.

kidding-notkidding

 

[EmilyMiller]

This is literally a forum for people to ask others for “How To” advice. And prior to your reply, several random people have excellent advice and encouragement. Way to throw in the story rec, though; that certainly belongs here.

Please point out what part of what I said didn’t constitute advice. To be blunt, if a guy expresses dissatisfaction with my ‘performance’ he better be prepared to explain why.

Being told you suck at something (or don’t suck) is hurtful. If it comes from a partner, it is most likely indicative of other problems. Those can only be dealt with by talking.

This is - assumedly - real life, not porn.

I was being ironic about not providing a checklist of how to blow a guy. But I guess that was lost on you.

 

[EmilyMiller]

General comment:

The male responses here are mostly (not exclusively) along the lines of do X, Y, and Z. This is a stereotypical male approach to many problems. It has its place, I’m kinda analytical too.

But I strongly suspect this is not a question of technique. It’s not that hard to give a BJ, you should try it. I think it is at least likely that there is a relationship or personal issue going on.

Sorry to burst people’s bubbles.

 

[tristantrotsky]

General comment:

The male responses here are mostly (not exclusively) along the lines of do X, Y, and Z. This is a stereotypical male approach to many problems. It has its place, I’m kinda analytical too.

But I strongly suspect this is not a question of technique. It’s not that hard to give a BJ, you should try it. I think it is at least likely that there is a relationship or personal issue going on.

Sorry to burst people’s bubbles.

You are entirely correct, Emily.
Loving is always a matter of following your intuition on the spur of the moment, being open and accepting. It is not a competition. No-one is marking you out-of-ten for performance. Do what you enjoy doing. Never feel compelled or pressured to do anything you don't want to do.

 

[EmilyMiller]

You are entirely correct, Emily.
Loving is always a matter of following your intuition on the spur of the moment, being open and accepting. It is not a competition. No-one is marking you out-of-ten for performance. Do what you enjoy doing. Never feel compelled or pressured to do anything you don't want to do.

I’ve given BJs to guys I had no major emotional connection with (yes women have sex with no strings attached too sometimes), and to guys I was either very good friends with or romantically involved with. While it’s generally fun regardless, I know which is the more memorable experience.

It’s not just about the mechanics. The delightful frisson of a man you adore gasping in pleasure because of what you are doing is . And I don’t believe it’s because I have this worldclass technique. It’s pretty obvious what to do and how to do it.

If he winces go more gently. If he moans, keep doing what you are doing. If he says he doesn’t like it, talk to him.

But, hey, what the fuck would a woman know about the subject?

 

[tristantrotsky]

I’ve given BJs to guys I had no major emotional connection with (yes women have sex with no strings attached too sometimes), and to guys I was either very good friends with or romantically involved with. While it’s generally fun regardless, I know which is the more memorable experience.

It’s not just about the mechanics. The delightful frisson of a man you adore gasping in pleasure because of what you are doing is . And I don’t believe it’s because I have this worldclass technique. It’s pretty obvious what to do and how to do it.

If he winces go more gently, if he moans, keep doing what you are doing. If he days he doesn’t like it, talk to him.

But, hey, what the fuck would a woman know about the subject?

Emily, you can mark me for pussy-licking technique, but I'm going to enjoy giving cunnilingus to my female friends whenever I get the opportunity. No matter what, we should always simply enjoy what we do...

 

[EmilyMiller]

While Dr. Miller is in the house…

Sexual technique is kinda overrated (with the possible exception of working with your woman on how to go down on her, sensitivity and what feels nice varies enormously - perfection for one woman is close to unbearable for another - so ask).

Whether or not I’m into you and whether or not I feel safe with you are much better predictors of me having a good time than how many inches you have and the nifty sexual tips you read on a Reddit thread.

Being nice is an aphrodisiac, whatever anyone else might tell you to the contrary.

 

[tristantrotsky]

While Dr. Miller is in the house…

Sexual technique is kinda overrated (with the possible exception of working with your woman on how to go down on her, sensitivity and what feels nice varies enormously - perfection for one woman is close to unbearable for another - so ask).

Whether or not I’m into you and whether or not I feel safe with you are much better predictors of me having a good time than how many inches you have and the nifty sexual tips you read on a Reddit thread.

Being nice is an aphrodisiac, whatever anyone else might tell you to the contrary.

I know there are some women who claim not to enjoy oral sex being performed on them. Perhaps they have simply had bad experiences with clumsy or inconsiderate lovers? Or maybe they are too self-conscious to give themselves up to the pleasure-sensations? Or... perhaps they're simply not wired that way? We are all human. We are all different. There are no universal constants...

 

[EmilyMiller]

I know there are some women who claim not to enjoy oral sex being performed on them. Perhaps they have simply had bad experiences with clumsy or inconsiderate lovers? Or maybe they are too self-conscious to give themselves up to the pleasure-sensations? Or... perhaps they're simply not wired that way? We are all human. We are all different. There are no universal constants...

Entirely true. Mental wiring varies (says the autistic woman) but physical wiring does too. The arrangement of the clitoral-urethral-vaginal (CUV) nerve bundle is not dispersed identically in every woman. It’s no more the same than nose shape or hair color. This results in different physical experiences.

Then add the mental and consider something as divisive as anal sex. Some women say that no woman could enjoy it even slightly, let alone orgasm from it. Some women may not get much from it physically, but enjoy the psychological aspects and seeing their partner enjoy it. Probably the smallest cohort get physical and mental stimulation from it.

The arrangement of nerves and other bodily morphology is one reason. The variety of how our brains interpret stimuli is another. I’ve made no secret of enjoying impact play, I enjoy the physical and psychological. But that doesn’t mean anyone else has to feel the same.

Being human is a rich tapestry of experience. We are all one of a kind.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Some pointers:

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Skin pulled back hard, I envelop. I enfold him in my love and my mouth. Looking up, he knows, he knows what I feel. This. This even more than those hard to say words.

But slower. He's already near the precipice. Let's live on the edge a while. Languid lollipop licks. Tongue tip tracing circles. Tasting myself. Tasting him. Tasting our togetherness. A squeeze creates a short-lived liquid jewel. An inverted image shimmers briefly in its transparency. A darting tongue and it is no more. A foretaste of things to cum.

Now more. Buccal mucosa caressing engorged flesh. Sliding. Gliding. Tongue a smooth groove. Guiding him deeper. Eyes now closed. Concentrating. Focused on sensing each twitch, responding to them.

Then breathe. And manual mode again. Faster than before. His face clenching. Too much. Not yet. Squeezing down low. Letting him pant. He glances at me, eyes wide. He's lost. I'll keep him like that a little longer. Soft kisses on hardness as the wave rolls by without cresting. Now to build the next and bigger wave.

Shifting position. More now. Long, slow, strokes. A new depth plunged with each oscillation. Hand keeping the angle right. Eyes on him again. The final lap. He knows. He's grateful. Tension courses through his body.

A hand now on me. Not to force. No need for that. Another point of contact. Showing me I'm cherished. I'm doing the same. Now sounds from him. Synchronized with each downward thrust. Small sounds. Sighs. Short inhalations. Now moans. Familiar signals.

Vibrations transmitted to me. Morse code warning of a tipping point irrevocably passed. It's now. And I want it to be perfect. His body shifting. Fists clenched as tight as eyes. Rolling. Thrashing. Trying to control the uncontrollable. I feel it. I feel his soaring emotions. His surging sensations.

Now twitching. Now pulsing. Moans become groans become a roar of release. I share. We are one. His fire heats my body too. As his nectar bathes my insides in warmth. A salty, metallic flood that fills my senses as well as my throat.

I'm still. Lips gripped. Cheeks squeezed. A slight vacuum draining him as I calmly breathe through my nose. The earthquake eventually abates. Aftershocks still gift me tiny spurts. Echoes of before. My palate savors his final amuse bouches.

 

[raceryz]

I need some advice, my current bf says he likes getting head but seems....off put by it when i try it with him.

Practice makes perfect. And he should be happy with what he gets.

 

[Aussieguy8]

Personally I've always found that giving my partners a space to play and learn with pointers and moaning at the good stuff has really helped.

Lot of guys shoot themselves in the foot by never letting a woman have that play. Also found a few partners that hated giving head actually loved it when allowed to learn rather than being forced into place and used. Of course some like that latter option but even then, people got to experiment.

 

[LiftsMyBallsForHim]

Does he like when you put your tongue on his balls when he is cumming?