Advice needed

[Arizonashy]

Hi all and sorry for what is probably going to seem like a strange question but here goes

I am a 38 year old woman who has been with only one man my entire life. Years ago he was injured in an accident that left him paralyzed from the neck down. A bit over a year ago he brought up the notion of wanting me to be with other men given that we could never be intimate again.

There’s a bit of a story as to how I ultimately warmed to the idea and opened up to trying it. Fast forward to today and I have a date with an older man who is extremely well hung and I am a nervous wreck.

Could anyone give me advice on how to relax and not embarrass myself with this man?

Thank you!!

 

[Baztrachian]

Alcohol. It's a time tested miracle that soothes the nerves and dulls the inhibitions.

 

[Arizonashy]

Alcohol. It's a time tested miracle that soothes the nerves and dulls the inhibitions.

Ha! You’re probably right about that but I don’t drink.

 

[Baztrachian]

Ha! You’re probably right about that but I don’t drink.

It's for medicinal purposes so technically you're not drinking.

 

[Arizonashy]

It's for medicinal purposes so technically you're not drinking.

Do I need a prescription for it?

 

[SirSparky]

Hi all and sorry for what is probably going to seem like a strange question but here goes

I am a 38 year old woman who has been with only one man my entire life. Years ago he was injured in an accident that left him paralyzed from the neck down. A bit over a year ago he brought up the notion of wanting me to be with other men given that we could never be intimate again.

There’s a bit of a story as to how I ultimately warmed to the idea and opened up to trying it. Fast forward to today and I have a date with an older man who is extremely well hung and I am a nervous wreck.

Could anyone give me advice on how to relax and not embarrass myself with this man?

Thank you!!

I feel your pain.

I had an operation on my spine almost a year ago and affected my legs. Couldn't walk. No intimacy since then

 

[Arizonashy]

I feel your pain.

I had an operation on my spine almost a year ago and affected my legs. Couldn't walk. No intimacy since then

I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s a difficult road for sure, I think the mental toll it took on my husband is something we are still working through

 

[SirSparky]

I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s a difficult road for sure, I think the mental toll it took on my husband is something we are still working through

Yes its definitely a life changing event.

I was lucky it inky aggected my legs and with lots if intense rehab I am now abke tk walk short distances with crutches and a wheelchair for further.

Loving in my lounge as can't walk upstairs. Waiting for a stair lift to be fitted. Haven't slept in my bed since asthma April. 5 months in hospital. I live alone but have a girlfriend

 

[Arizonashy]

UPDATE: we had our date on Saturday and it was amazing in so many ways. So many thoughts running through my head now but admittedly I am still on cloud nine. I’ve never had an experience that powerful both mentally and physically

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

UPDATE: we had our date on Saturday and it was amazing in so many ways. So many thoughts running through my head now but admittedly I am still on cloud nine. I’ve never had an experience that powerful both mentally and physically

Epic. Congratulations.

 

[JC1981]

My advice would just go on the date with no intentions. Except have fun. If something happens great. If so that’s great too. At least you made a new friend. There is less stress when sex is not the ultimate goal. So when it happens it is a happy bonus.

 

[LMWM321]

Why the “extremely well hung” remark? How would you even know such a thing?

Reading that makes me doubt the sincerity of this post.

 

[Arizonashy]

Why the “extremely well hung” remark? How would you even know such a thing?

Reading that makes me doubt the sincerity of this post.

That’s fair. Extremely was probably not necessary. Based on some back and forth with his wife leading up to it she alluded to it but certainly did not need to add that superlative

 

[Not Normal]

UPDATE: we had our date on Saturday and it was amazing in so many ways. So many thoughts running through my head now but admittedly I am still on cloud nine. I’ve never had an experience that powerful both mentally and physically

That's lovely.

 

[hornyjay420]

UPDATE: we had our date on Saturday and it was amazing in so many ways. So many thoughts running through my head now but admittedly I am still on cloud nine. I’ve never had an experience that powerful both mentally and physically

Glad you enjoyed yourself after your worrying. Do you plan on doing it again?

 

[Arizonashy]

Glad you enjoyed yourself after your worrying. Do you plan on doing it again?

I do. His wife is arranging an overnight date for this weekend for he and I actually. We’re discovering this is her way of staying involved and feeling a big part of all of this and it is just so sweet

 

[BrentJW]

I’m sorry for your husbands situation. Under the circumstances, I can understand his acceptance of you having sex with someone else. I can only imagine he would be worried about you leaving him. How have you worked that part out?

 

[Medicalman13152]

I'm truly sorry to learn about your husband's serious injury and his current circumstances.

I have a college friend who became paraplegic after an accident. He also encouraged his wife to pursue intimate relationships with other men. They discussed the matter extensively, diving into all the details together. Eventually, they agreed she could seek out other men and develop intimate connections, provided she kept him informed whenever she met someone new and shared the details afterward.

Since they came to the agreement, she has engaged with several men on an intimate level and enjoyed each one of them for different reasons. The sharing of the details with her husband afterwards has brought them closer.

Clear communication, mutual consent regarding established boundaries, and consistent compliance were essential to the ultimate arrangement.

 

[hornyjay420]

I do. His wife is arranging an overnight date for this weekend for he and I actually. We’re discovering this is her way of staying involved and feeling a big part of all of this and it is just so sweet

Congratulations! You see, you had nothing to worry about. Hopefully you go into this date more relaxed and don't forget to update us! lol