Advice needed...Please help...

[Missingmeds]

Good morning everyone.

Damn ReadyOne. Yes, sweets, I know about safe calls and mine lives really close by and has a key to my place. Thank you for the info and the effort that you put into that.

 

[Beloved]

Damn Readyone...

...sounds like you have more than a little experience with this kind of thing lol.

That's about how I would have done it also, just probablt not as comprehensively. I wouldn't have thought about calling the work and verifing employment or calling the house, but they make sense.

 

[ReadyOne]

Couldn't sleep; brain too active.

But I've gone checking up on people, and there are really alot of things you can cross-check if they will cooperate a little.

And some clues, like their number never showing on your caller-id...

 

[Missingmeds]

I use my caller id and then vertify the number that way. I can also usually do a reverse search on the phone number. Plus find out about your neighbors and talk to them.

But then that is just me.

 

[The JoZ]

Quite honestly, I think the best solution is being as frank as possible in your ads or whatever...put it out there exactly what you're looking for, exactly what you don't do, etc

You may already be doing this, but it just seems like the best solution to me...be firm about people not wasting your time...IE make it known profusely not to bother you if they are going to waste your time, etc



That being said, if you can find your way over here, I won't waste your time

 

[Missingmeds]

The JoZ, I have never failed to be anything but honest in any ad that I have put anywhere. My honesty isn't the issue here.

It how do I tell when someone that answers that ad, that they are being honest in return.

 

[Missingmeds]

Well folks, I guess as you can tell I have busy thinking over the answers that were given and the suggestions. While I am not quite ready to go the Ready One's route yet, I have come up with a few ideas of my own based on the answers that I got from this thread.

One of those ideas is the speaking to the S/O if it is an open marriage. I think that will prevent the sneaking thing and also the number of cancellations due to it not being open and the cold feet problem as well.

The other is to suggest a meeting within the first two to three weeks of initial contact. That way I don't waste my time or someone else's.

Oh and by the way, thanks to everyone for the suggestions and ideas. Don't stop giving them, because we do have people that just read and don't post...