Advice needed: How else can I say I'm sorry?

[Guest]

Today I said something stupid, selfish, and hurtful to someone I love very much. I've spent the better part of the day telling her how truly sorry I am. Despte saying she forgives me and wants to put it behind us, I can tell she's still hurt, and I'm feeling guilty as hell.

Is there anything else I can do?

 

[Guest]

Give her time.
You gave her your apology. She's accepted. Now, she needs to heal and gain back that trust.

Hang in there.

 

[HeavyStick]

gifts... flowers....or even a card. Don't drag it out and don't think you can buy what was temporarily lost due to your stupidity. make her dinner... do something but talk too much. Prove it, for some ladies it goes farther than words. But you know her better than any of us.

 

[intrigued]

It doesn't seem so...the passage of time is what is needed here. I surely hope you are holding her....somewhere....

 

[morninggirl5]

You said something "stupid, selfish, and hurtful" and you expect it to be forgiven and forgotten in less than a day.

Give her time and understand that she needs time to process the entire situation. Your apologies at this point are probably only adding more conflict to the situation. Let her have some time. Apologies are wonderful, but they don't fix the hurt.

You're going to have to prove by your actions that you aren't "stupid, selfish, and hurtful." That will take some time and you're going to have to accept that.


You should also realize that it may never be fixable.

 

[peachykeen]

buy her car. If it doesn't work, buy me a car.