Advice Needed: Female Fantasy

[Whispersecret]

I disagree with Tiggs. I have many fantasies that I would never want to act out. They are just thoughts and images and scenarios that turn me on.

You should discuss it with her and be honest about the fact that male/male isn't something you want to try. Maybe if you just rent videos with that included, she could watch that instead...

 

[John1965]

I trust my fellow Literoticans and need some advice....Just about every time I have sex with my girlfriend she likes to talk about a certain fantasy. It envolves us being with another couple and the usual girl on girl stuff. However, what really get's her off is the idea of me giving and receiving with another male. I'm open sexually but really a totally straight male. Is this just a fantasy or is she really wanting to explore? Have any of you guys tried this and what did you think?

 

[Skibum]

Why not ask her? If it is just a fantasy you have nothing to worry about, and if not, well you still don't have to try something that you don't want to try.

 

[Guest]

never tried it johnboy. doubt I ever will. it'd be far too threatening to my heterosexuality. I reckon if you're straight and you go with another guy you could end up a bit fucked-up by the whole thing. if you think there might be a bi side to you and your girlfriend's into it, then I guess... why not?

I known a few women who fantasise about guys gettin it on together (including my ex-grrrlfriend). I guess for some women it's as much of a turn-on as a guy watching the girl-on-girl thang.

 

[Guest]

John,

Typically when a person fantasizes about something, it is something they really really want to do. (That's why they fantasize about it!) So far I have made all but 1 of my fantasies come true...
Also, I must say, watching two guys go at it is VERY erotic!!!

 

[Guest]

Originally posted by skibum:
Why not ask her? If it is just a fantasy you have nothing to worry about, and if not, well you still don't have to try something that you don't want to try.

 

[Megumi]

I can understand how your girlfriend feels. I think both sexes are beautiful, but I find men so fascinating! That little spark of masculinity is expressed differently in every man- in their jawlines or the shape of their hands, by the roughness of their voices or those little-boy grins- I really enjoy seeing what makes each guy special. For me, the physical act of two men having sex is not as erotic as seeing those sparks that make each guy unique melding together in a passionate moment.

I agree with the other posters though- try to see how she feels and don't get pushed into trying something you feel uncomfortable with. Not being perfectly honest with each other is the quickest way to kill a sexual relationship, IMHO.


[This message has been edited by Megumi (edited 04-13-2000).]