Advice needed Desperately

[SeducingEyes]

I have a question, Ive been after a guy for many months now.. All started with him coming on to me... then tell me he cant cos of guilt, Yet i would go away come back.. he would start coming on to me again.... The flirting go on for few weeks he would lure me into thinking he was very interested only to play same game again..... he cant he feels guilty......... 8 months have passed and back and forth we go.. I wracked my brain to figure him out........ i was at a loss... until someone mentioned he has the traits of a form of sadism.....?????? He reallly doesnt feel guilty but gets off on making me feel guilty and suffer ?

Nothing physical has happened....... between us except some minor touching but after he would run from me...... Play his guilt game again.......

Is this a type of sadism ?

Please help

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Sounds more like he is either unsure of himself, or has someone else hence the guilt, or is just playing a game....

It does not sound like any good kind of sadism to me.

 

[CutieMouse]

I'd define it more as a form of playing games and being a manipulative asshole, but that's just me.

 

[SeducingEyes]

master thanks... well we are both already involved..... but this game he plays i dont get it...........

 

[SeducingEyes]

I'd define it more as a form of playing games and being a manipulative asshole, but that's just me.

LOL GOOD ONE

 

[minx1]

I was in a very similar position years ago. We both had a mutal attraction but he just couldn't cope with the guilt he felt (he was much older than me and also senior at work and knew it would be frowned on).
Like you we just went round and round in circles until it evenyually fizzled out....it was never going to go anywhere.
In this case he wasn't an arse or manipulative...he just couldn't deal with it and his feelings of guilt outweighed his desire to have me

 

[Literotti]

I have a question, Ive been after a guy for many months now.. All started with him coming on to me... then tell me he cant cos of guilt, Yet i would go away come back.. he would start coming on to me again.... The flirting go on for few weeks he would lure me into thinking he was very interested only to play same game again..... he cant he feels guilty......... 8 months have passed and back and forth we go.. I wracked my brain to figure him out........ i was at a loss... until someone mentioned he has the traits of a form of sadism.....?????? He reallly doesnt feel guilty but gets off on making me feel guilty and suffer ?

Nothing physical has happened....... between us except some minor touching but after he would run from me...... Play his guilt game again.......

Is this a type of sadism ?

Please help

Get out of this as fast as you can run. It is a total waste of time and energy to be caught up in such a game.

I had a female friend who was in the same kind of situation. It went on for years until she finally gave up trying to figure the guy out.

 

[blueskies]

I have a question, Ive been after a guy for many months now.. All started with him coming on to me... then tell me he cant cos of guilt, Yet i would go away come back.. he would start coming on to me again.... The flirting go on for few weeks he would lure me into thinking he was very interested only to play same game again..... he cant he feels guilty......... 8 months have passed and back and forth we go.. I wracked my brain to figure him out........ i was at a loss... until someone mentioned he has the traits of a form of sadism.....?????? He reallly doesnt feel guilty but gets off on making me feel guilty and suffer ?

Nothing physical has happened....... between us except some minor touching but after he would run from me...... Play his guilt game again.......

Is this a type of sadism ?

Please help

I think I know this person.. and thanks for the description & name of it... and YES run as fast & as far as you can.. it only produces hurt & a waste of your heart & time..

 

[graceanne]

I'd define it more as a form of playing games and being a manipulative asshole, but that's just me.

Yep. If a woman did this she'd be called a tease.

 

[SeducingEyes]

I appreciate all the advice the sad part of the story is i come from a background of severe abuse and never would trust a guy or open up to them before.... but this guy i decided i would open up...... and this is what i get sigh.. Live and Learn i Guess.....

 

[catalina_francisco]

Do yourself a favour and buy He's Just Not That Into You . As you said, you are after him, and as he has shown, he is not interested. Frankly I don't see anything SM or D/s about it, just a lack of interest on his part, which makes you feel he is a challenge and you need to prove you can get him...you have a choice, waste your time playing games or move on and get a real relationship with real feelings and responsibilities.

Catalina

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I have a question, Ive been after a guy for many months now.. All started with him coming on to me... then tell me he cant cos of guilt, Yet i would go away come back.. he would start coming on to me again.... The flirting go on for few weeks he would lure me into thinking he was very interested only to play same game again..... he cant he feels guilty......... 8 months have passed and back and forth we go.. I wracked my brain to figure him out........ i was at a loss... until someone mentioned he has the traits of a form of sadism.....?????? He reallly doesnt feel guilty but gets off on making me feel guilty and suffer ?

Nothing physical has happened....... between us except some minor touching but after he would run from me...... Play his guilt game again.......

Is this a type of sadism ?

Please help

umm..i'm not reading this as a form of sadism.....are you in a D/s relationship with this person? has he given you any reason to believe that he's doing this to 'humiliate' you in this way.....why on earth would any Dom want to treat their 'property' this way..in my opinion, this is not sadism at all.....and has nothing to do with him being a sadist.....*shrugs* but what do i know? i'm not that experienced......

 

[MoMantum]

I have a question, Ive been after a guy for many months now.. All started with him coming on to me... then tell me he cant cos of guilt, Yet i would go away come back.. he would start coming on to me again.... The flirting go on for few weeks he would lure me into thinking he was very interested only to play same game again..... he cant he feels guilty......... 8 months have passed and back and forth we go.. I wracked my brain to figure him out........ i was at a loss... until someone mentioned he has the traits of a form of sadism.....?????? He reallly doesnt feel guilty but gets off on making me feel guilty and suffer ?

Nothing physical has happened....... between us except some minor touching but after he would run from me...... Play his guilt game again.......

Is this a type of sadism ?

Please help

It all depends. Is it possible he does feel guilty? If so, what is the source? Is he married?