Advice for first visit to a gay bar/club

[MickM469]

Late in life coming out and ready to visit my first gay bar/club. I have one in mind that appears to be more laid back and not as much of a meat market. I am told I am a very attractive guy for my age (late 50s). I am height and weight proportional, basically look like the professional type.

Any thoughts or advice for heading there solo? Or what I should expect?

Thanks in advance for this nervous but curious guys.

 

[Britva415]

It's really an awful lot like any other bar.

You might hear music which is different from what you usually hear. Like most bars where there's music the regulars like but maybe you don't, don't complain about it. The scene is what it is, you aren't going to change it.

The only unusual thing to anticipate is, "what if someone hits on me, and I'm not into it?" One thing you could do if he's being subtle is you play dumb, pretend you don't know he likes you. Or if he's making it obvious, you still play dumb unless he really puts you on the spot.

If he's really coming on strong, you say "no thanks, I'm just here to [whatever you're there for besides getting picked up]." It doesn't have to be unfriendly, just clear.

You'll do fine!

 

[bobbyinhouston]

Don't think that all the guys or girls are are going to treat you like a piece of meat. I was scaredthe first time and did not get hit on at all.,just my luck.