Advice for first visit to a gay bar/club

[MickM469]

Late in life coming out and ready to visit my first gay bar/club. I have one in mind that appears to be more laid back and not as much of a meat market. I am told I am a very attractive guy for my age (late 50s). I am height and weight proportional, basically look like the professional type.

Any thoughts or advice for heading there solo? Or what I should expect?

Thanks in advance for this nervous but curious guys.

 

[Britva415]

It's really an awful lot like any other bar.

You might hear music which is different from what you usually hear. Like most bars where there's music the regulars like but maybe you don't, don't complain about it. The scene is what it is, you aren't going to change it.

The only unusual thing to anticipate is, "what if someone hits on me, and I'm not into it?" One thing you could do if he's being subtle is you play dumb, pretend you don't know he likes you. Or if he's making it obvious, you still play dumb unless he really puts you on the spot.

If he's really coming on strong, you say "no thanks, I'm just here to [whatever you're there for besides getting picked up]." It doesn't have to be unfriendly, just clear.

You'll do fine!

 

[bobbyinhouston]

Don't think that all the guys or girls are are going to treat you like a piece of meat. I was scaredthe first time and did not get hit on at all.,just my luck.

 

[secretthing]

Honestly for your first time, see if you can go on a night where there’s an event happening. Especially a drag performance, if they do those. It’s a lot of fun, and I found that it’s less pressure being there alone.

 

[ShooterMcGavin001]

I’m straight and it’s just like any other bar. Just go and have a great time. I always find it best to go in with no expectation.

 

[Scarred65]

It's just the same/not the same as any bar. I think (I very likely am wrong) that your imagining yourself in a "straight" bar where you would just assume that any male who might talk to you is just shooting the breeze, but as it's a "gay" bar, any male who talks to you wants to fuck you. It's not like that, even when you want it to be.
You'll be ok, don't be nervous and good luck

 

[sandybrooke]

My wife and I where in New Orleans on Bourbon St and it started raining hard. Ran into what we found out was a gay bar.
We had the best time with all the "guys" singing show tunes and drinking. So, relax and enjoy!!