advice backfiring

[Silverluna]

*grumble grumble* AAARRRRGGHHH!!!
someone wanted advice...so ok i gave some....and what do you know?? it blew up in their fucking face...i feel responsible....and they are pissy....grrr

 

[Starfish]

Sweetie, was the advice solicited from you?

If so, they didn't have to take your advice. They didn't have to take your advice even if you just shoved it in their face, but really....

We are ultimatly the only ones responsible for the actions and choices we make, not others.


You should be concerned about your friend and their problem, and you should care enough to give advice, so just be sure to realize that you are not a bad person because of this, or that you should not feel you can't give advice now.



I hope this gets better fast.

 

[Silverluna]

thank you dear....she was worried about commiting herself to the relationship with this guy...i said go for it cause he seemed to be all that and a bag of chips ya know? And now she's heartbroken...i think i mostly feel bad for telling her to do it....

 

[HeavyStick]

hmmm not like you told her to buy a car.

the guy could have with held so much info that she couldn't have known to to relay to you as advice.

I've been there .... it's a tricky path to walk...

 

[oceanbaby28]

thank you dear....she was worried about commiting herself to the relationship with this guy...i said go for it cause he seemed to be all that and a bag of chips ya know? And now she's heartbroken...i think i mostly feel bad for telling her to do it....

Advice is just that... a suggestion of another option. You weren't TELLING her what to do. Ultimately she still had the option of doing what her own heart and mind wanted to.

I know you feel bad now, but you were being a caring friend. Hopefully she will understand and see that too.

Good Luck...

Hugs

 

[MNGuy]

If you gave her the best advice based on what you knew, then you did your best for her, you can't ask for anything more.

If she had never tried to have a relationship with this guy, then who know if she might have missed out on a great relationship.

That's life, you make the best decision you can based on what you know, then live with the consequences, good or bad.

 

[Starfish]

I am sorry your friend got her heart broken. I know what you mean now. You just feel bad in general.

We all get our hearts broken. It is sad, but many people are fake. We have to keep dredging along the river till we find a fish that is the real deal.

Good luck to your friend.