Adulterous Husbands

[SexyChele]

We have a category here at Lit called "Loving Wives" which has confused many, yet most of the stories contained in that category deal with wives who are having sex with other men, either with their husband's approval or without. Also, on other sites, a very common category is "Cheating Wives" or "Slut Wives" or some such thing. I also know that many have these types of fantasies, though I'm a bit confused as to whether they want to be the husband or the man/men fucking another man's wife.

Well, why not stories about hubbys who do the same thing? I'm sure there are probably stories out there (when was the last time a person conceived of an original plot?), but I don't find many of them. I'm talking of a husband who has an affair on his wife, or a brief encounter. Is this "too much reality" for most readers? Is it a turn off to readers? Would women identify with the wife? Or would they identify with the "other woman"?

I'm really feeling lead to write a story along this theme, and would appreciate any feedback from people who might be interested in reading something like this, or if people have written stories such as this and the feedback they received.

 

[Lovelynice]

I'm in the sympathise with the "other woman" group, having had that experience. It would be nice to read a story like you're suggesting, with the secret flirtations, the naughty wilder things that could happen, and perhaps even a nice happy ending.

 

[SexyChele]

Thank you, Lovelynice. I see the story as being told from the POV of the "other woman", so sympathy would probably be in her corner. Or maybe not. I have also considered writing this from a man's perspective and see what that brings about.

 

[Guest]

This idea is one that has filled my mind often.

One idea was of a husband's one night encounter actually "helping" his "troubled" marriage. In this idea, the couple seems to be an average 30s to 40s middle class couple with children, a mortgage, two cars, yada yada. Their sex life has gone downhill, somewhat, since they've had children. (Being only 25 and not married I can't speak from experience in this area, but only of what I've observed.)

I was thinking of going into the emotional aspects of the man. His thoughts, his feelings, what leads up to the one night stand, etc. and, after it happens the man has a renued respect (and romantic love) for his wife. Perhaps out of guilt(?) he begins to wine and dine his wife like when they were courting. Their sex life improves, etc.


Another idea I had was something along the lines of The Scarlet Letter. I was trying to think up new ways to write it so that it wouldn't be a direct copy of Hawthorne's work. Why not write it about an unfaithful husband? Perhaps it's set in Puritan America and the man must wear a scarlet "A" just as Hester had?

Maybe he got a woman pregnant so she, too, is shunned by the colony? She could have been single or married too?


Another take of The Scarlet Letter idea could involve Pearl's life after she's grown up. She is married. Would it be "poetic justice" that the product of adultry is cheated on by her own husband? Could she be made to suffer for what her parents had done?

 

[SexyChele]

Re: This idea is one that has filled my mind often.

One idea was of a husband's one night encounter actually "helping" his "troubled" marriage. In this idea, the couple seems to be an average 30s to 40s middle class couple with children, a mortgage, two cars, yada yada. Their sex life has gone downhill, somewhat, since they've had children. (Being only 25 and not married I can't speak from experience in this area, but only of what I've observed.)

I was thinking of going into the emotional aspects of the man. His thoughts, his feelings, what leads up to the one night stand, etc. and, after it happens the man has a renued respect (and romantic love) for his wife. Perhaps out of guilt(?) he begins to wine and dine his wife like when they were courting. Their sex life improves, etc.


Another idea I had was something along the lines of The Scarlet Letter. I was trying to think up new ways to write it so that it wouldn't be a direct copy of Hawthorne's work. Why not write it about an unfaithful husband? Perhaps it's set in Puritan America and the man must wear a scarlet "A" just as Hester had?

Maybe he got a woman pregnant so she, too, is shunned by the colony? She could have been single or married too?


Another take of The Scarlet Letter idea could involve Pearl's life after she's grown up. She is married. Would it be "poetic justice" that the product of adultry is cheated on by her own husband? Could she be made to suffer for what her parents had done?

I was only going to respond to a couple of things, then decided I find it all interesting!

I hadn't thought of the scenario you present about the cheating hubby, in regards to how an affair would affect his marriage. Interesting idea, though! If we were to both write differing versions it could prove interesting!

I'm really glad you brought up the Scarlet Letter as well. There are so many possibilities with this one. I like the "turnabout" idea very much. Also, I think it might be interesting to explore Arthur Dimsdale's decline and how he manages (or not) his troubled mind.

But I think the most interesting aspect is Pearl. I had always thought Nathaniel Hawthorne could have written a sequel regarding her. Even though sequels weren't really done in those days. She is presented as somewhat of a mysterious little girl, very much removed from the Puritan lifestyle around her. A story about her as an adult is one I know I would like to read!

 

[pop_54]

Hi

I've always wondered why the woman always seems to be classed as the cheat, the slut or whatever in stories and story classifications. Surely almost all women who have an affair do so with another 'married' man, so is he not cheating on his wife.

Whenever I write in a cheating woman, I almost always have the husband cheat as well, either as a kinky thing with both knowing of each other's affairs, or as secret behind each other's back affairs. Often I have written the husbands cheating first, and the wife retaliating later.

Sounds OK to me, go ahead and write it, I think there will be interest.


pops.............

 

[cherrylips_au]

Sexy chele I think this is a great idea.

You have lots of ideas running through my head at the moment.

Are you suggesting a new catergory or just submitting under the loving wives but as a reversed story loving men?

I always think it's interesting to hear why married men have affairs, one that sticks in my head was that he had been a good husband so he deserved it.

Blessedbe great ideas about the scarlet letter.

 

[SexyChele]

Re: Hi

I've always wondered why the woman always seems to be classed as the cheat, the slut or whatever in stories and story classifications. Surely almost all women who have an affair do so with another 'married' man, so is he not cheating on his wife.

<snip>

Sounds OK to me, go ahead and write it, I think there will be interest.


pops.............

Yes, I've always wondered the same thing! The only thing I can think of is that when one thinks or looks at the typical "soccor mom" in real life, it's almost impossible to imagine her in a situation where she simply gives herself over to lust. Also, as I stated, I'm certain if men who have this fantasy are also voyeurs in that they like the thought of watching their wives? Or are they imagining themselves in the position of using another man's wife - like the forbidden fruit type of thing. It's something that baffles me at times.

Thank you, pops! The story will get written, I have too much of a need to write it to not follow through.

 

[BlackSnake]

I like the idea. I'm thinking that more men cheat on their wives than wives cheat on their husbands. From the other woman POV, she is waiting for the next opportunity to be with the man she is in love with, while he is at home in bed with his wife.

It would be nice to see the wife finding out about the affair, but instead of confronting him with it, she explore her own desires and turn him away when he begins to notice her again.

 

[SexyChele]

Sexy chele I think this is a great idea.

You have lots of ideas running through my head at the moment.

Are you suggesting a new catergory or just submitting under the loving wives but as a reversed story loving men?

I always think it's interesting to hear why married men have affairs, one that sticks in my head was that he had been a good husband so he deserved it.

Blessedbe great ideas about the scarlet letter.

Thank you! Yes, I have almost too many ideas at the moment! I've actually had to develop a story ideas outline to keep them all straight!

No, I would not suggest another category. I can just hear all of the Survivor candidates groaning out there! I don't know if there would be enough interest to make a new category, anyway. I'm not certain where I would place it - probably in the Erotic Couplings category, never to be seen after 3 days!

I've unwittingly become involved with married men, and once I've discovered their secret I've always tried to understand exactly why they did what they did. Some shared, some wouldn't. (Not that there has been that many!) I would use the reasonings they've given me in the past within story, hopefully, to allow people to see how these types of things can develop. And I would not single out any one person as being right or wrong, if that is even possible.

So, I guess it is off to the writing board for me!

 

[Guest]

No, I would not suggest another category. I can just hear all of the Survivor candidates groaning out there! I don't know if there would be enough interest to make a new category, anyway.

Usually Laurel needs "proof" that it's worth it... (As in a flood of "cheating husband" stories coming to her at one time.)

 

[Dirt Man]

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...

One of the reasons that there aren't that many stories about cheating husbands is the fact that there aren't very many wives who want to be married to one, let alone read about that kind of man. After all, the woman bears the children from their husband's loins, then ends up bearing the household load of work as well as bringing up the children she bore. Women feel that if they can give up their youth for the husbands pleasure the least the bastard can do is be faithful after their tits, and ass start to sag a bit from child bearing.

Okay, with that said, probably the biggest reason is that more husbands cheat than wives. And let's face it, generally speaking, it takes more to seduce a woman into bed, than it does to seduce a man into bed. In fact, quite often women aren't that surprised to hear that somebody's husband cheated on his wife as much as they would if the wife cheated on him. So what makes the cheating wife more interesting is what I call the BS factor. I've been around for a while, and believe me when I say that most married women are capable of cutting off their husband's family jewels if they caught him cheating on them. Where as many men actually fantasize about their wives in bed with another man, even if they wouldn't really want it to happen. So basically women want what they can't get at home, and men just want all they can get from the onset of puberty. As Billy Crystal said: "Women just have to show up to get laid, men have to work at it."

As Always
I Am the
Dirt Man

 

[TrinaT]

Very good subject. A product of two ex-husbands that cheated, it can be a painful experience from the wife's point of view...hence the term "a woman scorned."

Husband no. 1 loved to play the field, he would have been much better off with a harem, LOL. Spent 7 years with him. Husband no. 2 didn't care who or what came across his path (was with him for almost 10 and still to this day I can't figure out why I was attracted to him in the first place). Neither had any complaints about our intimate lives, they just wanted more and in the real world, it wasn't in my personality to share them, so I gave them up to the lives they chose.

I'm currently working on a novelette along this story line and hope to finish in the very near future. Its not along a vengeful line but more along the line of the wife after finding out about the husband's escapades trying some of her own.

Forever,

Trina T.

 

[SexyChele]

Re: Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...

One of the reasons that there aren't that many stories about cheating husbands is the fact that there aren't very many wives who want to be married to one, let alone read about that kind of man. After all, the woman bears the children from their husband's loins, then ends up bearing the household load of work as well as bringing up the children she bore. Women feel that if they can give up their youth for the husbands pleasure the least the bastard can do is be faithful after their tits, and ass start to sag a bit from child bearing.

This is interesting, as statistics show that something like 70% of all married men cheat at one time during their marriage. That would mean there are a whole lot of women who are married to men who cheat - and they normally stay married to them.

I can see your point, though. It is a bit more of realism than perhaps some might want to read about. However, I just feel the need to write the story. Whether it gets posted here or at my web site will be determined later, I suppose.

Thanks for your insight!

 

[SexyChele]

Very good subject. A product of two ex-husbands that cheated, it can be a painful experience from the wife's point of view...hence the term "a woman scorned."

Husband no. 1 loved to play the field, he would have been much better off with a harem, LOL. Spent 7 years with him. Husband no. 2 didn't care who or what came across his path (was with him for almost 10 and still to this day I can't figure out why I was attracted to him in the first place). Neither had any complaints about our intimate lives, they just wanted more and in the real world, it wasn't in my personality to share them, so I gave them up to the lives they chose.

I'm currently working on a novelette along this story line and hope to finish in the very near future. Its not along a vengeful line but more along the line of the wife after finding out about the husband's escapades trying some of her own.

Forever,

Trina T.

Having been the "other woman" unwittingly a couple of times, I would write the story from her perspective. Yes, it might be said the wife is "the woman scorned". However, normally, men seldom leave their wives for other women. Usually it is the wife who gets fed up and divorces him. And even then, he seldom goes to the "other woman"! So, while I would agree that the wife gets hurt, she normally retains her marriage (or the facade of it, anyway) and her life. The "other woman", if she was unaware of the marital situation of the man, typically has shock, grief, anger, sadness, and embarassment to deal with, along with trust issues. I think both women are hurt, sometimes very painfully. (although, in the cases of your ex-husbands, it sounds as though there may have been more than just one)

I personally think it would be interesting to read from both perspectives. I just wonder if men might consider this "male bashing".

*sigh* Oh well - can't please everyone, eh?

 

[Dirt Man]

Male Bashing has been going on since...

I personally think it would be interesting to read from both perspectives. I just wonder if men might consider this "male bashing".

*sigh* Oh well - can't please everyone, eh?

Ever since the TV show "Father Knows Best," went off the air men have been getting bashed. After all, who could ever be as good a father, or husband as Robert Taylor was on that show.
Watch any sit-com, and the adult male from puberty on up gets bashed.

As more and more women got into the media in positions to make themselves heard men have been getting the brunt of their own past abuses towards women thrown back in their faces in the media. You won't see women bashed that way on TV because there would be such an upheaval that the show would be canceled within a week.

Personally, I've always thought of it as evening out the battle of the sexes, but it is getting way out of hand. Men aren't better than women, and women aren't better than men, they're just different due to plumbing, body fat, and muscle mass, and therefore think along different lines of thought. Is either line of thought superior? No.

When put together in a positive environment both thought processes can do wonders, achieve miracles. Put in an environment of hostile intent against each other only results in subtrefuge, and war. And thus the Battle of the sexes continues senselessly even here amongst intelligent authors who should, and do know better.

But this too is life, and if art copies reality we need to keep that in mind when writing our stories. So go ahead and bash away, we're used to it by now. LOL


As Always
I Am the
Dirt Man