Cheating but not cheating?

[PapaRomantic]

This may stretch the limits of plausibility. But then it's Literotica, so here we go.

A couple loves each other so much that they never have any desire to hurt each other by cheating with other people. But they have a strong desire to experience cheating, since they both have friends who love being a cheater and talk about how the sex is so much better when you're having it with someone you're not supposed to be with.

So they devise a plan. They are going to legally separate - even to the point where they are going to live apart. They still communicate with each other, mostly through texting and emails, and their love remains strong for each other. But they both start to date, and eventually, both get a chance to have sex with their new partners.

Both keep talking to their new partners about how important they feel it is to stay friends with their separated spouse, but it gets to the point that the new partners make an ultimatum - either they stop all communication with their separated husband or wife OR they will lose their new relationship partners.

That sets up what they've been hoping for. With the ultimatum in place, the former husband and wife start having an affair with each other - they actually get to have cheating sex with each other and they LOVE the excitement of it!

The easy way to end this story is to get back together as husband and wife once they got to experience cheating. But there are messy ways this could end - either the husband or wife find they have developed very close feelings with their new partner and aren't sure they want to go back to their spouse. I know there are other possibilities as well.

I'm not going to write this, so have at it if you want to. But I'm curious to know how this story would end if you were going to write it. What would you change about the parts I've already laid out?

 

[Carnevil9]

Very interesting idea, thanks for sharing it.

I like happy endings, and I also like symmetry. So if I were writing it, I would have the new partners fall in love with each other somehow, and after some uncomfortable interludes, they become one big happy fucking Quadrouple.

 

[SteelPoint]

There's an inherent fault to this storyline, namely the excitement or 'taboo' inherent in doing something illicit is totally lost when it's a cosy, 'known about' and accepted arrangement.

Why? Because it's not cheating. It really isn't. If someone gives permission to take something belonging to them, it's not stealing. Ask any lawyer.

Plausibility is not being stretched here. Logic is... and beyond breaking point.

 

[Britva415]

it's not cheating

What about from the point of view of the new partners?

Just because this couple is cheating with each other doesn't mean they aren't each cheating on someone else.

 

[Rob_Royale]

My second lover as a young man was Jeannie who was in an unusual relationship. 35 to his 45, they married after two years and then divorced two years later but stayed together. They had talked about opening their marriage but thought it could get sticky. No pun intended. So they divorced and life went on. She seduced me after I helped them move into a new home, none the wiser. She swore the whole arrangement felt like cheating especially after she hired me to work at her business so we could have sex anytime.

 

[liliput1]

What about from the point of view of the new partners?

Just because this couple is cheating with each other doesn't mean they aren't each cheating on someone else.

There's an argument I've seen made many times that one of the draws of bedroom roleplaying is that you both get to pretend to be or be with someone else without actually crossing a line.

 

[liliput1]

Open relationship and roleplaying would scratch the same itches harder with less blowback.

 

[miska_darling]

Cheating implies deception. Cheating would be a mindset and intent where they sneak something or try to deceive their partner… cheating isn’t exclusively sexual A fraudster would be a cheater.

Nor is a simple ‘action’ means it’s cheating.

Feels like they more decided to explore ethical non-monogamy or swinging. Basically swingers having sex with other people aren’t cheating because there’s knowledge and consent.

In that scenario, the only people being cheated are the new partners because they are deceived and manipulated. The original partners are not cheating each others, they’re scamming the trust of other people.

 

[PapaRomantic]

In that scenario, the only people being cheated are the new partners because they are deceived and manipulated. The original partners are not cheating each others, they’re scamming the trust of other people.

Yes, they needed someone to cheat on since they didn't want to be cheated on, and the new partners filled that bill. The new partners were the ones being cheated on, so the husband and wife could experience what it was like to be a cheater but not cheating on each other. That's been the intent all along. I thought that would be clear, but I guess I didn't describe it very well.

 

[Britva415]

I thought that would be clear, but I guess I didn't describe it very well.

It’s weird, some of us totally got it, others totally didn’t.

I think people see what they want to see, sometimes.

 

[MikeXIrons]

I think it would be plausible for a couple to separate... and start seeing other people.

Either it was amicable, and they stay in touch, or there’s a reason they HAVE to stay in touch (for the kids? in business together?) So, they find themselves meeting up for lunch, dinner, drinks, whatever and start to reconcile a little, but also at some point the chit chat starts to include dating updates.

“I have to postpone tonight… can we get together tomorrow?"
“Oh, got a big date?"
“Yeah, actually."
“Well, you’ll have to tell me all about it tomorrow!"
“Really? That’d be weird, wouldn’t it?"

One or both of them find they are more turned on by hearing their (former) partner’s dating updates than they were by their partner. Maybe they reconcile and get back together, but, one or both of them now have a side relationship going that they don’t want to give up? Or, they originally split because one of them cheated, and what they learned was that, as painful as that was, they can survive it if they are honest about it after the fact.

I suppose that’s just a scenario leading to an open relationship, not so much “cheating but not cheating”.