Admiration of Women over 40

[SlickTony]

Ok, I'll bite. I turned 56 on Monday, btw.

I would like to drop 50 or so pounds, but I wish there was some way that I could do it without having to be conscious of the fact that I was trying to do it, because deprivation, hunger, calorie counting and all that goes with trying to lose weight are boring, boring, boring. I've always thought it would be interesting to do it in the course of something strenuous where you don't even have time to think about yourself. I heard of a woman who crossed the Atlantic single-handed in a sailboat and when she reached the other side, she'd lost like, 3 dress sizes.

OTOH, I work with this woman who's 4 years younger than I am, and I practically fell over when I found this out because I'd assumed she was older. A lot of it has to do with the type of skin you get issued with, I guess, but I'd rather keep the weight than get all turkey-necked like she is.

At least I was going to attach a picture, but I keep getting told it's too large and I don't know how to reduce it. For some reason, there's some kind of photo editing software on every computer in the house but the one I'm using

Let's see if this works:Me in Jamaica

 

[rgraham666]

Oooo. Nice. What gorgeous eyes you've got. Love the hair too.

 

[impressive]

OTOH, I work with this woman who's 4 years younger than I am, and I practically fell over when I found this out because I'd assumed she was older. A lot of it has to do with the type of skin you get issued with, I guess, but I'd rather keep the weight than get all turkey-necked like she is.

That's the danger of losing weight when older (as I learned the hard way). I told a friend that I think we should gain a pound a year beginning at 40 just to iron out the wrinkles.

I love your picture! Don't you just love Jamaica & the laid-back atmosphere? My hair was too short to braid when I was there, so I just let those lovely women rub cocoa butter all over me instead.

 

[gauchecritic]

Strength is probably a word that covers many of the attractive things about women (for me) and it transfers easily between intellect, mind and body.

The strength of a body also divides easily between physical and endurance. There is little difference between carrying a 50lb load and carrying 100 half pound loads which is how I define physical strength versus endurance.

Having said that it seems the most distinguishing feature of women compared to men is endurance. Childbirth/rearing, longevity, pain etc. Is there a song about the 'strength of a woman'?

Edited to add: it was slick's pic that initiated that musing.

 

[Brute_Force]

Sisters are doing it for Themselves

Now there was a time when they used to say
That behind every - "great man."
There had to be a - "great woman."
But in these times of change you know
That it's no longer true.
So we're comin' out of the kitchen
'Cause there's somethin' we forgot to say to you (we say)

Sisters are doin' it for themselves.
Standin' on their own two feet.
And ringin' on their own bells.
Sisters are doin' it for themselves.

Now this is a song to celebrate
The conscious liberation of the female state!
Mothers - daughters and their daughters too.
Woman to woman
We're singin' with you.
The "inferior sex" got a new exterior
We got doctors, lawyers, politicians too.
Everybody - take a look around.
Can you see - can you see - can you see
There's a woman right next to you.

Now we ain't makin' stories
And we ain't layin' plans
'Cause a man still loves a woman
And a woman still loves a man
(Just a same though)

Aretha Franklin

 

[Guest]

Strength is probably a word that covers many of the attractive things about women (for me) and it transfers easily between intellect, mind and body.

The strength of a body also divides easily between physical and endurance. There is little difference between carrying a 50lb load and carrying 100 half pound loads which is how I define physical strength versus endurance.

Having said that it seems the most distinguishing feature of women compared to men is endurance. Childbirth/rearing, longevity, pain etc. Is there a song about the 'strength of a woman'?

Edited to add: it was slick's pic that initiated that musing.

i love that you said this.

one thing that i have noticed with each passing year is a sense of patience that i never used to have. strength plays a part in that...strength of will. a few years ago, i would have railed with impudent rage with the situations i have been in...now? well, its more of a wait and see.
work two, three jobs and time will tell.

i look to the future as a vacation. today, i'll work and care for the family. in the future, i'll be able to sit back and care for me - if i care to.

did that make a whole hell of a lot of sense?

saturday morning rambles.

 

[Brute_Force]

I was just channel-surfing this a.m. and happened upon "Unfaithful," starring Diane Lane on TNT. I paused to enjoy her beauty, her face, her eyes. I just gazed at the expressions trembling beneath the surface of her face and was quite taken with her. She's 40-something and for me, she perfectly encapsulates a lot of what we've been talking about regarding the appeal of older women. The eyes suggest a kind of yearning, yet knowing sensibility. The tiny lines around the eyes, and the hint of a faint scar beside her right eye, suggest experiences that have etched themselves slightly onto the skin. Those faint traces of past pains, of desires unfulfilled, move me so much more than the overly tight abs and highly-developed pecs of 20-somethings.

 

[tickledkitty]

I was just channel-surfing this a.m. and happened upon "Unfaithful," starring Diane Lane on TNT. I paused to enjoy her beauty, her face, her eyes. I just gazed at the expressions trembling beneath the surface of her face and was quite taken with her. She's 40-something and for me, she perfectly encapsulates a lot of what we've been talking about regarding the appeal of older women. The eyes suggest a kind of yearning, yet knowing sensibility. The tiny lines around the eyes, and the hint of a faint scar beside her right eye, suggest experiences that have etched themselves slightly onto the skin. Those faint traces of past pains, of desires unfulfilled, move me so much more than the overly tight abs and highly-developed pecs of 20-somethings.

That movie speaks to me on a number of levels, the strongest being a sort of kinship with Diane Lane's character. It makes me uncomfortable, but whenever it's on, I'll watch.

 

[Brute_Force]

That movie speaks to me on a number of levels, the strongest being a sort of kinship with Diane Lane's character. It makes me uncomfortable, but whenever it's on, I'll watch.

I love what you said. She is a character of such depth and eroticism. (And, I may be getting a bit of a crush on you, Miss TickledKitty. )

 

[Stella_Omega]

I just watched her at 19-- in "Cotton Club" and she plays against Gere in that one too. Nice.

 

[Brute_Force]

A few nice photos of Ms. Lane.

http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/pic/MMPH/C55542~Diane-Lane-Posters.jpg

http://jsmagic.net/americanlane/img0.jpg


She makes me go all weak at the knees.

 

[Chantilyvamp]

stella when i turn 40 I'll take the challenge as long as I get up the balls enough to do it. Fir now I'm happy to see whos lap I keep sitting in and wiggling on

 

[Stella_Omega]

stella when i turn 40 I'll take the challenge as long as I get up the balls enough to do it. Fir now I'm happy to see whos lap I keep sitting in and wiggling on

Here, let me get my hand under you-- just to keep you steady, you know

 

[Chantilyvamp]

Here, let me get my hand under you-- just to keep you steady, you know

and nice pillows to rest on as well. Ok I've gone over the wall today so I probably need to hide before I get in trouble

 

[SlickTony]

That's the danger of losing weight when older (as I learned the hard way). I told a friend that I think we should gain a pound a year beginning at 40 just to iron out the wrinkles.

I love your picture! Don't you just love Jamaica & the laid-back atmosphere? My hair was too short to braid when I was there, so I just let those lovely women rub cocoa butter all over me instead.

If I had to live in a third world country again, I think I'd pick Jamaica. I just loved it there. I know, intellectually, that all the Jamaicans I met were at their most charming and on their best behavior because they were getting paid good wages to be that way, and that they are no doubt prone to worry about bills and taxes and trying to keep up like everyone else when they're on their own time, but still, it seems like a happy place.

My husband has three criteria for a place to be good to live in:

1. There must be an ocean
2. There must be NO SNOW
3. They must know how to season their food.

Jamaica qualifies on all three counts. Plus, rum, ganja and no Islam. While I was at the resort I met the most interesting woman--she was tall and slim and looked good in a bikini at 42, even though she was rather craggy-faced. She was married to an Islander type although he looked more Polynesian than Jamaican. I didn't meet him. She had two darling kids--their names were Keanu and Shakira. On the last day we spoke for the last time, and that was when I found out that she and her family live just a few miles down the road from the resort and come up there as day-trippers. I wonder how they make their living.

The building trades must be going great guns--I saw condos and new resorts going up everywhere I looked, and on the smaller, private residences, that hallmark of third world optimism: extra-long rebar sticking up from the flat roofs, just in case they get up the scratch to add another story.

 

[lisa123414]

Wow, Mistress Lynn and Slicktony -
You are both beautiful! I am in awe of you both for your courage and confidence. Nearest thing I can think of is I went skinny dipping last week in broad daylight - of course there was no one around! Self image is a funny thing, I have lots of pictures of myself, but none of them look as good as I know I look!

 

[SlickTony]

I used to spend one weekend a year camping in Blackwater River State Forest with this nice bunch of people. We set up a sweat tent--heat-proof pvc pipe and plastic--and sat naked in it until we couldn't stand the heat anymore, and then we'd dash out and plunge into a creek with 70-degree water. The first time I went, I hadn't planned to skinny-dip, but then I changed my mind. It was a very liberating experience.

 

[impressive]

I used to spend one weekend a year camping in Blackwater River State Forest with this nice bunch of people. We set up a sweat tent--heat-proof pvc pipe and plastic--and sat naked in it until we couldn't stand the heat anymore, and then we'd dash out and plunge into a creek with 70-degree water. The first time I went, I hadn't planned to skinny-dip, but then I changed my mind. It was a very liberating experience.

Blackwater River in West Virginia? I Blackwater Falls.



As for Jamaica, until I visited Costa Rica, I would've agreed with you re 3rd world countries. I prefer Costa Rica now. There's far less simmering resentment from the locals toward the tourists, IMO.

 

[SlickTony]

Blackwater River in West Virginia? I Blackwater Falls.



As for Jamaica, until I visited Costa Rica, I would've agreed with you re 3rd world countries. I prefer Costa Rica now. There's far less simmering resentment from the locals toward the tourists, IMO.

This was Blackwater River in Florida. It's pretty country--all woods and a coldwater creek running through it. Our camping was quite primitive--we shat in the woods and bathed in the creek.

I didn't perceive any resentment from the locals, but we didn't go far outside the resort, and everyone was on their best behavior. I've heard that Kingston can be problematic that way.

Tonight I had a small tattoo put on my back, just below the top vertebra. This is the third time I've been in the studio I got it from, and so far, I'm the only one my age I've seen. People are always walking in to inquire about tattoos and they're all kids.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I just watched "Stranger than Fiction" on DVD. Maggie Gyllenhaal is adorable-- but Emma Thompson knocked me out. She was doing a Peter O'Toole character; earnest, slovenly, driven, louche.

 

[perfect_deb]

There are many sexy women over 40 on the AH. You know who you are.

I'm going to pay homage through the weekend to them all, by sporting as my AV a recent photo of Elle MacPherson. This photo was taken of her recently. She is 43!

She has always been a woman-from-another-planet. It remained July of 1986 according to my Sports Illustrated Calendar, for several years.

i have always admired Isabella Rossellini - 55yo

when Lancome dropped her and started using some brain dead 15yo i stopped using it

 

[ghost_girl]

ah hell, Im 44 and I will show you my 44 year old butt. The pic is 8 months old, Ive lost about 20 lbs since it was taken and if I had my camera, well, Im a masochist, lol

don't be mean

 

[impressive]

ah hell, Im 44 and I will show you my 44 year old butt. The pic is 8 months old, Ive lost about 20 lbs since it was taken and if I had my camera, well, Im a masochist, lol

don't be mean

*gulp* Mean????

 

[rgraham666]

ah hell, Im 44 and I will show you my 44 year old butt. The pic is 8 months old, Ive lost about 20 lbs since it was taken and if I had my camera, well, Im a masochist, lol

don't be mean

That's a very spankable ass.

I mean a beautiful ass.

 

[Boxlicker101]

ah hell, Im 44 and I will show you my 44 year old butt. The pic is 8 months old, Ive lost about 20 lbs since it was taken and if I had my camera, well, Im a masochist, lol

don't be mean

Why should anybody be mean? That is a very pattable or fondleable ass. My George Boxlicker character would drool over it.