Abuse: is there such a thing in the 'lifestyle'?

[Felonious1]

Conscorn is now part of my vocabulary forever, thank you KoPilot

ETA: ah, now I see where you're coming from.

I'm thinking newbie, really. That absolute certainty that comes from a lack of practical experience... Most of us PYL types can probably remember those days...

The bump was meant in the right spirit. Hoping to bring something of substance to the top vs the run-of-the mill " how do I make my partner into something they're not " threads that continually surface.

After a decade of such unrealistic, dead end discussions......it becomes quite redundant. ( yes, I've been around that long )

Felonious

 

[Niceandbrutal]

maybe my idea of abuse is different than others, but i'm shocked at how many people say it's ok for their Dom to 'abuse' them because they have a TPE. i was abused for 10 years in a 'nilla relationship and i'm talking being punched in the face, things thrown at my head, one night beaten so bad that i could not see straight, all out of anger. is it really ok for your Dom to do these things simply because "He's Master"? lashing out in anger and becoming down right violent and beating you so badly you cannot see straight is ok? simply because "He's Master"? i guess i just don't understand that this concept at all....obviously i understand that different things work for different people and what works for me may not work for you, but wow, abuse is abuse is abuse....i would think...

a few also said that in their relationship there would be no such thing as abuse, is this true for almost everyone? do we as pyl's have the right to stand up for ourselves when we feel we've been 'abused'? or should we sit back and take it because they know what's best for us, and after all we did give up 'power' to them. i'm just curious about other peoples ideas on this and i'm not trying to start a fight, just a discussion, honest, i just want to see what everyone has to say on this issue......

Just chiming in with my opinion, though I'm sure this has been said already: Any form of violence that is non-consensual and/or cannot be stopped by a safety word is, in my eyes, abuse.

 

[Ekevin]

If He does that he is not a master. True Masters have self control!

 

[Stella_Omega]

If He does that he is not a master. True Masters have self control!

True Scotsmen never put sugar on their porridge.