Abstainance

[fenghuang]

Have you ever chosen to completely abstain from sex, either when with or without an SO? No fucking, no masturbating, no porn.
How long did it last and what effect did it have on you (personally, not any SO) both physically and psychologically?

 

[fgarvb1]

Have you ever chosen to completely abstain from sex, either when with or without an SO? No fucking, no masturbating, no porn.
How long did it last and what effect did it have on you (personally, not any SO) both physically and psychologically?

Not by my choice no.

 

[BertrandRussell]

It was the most horrible 3 hours of my life.

 

[Ouroborus]

I'm 30 and have never had sex. I'm embarrassed by that, but there it is.

I have only recently started doing things on my own on a regular basis, but I have done some stuff in the past but never regularly. I actually even sometimes would have an orgasm in my sleep every so often all through my early 20s.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Have you ever chosen to completely abstain from sex, either when with or without an SO? No fucking, no masturbating, no porn.
How long did it last and what effect did it have on you (personally, not any SO) both physically and psychologically?

The duration and effects would depend on the reasoning behind the celibacy. IMHO, celibacy does not include abstinence from masturbation or porn, just physical intimacy with others.

I chose celibacy after a particularly bad relationship. I used the time to reevaluate that relationship and previous relationships to figure out the fatal flaw that was common to all of them. Besides gaining self confidence from the experience, it allowed me to interact socially with women without succumbing to sometimes strong sexual attraction/pressure or beer goggle syndrome.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Without going into extensive background on the hows and whys of it (it's complicated, but then again, when is it not?), at this point in time I am celibate, by consent, but not completely voluntarily. I could, if I so chose, go out and have sex with anyone I wanted. However, I have no interest in that because that's not how I roll, so for the time being, celibacy is what's happening for my partner and I as a dyad. This, however, does not include abstaining from porn or masturbation--that would be a complete deal-breaker in an already unpleasantly tense situation.

 

[The Gimp]

I could, if I so chose, go out and have sex with anyone I wanted. However, I have no interest in that because that's not how I roll, so for the time being, celibacy is what's happening for my partner and I as a dyad.

I do not believe you. If you would have said that you were in a committed but troubled relationship and chose abstinence rather than cheating on your spouse then that would be reasonable. I just don't think that it is realistic to suggest that someone who has both a membership at literotica.com and a partner who was willing to have sex at will chooses not to, because that's not how they roll. That's comparable to a member of the hamburger fan club claiming that they don't eat red meat.

 

[fgarvb1]

Without going into extensive background on the hows and whys of it (it's complicated, but then again, when is it not?), at this point in time I am celibate, by consent, but not completely voluntarily. I could, if I so chose, go out and have sex with anyone I wanted. However, I have no interest in that because that's not how I roll, so for the time being, celibacy is what's happening for my partner and I as a dyad. This, however, does not include abstaining from porn or masturbation--that would be a complete deal-breaker in an already unpleasantly tense situation.

dyad?

As in...Two items of the same kind?


HUH?

 

[mentionME]

dyad?

As in...Two items of the same kind?


HUH?

Main Entry: dy·ad
Variant(s): also di·ad \ˈdī-ˌad, -əd\
Function: noun
1 : two individuals (as husband and wife) maintaining a sociologically significant relationship

source: http://www.merriam-webster.com/medical/dyad

GREAT USE OF THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE! (completely over my head i had to look it up as well)

 

[operaBaritone]

I was entirely abstinent, starting at... lets say 13 because then it's reasonable to go from... 7 years. This was because of religious repression which I can go into more depth about if someone wants to know, but that's the gist of it.

 

[Ouroborus]

sounds a little familiar, operaBaritone

 

[Elocin925]

The only time i refrain from everything is when i work long hours and even then I want some... I love eating pussy!

 

[viper2000]

1 year without any of it and I did by choice to see if I could and its effects on me. At first its hard not wanting to and so fourth but after a while was great I was so much more productive and alot more energy and I already have alot as it is. I found once I stopped and got into a relationship that my sex drive is not as much as it was and its taken time to build up a bit more.

 

[TheRealFATANG]

That's comparable to a member of the hamburger fan club claiming that they don't eat red meat.

Methinks I'm going to use this quote in real life, somehow, it's epic.

If you are going to go abstinent, I think I see one upside, you will have more disposable income...

 

[justdamhorny]

Well, I've been married over 20 years. At first we had sex like most newly married couples. It could happen 2 times a day or we could go a week and only do it once. Our marriage had rough times but we stayed together.
After about 10 years, we were down to sex about 1 time a month but she would masturbate me and let me please her too almost when ever we wanted to.
As of two years ago she has stopped wanting sex at all. In the last 6 months she won't even let me touch her and she won't touch me in a sexual way. We still hug and kiss but that is all. Her doctor says things are fine but I don't really buy that.
I am left to my own devices as far as my needs go and she knows I pleasure myself many times a week. I don't think she really cares any more.

So, I guess I am celibate but not by choice. I waited till I was engaged before I had sex the first time and I am really mad that I missed all those chances just to end up in a marriage with no sex.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

i once went a year w/o sex, by accident/stupidity/lack of self confidence but masturbated like 10 times a day, so guess that doesn't really count... i can't imagine life without literotica

 

[Mobri]

I agree that it depends on the motivation behind abstaining.

I did abstain from every form of sexual activity, including masturbation, when I was in my teens and heavily involved at my church. I felt a heavy guilt regarding masturbation and had been trying to stop for some time when I finally pulled the trigger and went cold turkey.

It took three months of great effort before the urges began to subside and I could think straight again. I didn't act on a single impulse for the better part of a year, and I found that I thought of sex less. Since I was intensely horny and having zero sex, I considered that a relief. I did notice an increase in the frequency of wet dreams, however.

At some point I thought I would do it for old time's sake, and was immediately hooked again. I swear, it's as bad as cigarettes. Or as bad as I'd imagine they are, since I've never smoked.